Alienated?

[teanoranges]

I feel alienated from a lot of my friends. I love them all and love spending time with them, but I also have a need to have my 'alone' time.

 

In the past, I kept a lot of distance from people because I was very sensitive.

Now, I attempt to keep up contact and go out of my way to talk to people without worrying if they'll ignore me or think I'm dumb (I sort of think unconventional, so its not always a typical time)

I hear about the things that go on without me and the way my friends talk to each other and I sometimes feel really left out.

almost like I don't matter.

 

I'm curious if maybe I'm overreacting or how I can handle these feelings.

I miss having people close to me and laughing with...

now I sort of feel like I'm forcing myself into their lives and I'm backing off because of that feeling.

but I could be overreacting and setting myself up to alienate myself.

 

anyone have similar circumstances?

[stillafool]

I know how you feel. I use to be a loner before I married. I think it is a good quality that you have no problem being alone as so many people can't even go to the mailbox without a cellphone to their ear.

 

I would suggest having one good friend you can hang out with and build your own group from there. I always noticed that some groups of women who constantly hang out seem more 'clickish' and sometimes enjoy making others feel like outsiders when around them. Try to meet friends who have the same mindset as you.

[Not the love ace]

I am in the same exact boat my friend.

 

However, its good that you have that loner quality because like the person above said. That means you're strong and can handle being by yourself because people these days can't be alone for a split second.

 

Don't worry to much about being intrusive unless they say so. Enjoy having friends, make your presence felt and be about of the crowd. Trust me, its an awesome feeling to know that you're wanted and people want to hang with you. Don't think too much about intruding their space but at the same time its good to keep your distance, especially if you feel things might get a little catty.