sean1 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 hey agen guys. erm ryt well 2 the point. i got finished a month ago now. i am in my happy place again. i still miss my ex but love her....no..certainly not. the thing is..i have got myself drawn to a very old school friend. shes really nyc and sweet but shes never really been with a guy. weve spoke alot over the past month. she read a fb status and decided to talk to me for the first time in like 5 years the thing is...i really like her...and i dont want to hurt her with a rebound! she likes me and gave me her phone number straight up. i am like the only guy ever she has give her phone number out to. she is always afraid shell get hurt wif guys. i maybe would want something between us and shes expressed how she really likes a certain restauraunt and what food she has. with valentines coming up such a good time to drop it! basically i dont think i could commit yet....a month after a 11month relationship still seems all a bit wierd...i dunno tho. cos i do like her... just a tad bit confusing!! any scenrios people have had like this? any words of advice? at end of day i dont want to hurt her! but i dont want to scare her off! CHEERS!
Odyssey Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 ...basically i dont think i could commit yet....a month after a 11month relationship still seems all a bit wierd...i dunno tho. cos i do like her... just a tad bit confusing!! ...at end of day i dont want to hurt her!Sounds like you've already answered your own question - doesn't seem like you're ready.
Author sean1 Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 i do want to go out with her though. not a fully committing relationship but then i know shel fink im using her as a rebound! but i wudnt mynd commiting eventualy! just how to do this.....thats wer im confused. how can u let a girl down but then still keep her intersted....and not think im like the ova guys cos im realy not! i dnt want to use her...but i wud lyk 2 b wif her....hmmm
GrayClouds Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 i do want to go out with her though. not a fully committing relationship but then i know shel fink im using her as a rebound! but i wudnt mynd commiting eventualy! just how to do this.....thats wer im confused. how can u let a girl down but then still keep her intersted....and not think im like the ova guys cos im realy not! i dnt want to use her...but i wud lyk 2 b wif her....hmmm Do not make it harder then it is. Just tell her the truth, that the idea of goingout with her is really appealing but she desirve someone who is not still healing that is ready to give themselves to a relationship. That you realize saying this mean you may never get the opportunity but if chance when your done doing the work you need to do she will be first on your list. You do not know when that will be and she should not wait. She deserves a whole person. At best keep in touch with the occational email. If it meant to be she be there when your really ready. PS have you been drinking? Your spelling tonight is as dyslexic as mine always is:eek:
sedgwick Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Please no text-speak (or whatever that is!) Makes it very hard to decipher...
Author sean1 Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 haha. no drinking just habbit of typing in the text speak! doesnt help with the damn spacebar being broke! just makes me be lazy typer! i understand what you mean. its wrong to string someone along where they could find the chance to meet someone they love! maybe a few more months and ill be happy to give it ago if shes still interested!
GrayClouds Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 haha. no drinking just habbit of typing in the text speak! doesnt help with the damn spacebar being broke! just makes me be lazy typer! i understand what you mean. its wrong to string someone along where they could find the chance to meet someone they love! maybe a few more months and ill be happy to give it ago if shes still interested! Yep that old saying is still true "Treat others as you would wanted to be treated." Shows class and dignity.
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