ditched Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 im not ready to give up hope. ive been NC for the majority of our eight months apart. tho she did actually call me three weeks ago. i probably shouldn't send flowers...right?
sunrae Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 ditched, I dont know your story... But dont send her flowers!!!! A call a few weeks ago doesnt warrent flowers....
CaliGuy Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Why on earth would you lavish love and gifts on someone that walked away from you? It's like giving the dog a treat for pooping on the carpet...sheesh.
bluewolf17 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Ditched.. Don't know if this will help..but.. After I broke up with my ex of almost 4 years..he would send me flowers on my birthday, Christmas, etc. While I still cared for him, I didn't love him. The flowers just reminded me that he wasn't over me, and it made me feel guilty. But it didn't make me love him again. You can't do anything to change how she feels. She has to love you and want you back. I'm truly sorry. Don't send her anything. Try and do something on Valentines to get your mind off her. Best of luck.
Ms. Joolie Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Flowers after NC for eight months? Creepy. Flowers after one phone call in eight months? Funny.
sunrae Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 ditched I have a great idea,,, If you want to throw away $50 bucks, you can always drop a crisp $50 in the mail to me.... My address is 123 Heartbreak Lane, Anywhere, USA 99999
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 You know, my stbx called me today, nice and friendly. We handled a few divorce related items and I predicted her agenda would get around to wanting something. It did. Ah, the old times. Makes me want to send flowers.
Sadbutrelieved Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 im not ready to give up hope. ive been NC for the majority of our eight months apart. tho she did actually call me three weeks ago. i probably shouldn't send flowers...right? Don't send flowers, not even dead ones!
Author ditched Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 thanks everyone. i needed the tough love. When i get sentimental my judgement can get a bit impaired, as i'm sure most of you know. I knew i could count on you guys.
xpaperxcutx Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Don't send her flowers. IF anything, buy your you and your closest friends chocolate. At least your friends will thank you for the present.
jlr Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 (edited) Well, let me give you some advice based on first hand experience - don't send the flowers. My ex broke up with me in October 2008, and around January '09 we started talking again - well, or should I say she started using me - so I decided to send her flowers Instead of being flattered, she said I was being selfish by sending them. She cried and said that I wasn't thinking of her. Even though, I did it as a nice gesture. I knew she'd be alone on Valentines ('09) and I wanted her to know that despite all, there was someone out there that loved her. Of course, while she was mad about it. She still kept talking to me, stringing me along for another couple months - using me for emotional and, well, physical support - until she found some other chump. In the end, she obviously didn't feel the same anymore, and was just keeping me as a security blanket, using me until she was strong enough to ditch me (of course, she's popped up off and on since, but that's a whole nother thread). Point being, the flowers didn't help. If anything they made it worse. She was using me and never liked it when I "pressured" her by expressing my feelings. If she broke up with you and barely has spoken to you in 8 months, flowers aren't going to help. If anything, they'll push her even further than she already is. She'll see you as a sad sack, pining over. And while it seems like people would want someone who cares about them that much, it seems there's lots who don't. Save the money, buy someone in your life that appreciates you a present - a friend, your mom, your sister, whatever. I wish I had. Edited February 11, 2010 by jlr
McGrupp Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 After I broke up with my ex of almost 4 years..he would send me flowers on my birthday, Christmas, etc. While I still cared for him, I didn't love him. The flowers just reminded me that he wasn't over me, and it made me feel guilty. But it didn't make me love him again. You can't do anything to change how she feels. She has to love you and want you back. I'm truly sorry. Don't send her anything. Try and do something on Valentines to get your mind off her. Best of luck. this^ hurts when i read that too, because im sure my ex feels the same way if i sent her anything. makes me want to punch her in the face kinda.
skydiveaddict Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 im not ready to give up hope. ive been NC for the majority of our eight months apart. tho she did actually call me three weeks ago. i probably shouldn't send flowers...right? NO WAY If you want to send here something , send her a dozen dead rose stems with nothing but the thorns on them. Or , depending on where you live, go to a patch of weeds and pull up a dozen thistles. She might enjoy those too
sean1970 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Why on earth would you lavish love and gifts on someone that walked away from you? It's like giving the dog a treat for pooping on the carpet...sheesh. So are you saying, if he does buy her flowers, he should grab her by her collar, drag her to the flowers, rub her face in them, all the while saying, "Bad ex girlfriend... BAD!!!"
Chitowngirl Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Flowers after NC for eight months? Creepy. Flowers after one phone call in eight months? Funny. LOL:D my thought exactly
DenverBachelor Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 I wouldn't subject any type of flower to my ex.
now_what Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Nope, don't send the flowers. Save your money.
DenverBachelor Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Or send those flowers to your mother. She brought you into the world. She bundled you up in a jacket when you were cold. She gave you a roof and food to eat as a kid. My how we forget the most important people in our lives and chase after those least deserving of our attention.
sunrae Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Or send those flowers to your mother. She brought you into the world. She bundled you up in a jacket when you were cold. She gave you a roof and food to eat as a kid. My how we forget the most important people in our lives and chase after those least deserving of our attention. Great point DB, it's so true... (ordering flowers for mom now)
mmk1 Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Absolutely not! It will look creepy, desperate and pathetic all rolled into one. NOT the road you want to go down.
Author ditched Posted February 12, 2010 Author Posted February 12, 2010 (edited) its all good. I definately won't. I just keep getting bombarded by the overabundance of Valentine's ads on these stupid internets, and suddenly found myself considering this terrible idea. Well thankfully i clicked on LS and posted this instead of clicking and ordering flowers. im gonna make myself a big breakfast and buy a bottle of wine for the evening instead. but...in a celebratory way, not a sulking way. Edited February 12, 2010 by ditched poor grammar.
nobmagnet Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 OH FOR FIVE MINUTES!! saves swearing! Darling........stop! save you hard earnt pennies and spend them on a more deserving cause...........YOU!!!! thats my plan, im off out having a slap up meal, dance me socks off and sleep in sunday! got me best buddy round we are gonna wear faulse eyelashes and nails and nice hair and faulse titties cus we is small. hello we are gonna have a blast! pretend we are gay when a liitle boy chats me up (grannie grabbing) and laugh all night! wish you were nearer darling! GIN??? haa haa Nobby xx
Author ditched Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 weird. she totally texted me yesterday. fml.
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