hisprincess41407 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 So my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me about 3 months ago and I am still in love with him. He broke up with me after cheating on me for 2 months with his ex-girlfriend and they got together and were "in love" but after maybe a month they broke up and she got back with her ex (they have a very similar relationship to ours). I want him back but he doesn't want me at all. I know that he doesn't miss me because I have been unable to leave him alone so I am trying NC now for at least a month because everyone who knows us thinks he will come back (they all think I shouldn't take him back but that he will come back) but I have to stop talking to him first or else he'll never have anything to miss.. does this seem like it could work/a better idea than continuing to talk to him everyday? Please help!
rand0m Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 In somewhat of the same situation. My ex left after 5 years. I think she's super stressed and unsure about what's going on between us. All of our friends think she's making a huge mistake, and that one day she will realize it, but they also aren't sure if I should take her back if/when that day comes. Stick to NC, not only for your own personal advancement/healing, but to show that you respect yourself, are strong, and have control over your emotions. If he doesn't come around, then he doesn't deserve you. - I try to tell myself this everytime I feel an urge to contact my ex.
jen_r Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I dunno if NC will bring him back. I haven't stopped bugging my bf since he broke it off with me last week. So, he hasn't had any time to miss me. But my theory, as whacked as it is, is that I have nothing to lose. If I txt him or not, it still seems to be over.
USMCHokie Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I dunno if NC will bring him back. I haven't stopped bugging my bf since he broke it off with me last week. So, he hasn't had any time to miss me. But my theory, as whacked as it is, is that I have nothing to lose. If I txt him or not, it still seems to be over. You do have something to lose...every time you break NC or think about breaking NC, you are losing any progress you make in healing and moving on...whether it's truly over or not, it won't be "over" for you until you accept that NC is the right way to go...NC isn't meant to bring him back, but for you to move forward...
sean1 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 You do have something to lose...every time you break NC or think about breaking NC, you are losing any progress you make in healing and moving on...whether it's truly over or not, it won't be "over" for you until you accept that NC is the right way to go...NC isn't meant to bring him back, but for you to move forward... THIS COULDNT BE MORE TRUE! i decided to pesture my ex gf all the time. i fort ill show her just what she means to me. ill make her feel like she made a mistake. 3 weeks down the line. still depressed and lonely. it made her want to go out more and piss me off! last saturday i finally let go. since then i bin gym signed for footy team bin out with m8s and life couldnt be any better! LET GO. N/C MOVE ON! ITS FINISHED! sorry to be blunt but hell dont get yourself depressed!
sunrae Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 . (they all think I shouldn't take him back ) Listen to your friends... Dont take him back.. They love and care for you, he didnt. Leave him in the past. He cheated on you... I understand 100% that its hard to leave someone in the past that you have loved, but he didnt love you back the way you deserve to be loved...
GrayClouds Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I think the good news is he is gone for good. The bad news is he may come back for while until he finds another tail to cheat on you with. So do you want this to ge good news or bad news? If good new then go NC do not waver, focus on your self to build some confidence and self esteem so you will never be the type of women who would want someone who treated you so poorly in their lives. If you want bad news then call him up for a booty call some night you know he has been drinking. This wil give your life endless drama and help keep distrutive people in you life to reinforce how little you think of your self. I am really hoping you pick good news, your worth good news.
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