alphamale Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 What does "quality chick" mean to you? any woman with a pulse
Author Itzonator Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 any woman with a pulse Don't just use one word, be more specific?
Ms. Joolie Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Giving you the keys for the house, isn't a form of invitation? At least the one he understands to bring up about. Is it possible that psychologically something's stopping you from doing it? You are looking for approval here, which is fine, but since you got the keys ... The best way to end this is to ask. I'm not so pushy as to inquire about why he gave me the key, even though it would help to be so direct. hmmm. And he's just that indirect about things, too. He would give me the key and expect me to figure it out. You are right about something psychologically stopping me. You are so good. Yes, there are things holding me back from feeling/thinking it's okay to move in with him right now. There only these thoughts causing some sort of blockage then. I see now that moving in with him and living together should be the goal for us. I need that picture in my mind now, need to say yes to that, need to let go of all my no's, all my doubts, worries and insecurities. Something like that. Main thing is to focus on what I do want and let go of what I don't want.
Author Itzonator Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I'm not so pushy as to inquire about why he gave me the key, even though it would help to be so direct. hmmm. And he's just that indirect about things, too. He would give me the key and expect me to figure it out. You are right about something psychologically stopping me. You are so good. Yes, there are things holding me back from feeling/thinking it's okay to move in with him right now. There only these thoughts causing some sort of blockage then. I see now that moving in with him and living together should be the goal for us. I need that picture in my mind now, need to say yes to that, need to let go of all my no's, all my doubts, worries and insecurities. Something like that. Main thing is to focus on what I do want and let go of what I don't want. Exactly! I am guessing these random thoughts that pop-up in your mind all the time, is actually your inner voice. The inner voice is your biggest enemy, in my opinion. When you begin to hear these destructive messages, you will begin to understand why you felt so powerless, so fearful in facing the fact the both of you should be living together. If this feels the right thing to do at the moment, make a commitment to yourself to do it. The only person that is stopping or preventing you from doing it, is YOU. He gave you the key. Just have a conversation with him about this, just ask.
thegreatmoose Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I'm not sure how to order these. 1) something is wrong, but she won't tell me what 2) she stops contacting me without an explanation 3) she plays games such as being *extremely* hard to reach
counterman Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Ok great ... wow that's awesome! So you have the answer ... but only in your head. For all of them, what are the action steps you need to do to get the outcome you want? The reason why you are doing this is to COMMIT to yourself to make it happen. Well, I will have daily commitments, follow my own interests, exercise regularly and basically have a routine with a bit of variety here and there to keep me going. That's my first step - to have something solid in my life. The second step will be to just to meet new people. This will help me build confidence, work on my conversational skills and make new friends (without the intention of dating). It is more natural and relaxed, so I am planning to take this approach when I do start to date again. Third step is dating - asking a girl out and getting to know her. I think I have learnt a lot from my past experience so, I'll really get to know her and we'll see how it goes. I'll see if she is really interested in me or a bit reluctant. That's all I have so far.
minniezz Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 1. Doubts 2. Do you like her ? 3. Does she like you ? 4. Did she really get over her last relationship and ready to move on or just to get a rebound boy ? 5. How far this will go ?
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