Chitowngirl Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Have you done it? Good idea or bad? I'm interested in a man who says his divorce will be final in 2 months. I know all the drama that goes with divorce so I don't really want to be a part of it. I told him tonight I don't want to meet him until his divorce is final (We found each other on a dating site and he lives across the country). He says his wife lives on the other side of the country and they've been separated for 2 yrs. I've heard a lot of horror stories about long distance relationships via the internet, especially when a man is "separated"...so what do you all think?
soulm8 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 We found each other on a dating site and he lives across the country. He says his wife lives on the other side of the country and they've been separated for 2 yrs. I've heard a lot of horror stories about long distance relationships via the internet, especially when a man is "separated" I've done it (locally) but lost interest after a few dates. Based on what you've shared here, I can't help but think you can do much better???! There's too many negatives right off the bat...
mcpexa Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Have you done it? Good idea or bad? I'm interested in a man who says his divorce will be final in 2 months. I know all the drama that goes with divorce so I don't really want to be a part of it. I told him tonight I don't want to meet him until his divorce is final (We found each other on a dating site and he lives across the country). He says his wife lives on the other side of the country and they've been separated for 2 yrs. I've heard a lot of horror stories about long distance relationships via the internet, especially when a man is "separated"...so what do you all think? I'm not going to tell you NOT to go for it, only my experience. I've been with a man who swore he was getting a divorce. 4+ years later, he's still not divorced and I recently ended things because of it. It's been excruciatingly difficult because we fell in love and had a lovely relationship...up until I began putting the pressure on him to finalize it. He continued to tell me "he's working on it" but actions speak louder than words, and his "work" never paid off. I began putting the pressure on him because I wondered if marriage was ever in our future...guess not. If he comes back to me as a divorced man, and i'm available...we can talk. My advice is...wait until it is finalized. Good luck to you!
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 RUN. I highly doubt this guy is actually separated, let alone about to divorce in 2 months. Anyway, IF it IS true, tell him to come ask you out on a date with the papers in hand. Because it's a dating site, can you confirm anything he's told you? More than likely not, so don't put alot of energy into this guy.
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I always have my divorce papers in my computer bag to remind me why I fly OP, as a separated man, I would counsel you to move on from this particular encounter. Now, if he's willing to fly out for a meeting and show you that cool funny ink the court puts on the filed divorce documents, including the case number, I'll re-think my advice. The lady whom I'm seeing doesn't appear to be bothered. She lives 40 minutes away. Big difference.
Author Chitowngirl Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Thank you everyone. I told him I wanted to wait until his divorce was final.
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