soulm8 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 "It's not your duty to hang around and wait for other people to come around, you're an Alpha woman really and they are not supposed to wait for Beta males, hehe, go get yerself some good times..." That's what one of my all time best friends told me a few months ago and I never really gave it much thought until now. It just struck me this afternoon that a dear male friend (in his early 50s) had called me an alpha or beta... so I searched for the email to confirm it. All this time I thought I was a beta, but I'm actually an alpha. Very interesting. Definitely explains some of my extreme characteristics: - I despise wussy/clingy behaviour - I cheer on/defend/help the underdog - I'm comfortable conversing with anyone and go out of my way to do so! - I'm assertive as hell and very protective of myself - My sense of humour can be very sarcastic and silly - I grew up a tomboy and didn't really embrace my femininity til I became a Mother weird! - I've always related better with guys than girls It also explains why I'm most drawn to alpha males. Maybe now that I know I'm not beta I can stop spinnin my wheels, improve my "game" and actually find me a mate! Do you agree that like attracts like? It's all around us... any thoughts?
Disillusioned Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I agree. I was never brainwashed with that alpha-beta stuff (I leave that to the kind of people who accept that book about Body Language as gospel), but I'm more of a "coach" personality. I don't get along at all with people who don't want to be helped, or who I have nothing in common with. I never cared for submissive women, and I'm neither a control freak nor a masochist. Also, I'm one of the few people who doesn't think stupidity is funny or cute. BTW I try to ease up with my sense of humor... it's too dark and zany for most other people's tastes. But, observing 40 years of human foibles has a way of doing that to a person.
Author soulm8 Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I was never brainwashed with that alpha-beta stuff (I leave that to the kind of people who accept that book about Body Language as gospel), but I'm more of a "coach" personality. I know what you mean. I've found the most rewarding relationships for me have been where I have the opportunity to be a coach and a student... give and take... growing. I like how this website explains alpha-beta... and I appreciate her coaching style. The whole alpha-beta thing makes sense to me because I tend to attract beta males and I am tired of helping them keep my attraction. I recently had my heart broken by an alpha and loved how effortless it was to lust for him! I never cared for submissive women Any specific traits you can point out that repel you? I googled "submissive women" and found the following statement (from this article) is very much along the lines of how I operate as an alpha female: Women, know this: your power is not in submission; your power is in your resilient spirit, in your joyful heart, in your intelligence, and in your soul as a woman. Your power is in your sense of accomplishment and the benefit you bring to your family, your community and the world. Do not ever let a man convince you to submit to him because he demands it or because he feels it is his rightful position in your life. Surrendering your power and self to the control of men unconditionally will damage and possibly destroy the very essence of your spirit, the very thing that makes you the strong, confident and wonderful woman that you are. I try to ease up with my sense of humor... it's too dark and zany for most other people's tastes. It drives me crazy when someone I'm interested in or involved with doesn't quite "get" my humor. I end up feeling misunderstood and that kills attraction!
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