greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 A friend of mine was telling me this true story. She is doing online dating because she has no potential mates. So she's been talking to this guy for a few months and they met. She liked him and he liked her. There's only one problem: he let it slip that his exgirlfriend is suing him for child support. Long story short, she got pregnant while dating and he dumped her. Never saw the baby or anything. He claims he was trapped. He then let it be known to my friend that he doesn't wear condoms and he'd do the same thing to her. He considers himself childless. I told her to run like hell from him. I'd never date a guy with this attitude.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 (edited) A friend of mine was telling me this true story. She is doing online dating because she has no potential mates. So she's been talking to this guy for a few months and they met. She liked him and he liked her. There's only one problem: he let it slip that his exgirlfriend is suing him for child support. Long story short, she got pregnant while dating and he dumped her. Never saw the baby or anything. He claims he was trapped. He then let it be known to my friend that he doesn't wear condoms and he'd do the same thing to her. He considers himself childless. I told her to run like hell from him. I'd never date a guy with this attitude. Solution - meet the guy face to face. Hear it from this guys mouth; watch him face to face - at his place or yours, where the two can discuss privately. No texting, no instant messenger, no electronic communications, no he said - she said, rumors that a friends friend said. Ask him to name names. What is this girlfriends name? When did this happen? Why did this happen? How much is she suing? What is his plan moving forward? See how this man handles the adversity. Edited February 11, 2010 by You'reasian
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 No, I'm not interested in him, my friend Julie is. She has met him and that's exactly what he said. I'll have to ask her, but he didn't say how much.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 No, I'm not interested in him, my friend Julie is. She has met him and that's exactly what he said. I'll have to ask her, but he didn't say how much. Again, Julie should meet this guy face to face at his place (or hers) and talk it out with him. Get a picture of them hugging on the couch as proof rather than a he said, she said kinda thing lol
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 He told her all of this in person. At least he was honest. This was on the second date. Incidentally, the guy I am seeing (long time friend) has told me that if I get pregnant, we'd marry. This is why we are putting off sex for awhile. I believe he'd do this and not abandon. But he's not the other guy.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 (edited) He told her all of this in person. At least he was honest. This was on the second date. Incidentally, the guy I am seeing (long time friend) has told me that if I get pregnant, we'd marry. This is why we are putting off sex for awhile. I believe he'd do this and not abandon. But he's not the other guy. Ok. If two people are going to have unprotected sex and potentially have children, then its up to them to plan for how they are going to move forward with the pregnancy - and abandoning the girlfriend is the absolute worst option, demonstrates the lowest level of responsibility - but the woman should not be trapping the guy. Edited February 11, 2010 by You'reasian
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I think it's the worst thing too. That's why I told her to ditch him because he'll do the same to her. I once lived with a guy and I skipped my period. He told me that if I was pregnant that he'd either pay for half of the abortion or would abandon me. As it turned out I wasn't pregnant and I ended up breaking up with him. Guys like this never change.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I think it's the worst thing too. That's why I told her to ditch him because he'll do the same to her. I once lived with a guy and I skipped my period. He told me that if I was pregnant that he'd either pay for half of the abortion or would abandon me. As it turned out I wasn't pregnant and I ended up breaking up with him. Guys like this never change. How do you and your friend keep ending up with these kinds of guys?
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 How do you and your friend keep ending up with these kinds of guys? That guy I met at a bar when I used to bartend. The guy my friend met through Match I think. I'd never date these type of guys now. I think it's terrible when a woman traps a man. I'd never do that.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 A friend of mine was telling me this true story. She is doing online dating because she has no potential mates. So she's been talking to this guy for a few months and they met. She liked him and he liked her. There's only one problem: he let it slip that his exgirlfriend is suing him for child support. Long story short, she got pregnant while dating and he dumped her. Never saw the baby or anything. He claims he was trapped. He then let it be known to my friend that he doesn't wear condoms and he'd do the same thing to her. He considers himself childless. I told her to run like hell from him. I'd never date a guy with this attitude. Suppose the information that she is telling you is a lie? Obviously, the child shares genetics with the father, which could be confirmed through a simple test. Even worse, what if she doesn't even have a child...
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 She could be lying, but I can't imagine her telling me that unless it's true. It's just disturbing that people think like that.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 She could be lying, but I can't imagine her telling me that unless it's true. It's just disturbing that people think like that. She may or may not be - Devil's advocate.
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I mean it's disturbing people think like him.
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 There are a lot of disturbing people out there. The trick is to believe them when they appear disturbed and act appropriately on that information
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I mean it's disturbing people think like him. I agree. The two of them created a life together, they're human adults, so they should take responsibility for it. And with regards to your friend, a genetic test can confirm whether he's the father or not - seems kinda important since she's suing him for child support. If he is, then he is certainly responsible for helping take care of the child.
Alma Mobley Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I agree. The two of them created a life together, they're human adults, so they should take responsibility for it. And with regards to your friend, a genetic test can confirm whether he's the father or not - seems kinda important since she's suing him for child support. If he is, then he is certainly responsible for helping take care of the child. I think you misunderstand. Her friend isn't the one suing for child support. Her friend just started dating this guy she met on Match and he told her the story that he is being sued and abandoned his girlfriend and considers himself childless. OP, I hope she stops seeing him since he let her know he doesn't use condoms.
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I hope she does too. I would never date a guy who doesn't believe in condoms and would abandon. It's disgusting.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 A friend of mine was telling me this true story. She is doing online dating because she has no potential mates. So she's been talking to this guy for a few months and they met. She liked him and he liked her. There's only one problem: he let it slip that his exgirlfriend is suing him for child support. Long story short, she got pregnant while dating and he dumped her. Never saw the baby or anything. He claims he was trapped. He then let it be known to my friend that he doesn't wear condoms and he'd do the same thing to her. He considers himself childless. I told her to run like hell from him. I'd never date a guy with this attitude. Yes, run... (why do women put up with this stuff when they usually have so many alternatives???)
calazhage Posted February 16, 2010 Posted February 16, 2010 A friend of mine was telling me this true story. She is doing online dating because she has no potential mates. So she's been talking to this guy for a few months and they met. She liked him and he liked her. There's only one problem: he let it slip that his exgirlfriend is suing him for child support. Long story short, she got pregnant while dating and he dumped her. Never saw the baby or anything. He claims he was trapped. He then let it be known to my friend that he doesn't wear condoms and he'd do the same thing to her. He considers himself childless. I told her to run like hell from him. I'd never date a guy with this attitude. He liked her and told her this? Are you sure?
Author greatgirlfriend Posted February 16, 2010 Author Posted February 16, 2010 He liked her and told her this? Are you sure? That's what she told me.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 lol @ women. If a guy doesn't want a baby, HE SHOULDN'T HAVE TO PAY FOR IT. she can keep the baby and keep the man as her slave for 18 years and force him to fork over hundreds or thousands of dollars. LOL buddy! "hundreds" of dollars over 18 years... Hey, that's $55.55 a year! Don't put yourself out!
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