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hey everyone :)

 

just wanted to know how long it took for the ex to miss you after having no contact?

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hey everyone :)

 

just wanted to know how long it took for the ex to miss you after having no contact?

 

40 septillion reiterations of the universe.

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hey everyone :)

 

just wanted to know how long it took for the ex to miss you after having no contact?

 

Lych that is not the point of NC. It is not something you do to them it is something you do for yourself. It give you space to heal and work on making yourself a better person.

 

Focus on yourself not the EX.

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40 septillion reiterations of the universe.

 

 

I think I have you beat.

 

 

Infinity.

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I think I have you beat.

 

 

Infinity.

 

 

Ahhhh .. but never say never!

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Ahhhh .. but never say never!

 

 

Heh, perhaps. But she stopped missing me the moment she left.

 

 

And that's ok... :o

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I agree with GrayClouds.

 

No matter how many people post on this thread telling you how long their ex's came back missing them... every situation is different. You can't base your situation on others.

 

I suggest going NC with the intention of never hearing from them again.

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I suggest going NC with the intention of never hearing from them again.

 

 

= INFINITY. FTW. :o

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geeze, everyone. calm down. it was just a simple question that you cannot base assumptions on right away. infinity? fine. i just wanted to know how long for everyone, and not trying to base it on my situation cause i know mine is differs from everyone elses.

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geeze, everyone. calm down. it was just a simple question that you cannot base assumptions on right away. infinity? fine. i just wanted to know how long for everyone, and not trying to base it on my situation cause i know mine is differs from everyone elses.

 

Ok. Well since you put it that way... it depends on what you mean by 'miss' the other person. Do you mean miss them enough to want them back? Or just plainly miss them?

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geeze, everyone. calm down. it was just a simple question that you cannot base assumptions on right away. infinity? fine. i just wanted to know how long for everyone, and not trying to base it on my situation cause i know mine is differs from everyone elses.

 

 

Like GrayClouds said, I don't think you understand the purpose of NC. I can see exactly what you're trying to do with this post, and as much as you think it'll make you feel better, it's just going to hurt you in the long run. When I was in your place, I'd look for anything that would give me hope that by doing NC, she'd "miss me" or somehow want me back after x months...

 

It doesn't matter if your situation is the same or completely different from other people's situations...that's irrelevant...you just cannot hang onto hope that by doing NC, she'll start missing you...because that's EXACTLY what you're doing with this thread...trying to gather up some stories of how exes came back after x number of months because they missed the dumpee...

 

Sorry, NC doesn't work that way...and until you understand that, you're not going to move on properly...if you're ok with living with the pain of the breakup for a lot longer than you need to, by all means hang onto that hope...but if you want to better your life and yourself, listen to the advice that people give you here...because we all have lived through this crap...some of us many times...

 

 

So with that said, INFINITY....FTW....

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Like GrayClouds said, I don't think you understand the purpose of NC. I can see exactly what you're trying to do with this post, and as much as you think it'll make you feel better, it's just going to hurt you in the long run. When I was in your place, I'd look for anything that would give me hope that by doing NC, she'd "miss me" or somehow want me back after x months...

 

It doesn't matter if your situation is the same or completely different from other people's situations...that's irrelevant...you just cannot hang onto hope that by doing NC, she'll start missing you...because that's EXACTLY what you're doing with this thread...trying to gather up some stories of how exes came back after x number of months because they missed the dumpee...

 

Sorry, NC doesn't work that way...and until you understand that, you're not going to move on properly...if you're ok with living with the pain of the breakup for a lot longer than you need to, by all means hang onto that hope...but if you want to better your life and yourself, listen to the advice that people give you here...because we all have lived through this crap...some of us many times...

 

 

So with that said, INFINITY....FTW....

 

actually, YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION. like i said again, it's A SIMPLE QUESTION. geeze. how many times do i have to say it? i haven't even contacted my ex in 2 years. im not planning to and i'm not expecting it. i'm fine right now. you don't think i just want a simple answer from everyone? A PLAIN SIMPLE ANSWER. not a five paragraph response each time. yes your response was INFINITY. and nothing more i need to know after that. ForTheWin.

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actually, YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION. like i said again, it's A SIMPLE QUESTION. geeze. how many times do i have to say it? i haven't even contacted my ex in 2 years. im not planning to and i'm not expecting it. i'm fine right now. you don't think i just want a simple answer from everyone? A PLAIN SIMPLE ANSWER. not a five paragraph response each time. yes your response was INFINITY. and nothing more i need to know after that. ForTheWin.

 

 

Ummm...wow...I don't even need to know your situation to know that if after 2 years of NC you're still even thinking about this, then you're probably not over her and may not be as "fine" as you think you are...

 

 

So yea...in that case...2 years, 1 week, and 4 days...so you don't have much more time to wait! :bunny:

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actually, YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION. like i said again, it's A SIMPLE QUESTION. geeze. how many times do i have to say it? i haven't even contacted my ex in 2 years. im not planning to and i'm not expecting it. i'm fine right now. you don't think i just want a simple answer from everyone? A PLAIN SIMPLE ANSWER. not a five paragraph response each time. yes your response was INFINITY. and nothing more i need to know after that. ForTheWin.

 

Dang dude, chill out... Next time you wont a one response post, "say in one word how long did it take."

 

Sometimes, when people repsond with a paragraph detailing there thoughts and feelings it help other readers of the post not just the Original Poster... We are all here to help other people out and bounce ideas, sugeestions and feeling off each other, thats the point of this website. If you dont agree with what someone has posted, dont get all ticked off, its THIER feelings and ideas. Just trying to help you out.

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hey everyone :)

 

just wanted to know how long it took for the ex to miss you after having no contact?

 

could we therefore ask why you're asking this question?

Are you expecting your ex to contact you after all this time?

Are you wondering how long she missed you for, after your break?

Are you wondering whether she still misses you, or in fact, ever did?

what's te root of your curiosity....that's all we're wondering, because you have to admit, your post gives nothing away.

maybe there's no more to give away, but I tell you, the amount of times people have posted a one sentence question, only to find themselves elaborating, adding, explaining and enlarging to explain their original intention.....

 

This is a COMMUNITY.

We're all on here together, mutually supporting, and if we were all in a room together, I guess this is pretty much how the banter would go....

 

we're just trying to help.

How about being grateful, instead of biting our heads off and being defensive?

maybe if you'd been a bit clearer, we wouldn't be saying this now.....

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hey everyone :)

 

just wanted to know how long it took for the ex to miss you after having no contact?

 

geeze, everyone. calm down. it was just a simple question that you cannot base assumptions on right away. infinity? fine. i just wanted to know how long for everyone, and not trying to base it on my situation cause i know mine is differs from everyone elses.

 

actually, YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION. like i said again, it's A SIMPLE QUESTION. geeze. how many times do i have to say it? i haven't even contacted my ex in 2 years. im not planning to and i'm not expecting it. i'm fine right now. you don't think i just want a simple answer from everyone? A PLAIN SIMPLE ANSWER. not a five paragraph response each time. yes your response was INFINITY. and nothing more i need to know after that. ForTheWin.

 

You are right we do not know your situation, not sure if you've got other posts on this site, but I can say that other than what you've posted here, I know nothing.

 

So what the above quotes tell me is that you broke up 2 years ago, and have successfully been NC. Good for you. So you have two options here. Either your ex is as committed to NC as you are, and may miss you but will nto break NC, or your ex simply does not miss you at all and has moved on.

 

To answer your original question I have seen posts where ex's missed their ex by day 1 through never. So I'm not really sure what you expect folks to say. There is no formula, as you said everyone's situation is different.

 

So I guess you can apply my post to your own particlar situation and come to whatever conclusion you would like.

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:lmao::lmao::rolleyes: This is one of the funniest threads ever.

 

Even if my ex did miss me, his ego is as big as Jupiter; he'd never tell me unless I bother to break NC. I do not plan on doing that.

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actually, YOU DON'T KNOW MY SITUATION. like i said again, it's A SIMPLE QUESTION. geeze. how many times do i have to say it? i haven't even contacted my ex in 2 years. im not planning to and i'm not expecting it. i'm fine right now. you don't think i just want a simple answer from everyone? A PLAIN SIMPLE ANSWER. not a five paragraph response each time. yes your response was INFINITY. and nothing more i need to know after that. ForTheWin.

 

 

I think me lady protest too much...

 

You original question illustrates a inherent dichotomy with in it, for if you are practicing No Contact then you will never know if or when they start to miss you.

 

And the question in itself, and your frustration with others responses speak of a desire for a specific responce. Why that desire is there is much more interesting and revealing then the original question itself. It appears by your response you are looking to avoid developing insight into that desire that can give you a richer, deeper understanding of yourself.

 

But I will feed your avoidance and to give you the answer I suspect you are looking for:

 

2 years and one month

 

So you can be assured next month see will be missing you. :rolleyes:

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They may never miss you :( or if they do it may not be enough to bring them back.

I'd say the same as curiousnycgirl-could take one day, or never.

 

hey everyone :)

 

just wanted to know how long it took for the ex to miss you after having no contact?

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