Seriously? What a waste of two years!

[forever&always]

So I had posted before in this same part of the forum asking about how to go NC if you live with your now-ex. Moving is still not an option, nor is staying with anyone. Anyway, I broke NC because it was literally impossible due to the fact that we live together and have dogs/had to pay bills/etc. etc. etc.

 

During this time (two weeks or so?) that we have started talking again, my ex said that she was going to show me that she is different and that she can and will change for me. That we are starting out as friends again, and she was going to do everything in her power to gain my trust and friendship back. This is not the first time I have heard this, but I decided that this was the last time, and this was her last chance.

 

Tell me why she is on Adult Friend Finder with a new profile and ACTIVE? As well as, why is her "most used contact" on gmail an Arizona phone number? (Gmail allows you to text people now, which, because she has been caught so many times before with **** on her phone, this would be her smart way of talking to someone without me knowing. Oh, minus that she is an idiot and let me use her computer and leaves her f'n gmail signed on!) I was a snoop with this girl, but got over it because I kept finding stuff all the time. It just broke me down more and more each time I found something, so I stopped. This new info was found by complete accident, and man, I am sorry. Ignorance would be bliss, in this case.

 

Why tell me you're going to try and be this awesome friend and person, but then turn around and have yourself on dating sites? Is this really the best way to redeem yourself?

 

Also, because of this discovery, I tried to talk to her about it... which she didn't want to do because she didn't want to "make things worse." (Her silence is doing a better job of THAT.) So instead, I decided to write her an email asking about all the transgressions she won't talk about.

 

Bitchy? Yes. Threw it in her face that she can only seem to talk to people online, rather than in person, so there was her out... the email. Still bitchy? Yep.

 

Told her not to talk to me unless she was going to answer my questions. Which she still won't do. And thus we begin NC again. Yay that the lease is over in March! Yeah, tell me that I was wrong to do it... I don't really care. She was wrong to do all of her constant lying, but she doesn't care, and just kept doing it. Not an eye for an eye, but it sure made me feel better, especially since she isn't going to give me closure on all the **** she did to me.

 

I restate... what a waste of my time.

 

oh, and PS... I'm a girl. Not a boy. Don't tell me to "man up" lol.

[bruce wayne]

wow, dude. did u just read my post and copy it? lol i am in the same situation accept mine was myspacing. oh yeah, i snooped and she blames me for snopping insteada of owning up to what i found. she would ask me how did i find out insteada how do i stop. and when i would calmly try to talk it out with her, guess what she couldnt handle it. now she's "mad" at me cus i caught her lying..AGAIN. smh...

[paleblue]

that sucks. sorry to hear all this happened. i guess all i can say is be happy you weren't married or owned a house together. it def seems selfish of her that she wont talk to you. not sure that is really someone you want in your life in that capacity anyway if she isnt willing to be reasonable and talk about things. i just dont get people. or why they think they can use others as doormats all the time. it never worksout for too long.

[Snugglepuss]

Lol, I love the fact that you emailed her!