Ruby Slippers Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 So, I recently started working on-site as a contractor for a small company in my industry, and I have a huge crush on the guy who interviewed me, and to whom I now report as contractor. The interview felt more like a date than an interview. I mean, it was totally professional on the surface. No one said anything inappropriate -- it was all business. But the energy and magnetism between us was intense. The second we shook hands, I felt like I'd known this guy for years. He was just STARING into my eyes during the whole interview, and we were grinning like fools, laughing. It was awesome. And I think he's trying to flirt, but I understand he's in a weird position. Every time he talks to me, he gets really close and just gazes into my eyes. And we are both giggly and smiling. It definitely seems to be a mutual thing. How can I make this happen? Is this a totally terrible idea? I want him BAD. I cannot remember the last time I had a crush this intense. I think I am doing a good job of hiding it and just being professional -- I mean, I am flirting a teeny bit, but it seems he is flirting a little more. But every time I look into his eyes, I just want to get naked immediately and have crazy good sex with him all night long. lol
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Don't do anything. Just enjoy the crush as it is. Is he married? If so, that's a good way of killing the crush..That and the fact you report to him so maybe not a good idea to go after him. Could cause problems in your work field.
Johnny M Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Wow, and they say that men think with their d*cks. How about trying to be a professional and worrying about doing a good job instead of acting like a giddy schoolgirl and daydreaming about your boss?
Author Ruby Slippers Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Is he married? I get the strong impression he's single. No wedding ring, no signs of a woman in his life in his office. But of course, you never know. I am also pretty sure he's very close to my age.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 How about trying to be a professional and worrying about doing a good job instead of acting like a giddy schoolgirl and daydreaming about your boss? Please. How about both? I have had at least 4 different people come up to me to thank me specifically for my work there, in just over a week of working for them. Higher-ups have thanked me for catching details they missed and saving their butts. And today, they basically let me know they want to keep me as a contractor on an ongoing basis. So I'm doing my job and then some, as always. I have never had a crush on anyone in this kind of environment. But it is STRONG, it was immediate, and I think it is mutual. If it's going to happen, I'm sure it will happen naturally. But I finally have more than 15 minutes of relaxation time this evening, so I was dreamin'.
whichwayisup Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Just because he doesn't have evidence (aka a picture) in his office, doesn't mean he's not with someone or married. Some men don't wear jewelry and that includes a wedding ring. Anyway, I say don't do anything about it, don't try to hang out with him or befriend him. It is what it is and try to not allow yourself to get caught up the fantasy of this... Crushes are fun, when kept in persepective. But because you report to him, I would really think twice about taking it to another level.. That and not knowing if he is available.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Yeah, there's no way I would escalate anything, professional situation or no. I am content to enjoy it for what it is. But man, it sure would be fun to see where it could go. If he makes a move to step things up, well... And if he is in a relationship, he is flirting way too much. We'll see, we'll see.
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