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so i had posted here before about my on/off girlfriend who runs from situations when it comes to disagreements we have. the advice i was given was to decide if i want to try to work it out or leave her alone. well i tried. i was patient but then she started acting funny again. i asked her if there was somone else(text)... no response. i ask again... no response. mind you 2 minutes ago she was answering every text quickly. i then say you not answering makes it seem like u are, u've been acting funny. she says "i just have friends!" and "well, ur acting annoying." her phone is off the next day but she ims me AFTER going on facebook and tells me her phone was off cus she didnt pay her bill. the next day i call to see if she got it back on...she's not busy and her phone is on. YOU wouldn't call me or at least text me to tell me its back on?! at this point i as her again is there someone else and she says that yea, she met someone that she sorta likes. I AM INFURIATED! I have never been so mad! i yelled till my face was red, my eye felt like it was gonna pop out. mind you, this girl previously lied to me about her age by 3 years and i never found out until HER FRIEND told me a year later, told another guy on myspace she loved him a week before we started dating and never even told me about him, created two TWO myspace pages behind my back that she messaged guys i suspected her of flirting with and told other lies/hid things. at first when she got caught with these things it was blowing up my phone with im sorry i'll never do it again. please talk to me. but now with this SHE wont have anything to do with ME! she says im controlling, and on her ass. that im always mad. how does she not see its becuase she's always lying?! and guess what after that argument we went no contact because despite me saying hey, let's just talk it out she completely ignored me, and was rude. two weeks later i broke nc and she tells me she has been going out with her new bf for TWO WEEKS and has not talked to me cus she promised him she wouldnt. she promised him?! wtf! how many times have i asked u not to talk to someone out of respect to our relationship and u just did it behind my back. and she tells me she wants nothing to do with me. how the heck does she get to do wrong, get a new bf that she obviously was talking to when we were supposed to be fixing things and then just blame me for her lying?! i dont get it!

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How old r the both of you? sounds like games are beingplayed on you, just seems like she want the attention and then the "come chase me game" begins.

 

LiL

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It's all because she was stringing you along in case bf #2 didn't work out .. Never contact her again. And above all FORGET her fb and ms pages. DO NOT EVER look at them again. Delete her # from your phone, delete her email adress, if she texts, dont reply, dont even read it just hit delete. If she calls DO NOT answer. If she leaves a message DO NOT listen to it (delete it). Start out on your new life without her my friend. You find someone better. Important: DONT show your anger toward her. It will only boost her ego. Good luck to ya

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that is wat everyone tells me that its for attention. but wat i dont understand is how she can blame me for not trusting her when she lies? how can she say i'm annoying for questioning her or checking up on her when everytime i do i find her hiding or lying about something. she tells me she doesnt know if she still loves me, that its hard becuase "im always on her ass" but when i tell her fine lets talk about it..she's always saying "tomorrow"

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that is wat everyone tells me that its for attention. but wat i dont understand is how she can blame me for not trusting her when she lies? how can she say i'm annoying for questioning her or checking up on her when everytime i do i find her hiding or lying about something. she tells me she doesnt know if she still loves me, that its hard becuase "im always on her ass" but when i tell her fine lets talk about it..she's always saying "tomorrow"

 

What are your ages BW has this been happening for awhile?

 

LiL

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that is wat everyone tells me that its for attention. but wat i dont understand is how she can blame me for not trusting her when she lies? how can she say i'm annoying for questioning her or checking up on her when everytime i do i find her hiding or lying about something. she tells me she doesnt know if she still loves me, that its hard becuase "im always on her ass" but when i tell her fine lets talk about it..she's always saying "tomorrow"

 

 

 

Dude that's what I'm tring to tell ya. FORGET ABOUT HER. Put her out of your life. You're gonna drive yourself crazy trying to second guess every thought she has. If she wants to come back to you she will. But it's out of your hands! MOVE ON

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Dude that's what I'm tring to tell ya. FORGET ABOUT HER. Put her out of your life. You're gonna drive yourself crazy trying to second guess every thought she has. If she wants to come back to you she will. But it's out of your hands! MOVE ON

 

 

Im still trying to figure the ages out....;)

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im 26 shes "21" if thats even true. i recently foundd out she lied about her middle name. idk anymore. i love her and she says that she still has feelings for me but wants to get over me with this new guy. i have been doing no contact (she said this last week). i just dont get how she blames me for catching her lying and wants to get over me becuase i dont trust her and feel i have to check up on her when she has given me plenty of reasons to be concerned.

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im 26 shes "21" if thats even true. i recently foundd out she lied about her middle name. idk anymore. i love her and she says that she still has feelings for me but wants to get over me with this new guy. i have been doing no contact (she said this last week). i just dont get how she blames me for catching her lying and wants to get over me becuase i dont trust her and feel i have to check up on her when she has given me plenty of reasons to be concerned.

 

I went through this same kind of things over the years with my ex. I'd catch him lying and he would always try to turn it around on me and make me out to be the bad girlfriend for catching him. I don't think people like this can change unfortunately. There's nothing you can do to make them change. They blame you because they never face up to their own warped personality.

 

In my case I'm moving on with NC and trying to forget him. It's not easy but when you're dealing with a liar you will start to question everything they tell you and wonder if you even had a relationship at all. It's not a good way to live and causes all kinds of stress, which you don't need.

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I went through this same kind of things over the years with my ex. I'd catch him lying and he would always try to turn it around on me and make me out to be the bad girlfriend for catching him. I don't think people like this can change unfortunately. There's nothing you can do to make them change. They blame you because they never face up to their own warped personality.

 

In my case I'm moving on with NC and trying to forget him. It's not easy but when you're dealing with a liar you will start to question everything they tell you and wonder if you even had a relationship at all. It's not a good way to live and causes all kinds of stress, which you don't need.

 

i agree. i have this "headache" from her. i call it that because its confusion. she tells me one thing then i see another. i try to talk to her about it and she avoids talking or walks out. i wish i didnt care but i guess at times i think its my fault cus i check up on her. but how do u turn a blind eye when they continue to hide things from u after being caught? she deleted stuff on myspace after i found out. idk...ill get through this. i will be strong. i just have these flashes of wat ifs that make me want to contact her or flashes of wtf that make me want to ask her what her problem is. this is what she said in a recent disagreement:

 

"look im really agravated by and don't really feel like talkin'..I "always" want to think ur gonna change BUT you WONT!..Ur always gonna on my ASS! I try to be nice and understand u and get over..what happened to try to make things work, but I feel like its too hard. Your ALWAYS gonna check up on me (MYSPACE) and every step I take! ugh IDK but IDW tlk right now!."

 

idk either...one day

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So she wants you to change and stop questioning her? Pfffttt...she sounds just like my ex. Believe me, you will start to question your own sanity if you're involved with someone like that. Every time I start asking myself "what if" I'd done things differently, I switch to "what if he wasn't such an arse!" You can't change a liar.

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