Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 What is an appropriate response to this question if you are asked this on over email in advance of a date? I know what my reply would be but just interested what people on here would say.
Wallace1 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I would say, "I'm not going to spoil it for you, you'll just have to find out for yourself" That said, questions like that are why I'm not into online dating, it just feels awkward and fake to me...
D-Lish Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Honestly, I'd kiss and I might dry hump:eek: If someone asked me beforehand- I'd be skeptical, see it as a red flag. I wouldn't answer them, I probably wouldn't meet them.
Lakeside_runner Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I would say, "I'm not going to spoil it for you, you'll just have to find out for yourself" That said, questions like that are why I'm not into online dating, it just feels awkward and fake to me... Haha! I'd be so p***d if I've gotten a question like that The next step is something of the form: describe our first date in details and I'm gonna read it and it will be enough i.e. why would we go out if I already know what wed do?!
skydiveaddict Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I would say, "I'm not going to spoil it for you, you'll just have to find out for yourself" . I like that answer. Never thought of that before. sound advice!
engravefeelthevoid Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 well im going out on a first date with this girl too....we havent talked about is but I feel like its gona happen...I dunno about her asking about it on e-mail....i wudnt risk asking....if the answer was yes you two might be nervous during the date...if No then it would be awkward....but i believe that the surprise answer is really good.
counterman Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Yes, I would kiss on the first date. I would say, "I'm not going to spoil it for you, you'll just have to find out for yourself" That would be a good answer if someone asked by email.
tami-chan Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I am not bugged down by dating rules too much(besides, I actually do not them-as my dating experience is very scant)...rules are like playing games, I do not have times for games. I have never kissed on a first date BUT, would not rule it out if the.. er..."chemistry" is there . Sleeping with the other person on the first date, however, is a different story, but that's not the question!
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I would say, "I'm not going to spoil it for you, you'll just have to find out for yourself" That said, questions like that are why I'm not into online dating, it just feels awkward and fake to me... This is a very good comeback I am slowly backing away from online dating. You get quick direct results and I can normally spot and avoid guys who are deliberately unsuitable to date such as those who deem themselves to be pick up artists, looking for a fling etc but its people unsuitable for dating without even realising it that's the problem. I suppose its just like arranging countless blind dates and hoping for the best isn't it?
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Honestly, I'd kiss and I might dry hump:eek: If someone asked me beforehand- I'd be skeptical, see it as a red flag. I wouldn't answer them, I probably wouldn't meet them. My thoughts exactly. I like it when they are this nuts upfront. Saves me analysing and wondering time.
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 The next step is something of the form: describe our first date in details and I'm gonna read it and it will be enough i.e. why would we go out if I already know what wed do? Ha ha!May i have your permission to use this word for word? To be fair he did say if the chemistry was right. Maybe could have two scenarios? one if the chemistry is right one if its wrong ha ha ha ha ha ha
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 well im going out on a first date with this girl too....we havent talked about is but I feel like its gona happen...I dunno about her asking about it on e-mail....i wudnt risk asking....if the answer was yes you two might be nervous during the date...if No then it would be awkward. Bless you. So considerate. If only I was going out on a date with you instead
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I like that answer. Never thought of that before. sound advice! I'm thinking its a sex thing for him. Build up the sexual tension in the hopes I jump him when we meet up. I bet if I keep talking to this guy he will suggest meeting up at his house or some such nonsense for the first date.
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Yes, I would kiss on the first date. That would be a good answer if someone asked by email. It would be a good answer but instead of a good answer i wish for the power to pre-empt guys who would ask this!
Eeyore79 Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I would kiss on the first date if I really liked the guy and planned on seeing him again. I wouldn't kiss a guy if I didn't want anything more to do with him. The fact that this guy asked if you would kiss on the first date suggests to me that he doesn't want to waste his time dating someone who he can't "get something" from, i.e. he at least wants some tongue action in return for taking you out. Therefore I'd tend to assume that the guy who asked such a question was a bit of a player and somewhat shallow, and it would put me off dating him.
Author Satisfaction Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I would kiss on the first date if I really liked the guy and planned on seeing him again. I wouldn't kiss a guy if I didn't want anything more to do with him. The fact that this guy asked if you would kiss on the first date suggests to me that he doesn't want to waste his time dating someone who he can't "get something" from, i.e. he at least wants some tongue action in return for taking you out. Therefore I'd tend to assume that the guy who asked such a question was a bit of a player and somewhat shallow, and it would put me off dating him. yes definitely shallow and so, another guy to the dating bin. I hate slutty boys.
engravefeelthevoid Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I wouldn't kiss a guy if I didn't want anything more to do with him. I gotta keep this in my mind on my date...I gotta make her want something more to do with me...me showing up is NOT enough reasson for her to kiss me.
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