cassiecharlie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Im a MM and Have fallen in Love with a attached women and we see each other when we can for the last 4 months, why is it so hard to not see her for a day? How did I fall so deeply in love with her?? Its like I cant breath withouther? WTF happened to me? we had sex 3 times one night and had a blast but we are also great friends. Has anyone else had any problems with falling so in love thatyoucant understand it?? Now if you re gonna tell me how wrong this is in the first place I know that already so save your typing. LOL! HELP ME!!! I love this women!!!! P.S, The Title was suppose to read HElP ME!!
ladydesigner Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Welcome to LS cassiecharlie. Well if you read a lot of the posts here you will get a really good idea of the A you are having and if you go to the Infidelity Forum you can read how it affects the parties involved. Are you willing to end your marriage for this woman or commit to your M? We all know it is not an easy situation to be in, but you are in it. I would say if you are willing to lose your marriage then keep seeing this other woman. If your marriage is more important to you...well you know the answer.
viennawaits Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 cassiecharlie~ This sounds like what happened to me. I am a MW, had fling with MM and we were totally and deeply in love within the first couple of months of the A. He left his wife. I didn't leave my H quickly enough for him (4 months in), and so he moved on. It has taken me 6 months to piece my life back together, but now I know the folly in thinking this could have ever worked. There is more to falling in love than just the emotion. Timing is huge! In my case, the retrospect lets me know that I made the right decision in not leaving my marriage, but if you believe in this enough, you gotta do it right. If you truly love this woman, you will leave your wife, make it legal and she will do the same. Short of that, this is bad news waiting to happen.
jwi71 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Im a MM and Have fallen in Love with a attached women and we see each other when we can for the last 4 months, why is it so hard to not see her for a day? How did I fall so deeply in love with her?? Its like I cant breath withouther? WTF happened to me? we had sex 3 times one night and had a blast but we are also great friends. Has anyone else had any problems with falling so in love thatyoucant understand it?? Now if you re gonna tell me how wrong this is in the first place I know that already so save your typing. LOL! HELP ME!!! I love this women!!!! P.S, The Title was suppose to read HElP ME!! File for D and then you can be with her full time. Or at least try to woo her away from her attachment w/o having to worry about getting caught. My opinion anyway.
NoIDidn't Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Im a MM and Have fallen in Love with a attached women and we see each other when we can for the last 4 months, why is it so hard to not see her for a day? How did I fall so deeply in love with her?? Its like I cant breath withouther? WTF happened to me? we had sex 3 times one night and had a blast but we are also great friends. Has anyone else had any problems with falling so in love thatyoucant understand it?? Now if you re gonna tell me how wrong this is in the first place I know that already so save your typing. LOL! HELP ME!!! I love this women!!!! P.S, The Title was suppose to read HElP ME!! Funny you had time to add a PS before submitting the OP, but didn't change the title at the same time. LOL. What were your intentions when you started seeing her? Just sex? It seems like you are surprised that feelings developed? Were you not interested in having feelings for her?
Lizzie60 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Is she as much in love with you as you are with her? What's stopping you two to move together?
awkward Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 1) You could divorce your wife and then hope she leaves her partner. 2) You could ask your wife for an open marriage. It might be fun and exciting for your wife to have a new sexual partner as well. 3) You could end the affair. What do you want to do?
Author cassiecharlie Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Funny you had time to add a PS before submitting the OP, but didn't change the title at the same time. LOL. What were your intentions when you started seeing her? Just sex? It seems like you are surprised that feelings developed? Were you not interested in having feelings for her? We started out becoming great friends and had a lot in common and we had deep feelings before we slept together and that just showed us that we love everything about us. we can sit and eat breakfast in the morning,Talk but when she gets home she cant text because of her boyfriend. I miss her like crazy when we cant talk. I didnt know I could feel this way about someone else. My posts outhere are out of confusion because I dont know how to turn off my heart.
carhill Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 WTF happened to me? Ever do acid? I'll join others in encouraging you to end your current relationships and enjoy this newfound and elemental connection. Hope it works out!
Author cassiecharlie Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 cassiecharlie~ This sounds like what happened to me. I am a MW, had fling with MM and we were totally and deeply in love within the first couple of months of the A. He left his wife. I didn't leave my H quickly enough for him (4 months in), and so he moved on. It has taken me 6 months to piece my life back together, but now I know the folly in thinking this could have ever worked. There is more to falling in love than just the emotion. Timing is huge! In my case, the retrospect lets me know that I made the right decision in not leaving my marriage, but if you believe in this enough, you gotta do it right. If you truly love this woman, you will leave your wife, make it legal and she will do the same. Short of that, this is bad news waiting to happen. Thank you very much for being open and honest with me. I appreciate your reply. Thank you for not bashing me for falling for this women, I was not in search of anyone else but it happened and now Im trying to deal with it. Thank you so much!
BlueeyedJonesy Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 do your wife a huge favor and divorce her! you didn't mention her once and here you are going on like a little school boy about some fling. You don't deserve her. secondly, do you really think you would be falling this hard for someone you were comitted to, that you went home to every night, that had your children constantly at her feet, seeing her at her worst. Your not in love your in lust and if you can honestly see yourself with this lady then do it the right way...
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