Awesome Username Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Ummm...there's this guy that I might possibly be interested in. We've hung out at work (when I used to work at his work), and we have hung out during these last few weekends when his friends were up from the South for a while. I think he might like me back, but I'm not sure. It's Wednesday, and I know I have nothing I need to do tomorrow morning. Also, his work starts at like 10 so time isn't the biggest issue in the world (however, people often get out there at like 9:00pm or later). I kind of want to find a way to hang out with him during the week. Is is weird if a girl asks a guy to go somewhere during the week, at night? Or I could be like, "Hey, just strolling through your neighborhood and what do you know, there are bars!" I don't know if he knows I'm interested in the least, to be honest. The last time I saw him was Sunday soo.... ..I dunno. How would you all go about this? Should I wait for the weekend, or formulate a scheme for tonight? I certainly don't want to seem clingy. Clingy people suck. <3 AU
Kamille Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I'm usually a fan of getting a guy to do the asking out. This can include but is not limited too telling him flat out to ask me out. (As in, in one instance, I told a guy: I always have a good time with you, you should ask me out sometime. And he actually did...) At the same time, this sounds like so much fun and you seem so into it that my gut tells me: Do it Awesome Username! Ask him out. That said, I'm not sure I understand the issue about timing? You want to ask him out before 10 am? (Too early, a lot of people sleep in when they can). Or you want to ask him out afterwards, while strolling in his hood (good, very casual, which might or might not work if you're interested in this guy). Or the other option is to ask him out on the weekend? Very forward but that could also work to your advantage. So, hu, yeah, I don't know what to tell you other then Do it and do it in a way that feels right to you.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Ummm...there's this guy that I might possibly be interested in. We've hung out at work (when I used to work at his work), and we have hung out during these last few weekends when his friends were up from the South for a while. I think he might like me back, but I'm not sure. It's Wednesday, and I know I have nothing I need to do tomorrow morning. Also, his work starts at like 10 so time isn't the biggest issue in the world (however, people often get out there at like 9:00pm or later). I kind of want to find a way to hang out with him during the week. Is is weird if a girl asks a guy to go somewhere during the week, at night? Or I could be like, "Hey, just strolling through your neighborhood and what do you know, there are bars!" I don't know if he knows I'm interested in the least, to be honest. The last time I saw him was Sunday soo.... ..I dunno. How would you all go about this? Should I wait for the weekend, or formulate a scheme for tonight? I certainly don't want to seem clingy. Clingy people suck. <3 AU Go ahead. Ask him out. Many guys don't mind.
alphamale Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 ..I dunno. How would you all go about this? Should I wait for the weekend, or formulate a scheme for tonight? I certainly don't want to seem clingy. Clingy people suck. just send him a text saying you want to get hammered tonite
Author Awesome Username Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 I texted him "I'm bored. Whatcha doin? " and he hasn't responded back. :c
sullysteve Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Awesome: I don't blame him for not responding right away; that's not a very compelling text. It gives the impression you're only texting him because you have nothing better to do. Just ask him out already! Carpe diem and all that jazz
Author Awesome Username Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Awesome: I don't blame him for not responding right away; that's not a very compelling text. It gives the impression you're only texting him because you have nothing better to do. Just ask him out already! Carpe diem and all that jazz But now I can't text him AGAIN, because that fills my annoying text quota! If I asked him to go somewhere in the first place, then it would be one clean, askouty text and not a bunch of half baked bored texts. Arrgh! I'm a dunce! I'm gonna bake some banana bread to get over it!!!! :mad:
sullysteve Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Awe: Woah! Chill. You should always ask someone out in person or over the phone, never via text message. Maybe I'm just old-skool that way, but I think texting takes all the romance out of it. I suggest asking him out in person the next time you see him, or if you know you won't be seeing him for a while, waiting a few days (i.e., until after V-day) and then calling him and asking him out. No more texts!
Rulebreaker Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Rules say don't ask a guy out - if you do, you might start something that was "never meant to be" and he'll end up hurting you and neither of you will really know why. I'm not saying I necessarily buy into this, but I think your best bet is just to look really good all the time and make sure he knows you're available.
bayouboi Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Screw the rules. Asking a guy out isn't a problem unless you're not very physically attractive, and your pics show that you are so it should be no problem. However, I agree with the above poster that said the whole "i'm bored" thing wasn't a good move. It would definitely have a feel of "i've got nothing better to do so i may as well do u" or "if u hav relations with me, it's going to become your job to keep me entertained".
Leia Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 (edited) I asked a guy out before and he said it was the best thing ever happened. I say, give it a try! Edited February 11, 2010 by Leia
St. Nick Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Ask him out. It's time for women to start living up to this equal rights stuff they've been screaming about. You can do all the jobs a man can do but you're squeamish about asking him out. Good show. And yeah, that "I'm bored" text is definitely not gonna fly. If he saw that then that lowered your points right there. Also, I've been reading on this forum about how a dude asking a woman he knows out via text is wrong and "creepy", but why is okay for a woman to do it?
phineas Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 It's ok for a woman to do it because most men just don't care how a woman asks them. they asked them. It's like free beer. Do you question the brand or whether it's draft, botttle, or can? as long as it was sincere & not the woman needing a walking ATM machine.
Author Awesome Username Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Thanks guys!! So he ended up texting me back way later. His car was booted and he was walking home...it was hilarious! LOL! He wanted to see a movie and I'm like, "No movies are open." Then we has an awkward conversation about how he was gonna bake something and how he's trying to get in shape at the gym. He said he would call me so we could do something this weekend! For some reason, my stomach isn't doing flips thinking about him right now. I'm kinda like that - I go in waves of liking someone and not caring, and I don't want to give mixed messages so I want to find out whether or not I REALLY like him, or if my hormones are just doing flip flops. Okay guys, I'll listen. No more stupid texts. He also asked what I did today, and it basically involved taking a shower, curling my hair, making soup and getting on the internet. Shoot, being bored wasn't a lie! I know his job isn't to entertain me, but he is very entertaining so I wouldn't mind if he was used to doing it. lol
Author Awesome Username Posted February 14, 2010 Author Posted February 14, 2010 Oh, he likes me he likes me he likes me! EEEEE! We kissed last night and passed out drunk (Chinese new year = party). LOL! He told me he really likes me and bought me dinner and breakfast. What a sweety! So far, he seems legit. He's not a player, he has a great sense of humor, and I'm pretty sure his friends like me. I totally have a rose in my hand. YAY :3
alphamale Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 EEEEE! We kissed last night and passed out drunk (Chinese new year = party). LOL! He told me he really likes me and bought me dinner and breakfast. did you guys have sex?
bayouboi Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 did you guys have sex? Well let's just say that he had sex with her, but she didn't have sex with him due to being passed out drunk lolol
You'reasian Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 Well let's just say that he had sex with her, but she didn't have sex with him due to being passed out drunk lolol lol that's wrong on so many levels.
Author Awesome Username Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 rofl bayou! No, we did not have sex of any kind.
Hot Carl Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 I totally have a rose in my hand. I love your euphemisms! So creative.
alphamale Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 No, we did not have sex of any kind. you know you're gonna have to give it up sooner or later
Author Awesome Username Posted February 15, 2010 Author Posted February 15, 2010 you know you're gonna have to give it up sooner or later Yes, but not this soon! Hahaha!
Kamille Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 Nice! what a great way to start the New Year-Valentine's day. One more strike against the 'Women shouldn't ask guys out' rule. Keep us posted AUN!
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