polksaladannie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I utilize OKCupid. Although I don't normally believe that a women should initiate contact, I made an exception and messaged a guy. He is 29, a med student and single(claims he likes kids and has a teaching background). He messaged me back and we have been emailing for the last few days. He knows that I am 36, in the medical field (something in common!) and a single mother. I also have posted a full length body shot so that he can see that I am curvy. Ok.....the last time I heard from him was Monday and he was online last night. It has been a long time since I have been in the dating world and I don't remember all of the rules. Did he lose his nerve? Just lose interest? I don't know what I did wrong..the emails were fine....nothing too heavy or deep....sigh....
bananaboat11 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I utilize OKCupid. Although I don't normally believe that a women should initiate contact, I made an exception and messaged a guy. He is 29, a med student and single(claims he likes kids and has a teaching background). He messaged me back and we have been emailing for the last few days. He knows that I am 36, in the medical field (something in common!) and a single mother. I also have posted a full length body shot so that he can see that I am curvy. Ok.....the last time I heard from him was Monday and he was online last night. It has been a long time since I have been in the dating world and I don't remember all of the rules. Did he lose his nerve? Just lose interest? I don't know what I did wrong..the emails were fine....nothing too heavy or deep....sigh.... I'm 25, a phd candidate in a medical related field... (energy metabolism - exploring T2DM from a CHO metabolism perspective)... you're welcome to e-mail me
Thornton Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I have experience of online dating, and I admit I've sometimes replied to people and then quit messaging them after a while. Maybe because I met someone I liked better, or maybe because I realised from their messages that I'm not interested, or maybe because I was never that interested anyway and I only replied in the first place because I was bored. The point is that this guy has been online and hasn't responded to your most recent message. Maybe he was busy and just popped online for a second, maybe he'll respond to you later... or maybe not. Give it a day or two and then message him again; if he still ignores you then he's not interested, his silence is your response. Tbh I can't see a 29yo doctor-to-be being genuinely interested in a 36yo single mother though... hot young girls with no kids will be lining up to date him once he's qualified.
Author polksaladannie Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Tbh I can't see a 29yo doctor-to-be being genuinely interested in a 36yo single mother though... hot young girls with no kids will be lining up to date him once he's qualified. Oh absolutely...as we all know a single mother in her 30s has nothing to offer.
Thornton Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I'm not saying you don't have anything to offer. All I'm saying is that wealthy young professionals have their pick of women, so they tend to pick young attractive women with no baggage. I'm 30 with a good career, and men of 30 with good careers aren't even interested in me, because they want to date 25yr olds. The dateable guys who approach me are all 35-40; if a guy of 30 approaches me it's usually because he's not hot/wealthy enough to score younger chicks.
harmfulsweetz Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 See, I had a similar situation a while back. I was chatting to this guy, who at one point, religiously, messaged me back, if he came online, he'd respond, then as the time went on, he stopped doing this. He would message me in drips and drabs, but he could be online for a whole month before doing so. Eventually, I gave up with him, and funnily enough, it was those times he seemed to message me most! Guys do message people they are not/uncertain interested in, because well sometimes they may think it rude not to respond. They may be bored. Put it this way: Have you replied to anybody before simply out of boredom/courtesy/curiosity? And then, suddenly you're not so interested, or bothered, and just don't anymore? He could be busy. Give it some time, but it just may be one of those times when you find out through silence. Hate when they do that, really I do. Thornton is typically right. Young professionals set to make a nice sum of money, will generally look younger than their age range for a partner, and for one without baggage simply because they can. It's not a bad thing on you, you have to find someone who will accept your child etc, but he may not be for you. I hope I'm wrong though.
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