hammered24 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Hi, Well, I really don't know where to start. I need to explain a lot so people will understand my current situation. I'm 18 years old living in Australia and have been in a steady relationship with someone for the past three years. My home life has been pretty bad for a while, my parents divorced half way through my final year at high school, and things have been fairly tough ever since. I never had much of a relationship with my dad as he had threatened to kill me on several occasions. So, i went and live with my mother. This was all fine for 6-8 months and then she started going on online dating websites, and disappearing overseas to the UK to meet someone who didn't actually end up turning up to meet her. My mum and brother have had horrible arguments since they got back, about everything and i couldn't cope with all of it, as it was very similar to the original circumstances of my parents divorce. After a few months things started to go back to normal. I was heavily pressured by my girlfriend to move out & come stay with her and her parents, in their house. This was about a month ago. My Girlfriend and her parents since then have gone on a cruise around New Zealand, for two weeks, While i went to Sydney to meet an old friend. She came back and everything was ok for a few days and then she cam and said she wanted to break up, while she was away she met someone else, and now is having an online relationship with someone living in Melbourne. Her mother has had a long chat to her about all of it, and this is basically what she came up with Her father, had a serious Car accident two years ago, and is really lucky to be alive, and Her Pop, is seriously ill with alzheimer's. She is really upset, and wants to "get away" From all of the problems in her life, I.E. My screwed up family, her Pop & father. It's hurting me so much to see her talking to someone else the way she is. i don't know what to do. I can't move back in with my mum, as my sister recently got kicked out of home (By my father) and is now living back with my mum. I don't know if i should stay & see if i can help, or go & find somewhere else to live, such as a share house. I want to help her & want to be with her, but she's not interested in anything but a friendship with me....
katelyn98 Posted February 14, 2010 Posted February 14, 2010 If you want to help her, help her. But if u want to be with her and she doesnt, well u hv to give her enough time to sort things out about her life. All both of u need is time. I can't guarantee that she will get back with u but maybe she will =) =) dun think about the 'what if's', if u think positive and have the right attitude, it will be better =) trust me =)
The Paper Knight Posted February 15, 2010 Posted February 15, 2010 It sounds like you have had a hard life, but by staying in your ex's home wont make it any easier. Realize this now! The next 5-10 years of your life are very important. Its know time to look to the future and start to make your own way in this world. Start working hard and earning money. Stay off the drugs and away from the party scene. Sacrifice the next five years of your life to getting an education and working. Good luck.
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