Sadcakesleo Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Hi everyone just recently got out of a long term relationship. Doing actually ok but a little new to the dating scene. Anyways went to a club this weekend and met a girl.It was cool we danced talked and generally had a good time. Anyways my roomate was drunk and did coke for the first time. During the night he proceeds to talk with her and get her number for me(which i did not ask him to). Well she basically starts getting into him and says heres my number but before giving to him she wanted him to call her first. Next day he gives it to me but doesn't say she was feeling him instead. So i texted her thinking she was interested in me. After awhile i figure out she was feeling him. No big deal whatever. The past 3 days we have talked a couple hours each day on fb. I am ok being friends but we have alot in common and shes such a nice girl I really am starting to like her. Obviously she likes my roomate though but i don't think he is interested in her. He has someone hes dating. I'm not sure completely how he feels. My problem is that I am getting feelings for her. I know I should stop talking to her but after my break up I don't have many female friends and its nice having one. Do i tell her the truth or avoid her or what. Shes intiated the convos everytime so avoiding is hard. Also she is a really sweet girl and don't want to see her hurt by my roomate. Do I talk to him and tell him shes a nice girl and unless ur serious about her don't hurt her. Any advice would be appreciated.
Bejita463 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 after my break up I don't have many female friends and its nice having one You're rebounding.
St. Nick Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Hi everyone just recently got out of a long term relationship. Doing actually ok but a little new to the dating scene. Anyways went to a club this weekend and met a girl.It was cool we danced talked and generally had a good time. Anyways my roomate was drunk and did coke for the first time. During the night he proceeds to talk with her and get her number for me(which i did not ask him to). Well she basically starts getting into him and says heres my number but before giving to him she wanted him to call her first. Next day he gives it to me but doesn't say she was feeling him instead. So i texted her thinking she was interested in me. After awhile i figure out she was feeling him. No big deal whatever. The past 3 days we have talked a couple hours each day on fb. I am ok being friends but we have alot in common and shes such a nice girl I really am starting to like her. Obviously she likes my roomate though but i don't think he is interested in her. He has someone hes dating. I'm not sure completely how he feels. My problem is that I am getting feelings for her. I know I should stop talking to her but after my break up I don't have many female friends and its nice having one. Do i tell her the truth or avoid her or what. Shes intiated the convos everytime so avoiding is hard. Also she is a really sweet girl and don't want to see her hurt by my roomate. Do I talk to him and tell him shes a nice girl and unless ur serious about her don't hurt her. Any advice would be appreciated. Reading the bolded part makes me wonder if I was ever this nauseatingly nice with women. Maybe I was and I just blocked it out. Anyway, here's my advice: call her now, and try to have sex with her. Don't waste time on this. If she's not feeling you then let her go. What's the purpose of all this jibber-jabber? She's a grown woman who can make her own decisions. She probably likes your mate cuz he's with someone; and she probably likes you cuz yer still grieving over yer ex. I bet if both of you were readily available she wouldn't be so interested. So take this opportunity to have sex with her. To hell with all that "she's a nice girl, I don't wanna see her hurt cuz I need friends" bs.
Author Sadcakesleo Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 good stuff but how do i go about that without being a creep about it. like i said i'm new to this crap. rebound relationship or fwb of fb i dont care. i just dont want to keep talking to her for hours if this aint going newhere. how do i go about saying i want more wo being a total ass about it?
St. Nick Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 good stuff but how do i go about that without being a creep about it. like i said i'm new to this crap. rebound relationship or fwb of fb i dont care. i just dont want to keep talking to her for hours if this aint going newhere. how do i go about saying i want more wo being a total ass about it? Ask her out on a date. Don't think about it. Do it now. Example: "Lillian, wanna get together this Saturday?" She says sure where? You say tell her a spot where you'll have time with her w/o spending cash. She says Yeah. Then you say your goodbye and leave w/o any more conversation.
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