USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 ...all I can say is, wow... I decided to go back and look at my first few threads I started when I first joined LS while reading another thread just now between DenverBachelor and bananaboat...it brought back so many memories of the thoughts and feelings that were running through my head and heart just a few months back... It's kind of comforting to see how I've changed in such a short time...that things truly do get better...it's interesting to see how hopeless we were back then and how we've grown from our experiences...but at the same time, it also brought back memories of the past relationship... So for those who have been around LS for a little while...try taking a trip down memory lane and see how you'd react... Have you grown out of the hopeless phase...? Or perhaps stuck somewhere in between...? Or you didn't care to look...? Or you didn't know how to find it...?
DenverBachelor Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I do remember the day she stood up and said she thought we should break up all the way up until today. The only thing I can say is, I'd rather take a fast ball to the crotch than have to go through those first three days. Looking back, I don't even know how I got through work. I think my boss would peek in and just slip out. I finally e-mailed him the truth and he said just take the week off, man. Here's $200 for a hooker. I never got a hooker but I had a GREAT steak dinner and a few glasses of red wine before I realized that the break-up doesn't go away just because you get toasted. But those first three days? Give me a crossbow through the arm any day. Those first three days ABSOLUTELY sucked!
sunrae Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I found loveshack about 3 years ago, (I was under a different screen name) and when I think back about posting for that break up, geez, wow, I thought I would just die... It was the thoughest I had ever gone through.. Now trying to deal with this break up, i think back to that one sometimes, and think if I can get through that heartache, I can make it through this one.
bananaboat11 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 No... I wrote it all down... to get it out. I threw everything about nicole away... the good and the bad. It wasn't a real relationship. 4.5 months as a rebound. there's nothing to reconcile.. nothing to cherish.. nothing to miss. Just to rebuild my confidence after being used sexually... and to move on with my life. It's a nice thought and I hope it works for others. you rock KC
HeavenOrHell Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I don't feel any better yet Struggling with NC, so f****** lonely without him. Well I feel some relief at finally deciding whether to still keep in touch or not, but I am v sad and depressed.
Beeotch Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 ...all I can say is, wow... I decided to go back and look at my first few threads I started when I first joined LS while reading another thread just now between DenverBachelor and bananaboat...it brought back so many memories of the thoughts and feelings that were running through my head and heart just a few months back... It's kind of comforting to see how I've changed in such a short time...that things truly do get better...it's interesting to see how hopeless we were back then and how we've grown from our experiences...but at the same time, it also brought back memories of the past relationship... So for those who have been around LS for a little while...try taking a trip down memory lane and see how you'd react... Have you grown out of the hopeless phase...? Or perhaps stuck somewhere in between...? Or you didn't care to look...? Or you didn't know how to find it...? Im not at the point where I care to look. I KNOW I've grown and much has been illuminated that I will see was lacking in my other posts....but I dont see the benefit of going back.
scipio Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I did this a few months back. I went back four years to my first posts and reminisced about the time a bunch of well meaning strangers insisted that I needed therapy. Ahh,...good times.
teanoranges Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 just went back last night to read it.... brought back memories I wish it wouldn't have... darnnit! made a bad morning but everything is better now.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 just went back last night to read it.... brought back memories I wish it wouldn't have... darnnit! made a bad morning but everything is better now. Sorry teanoranges...I guess this was a bad idea that I brought up, huh...here everyone, drink this kool-aid! But while browsing through some of my old threads last night, I did see your name a lot...and thanks for your help and kind words through all I had been going through...it's also kind of nice to see others' transformations on LS over the months...
Lishy Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Looking back on first threads when you only joined months ago is not such a good idea! Looking back on threads when you joined years ago is quite funny! I did that a while ago and laughed at the things that used to drive me crazy. It shows how you move on and how time really really does heal! Oh wow why was I so upset??? You guys who are feeling upset looking back now will not feel this way in a years time, although you will have new issues to deal with! Thats life!
alphamale Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 my first thread was from 11-24-04 and titled: "Bad boyz....men who treat women bad and the women that love it"
D-Lish Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I remember my first thread- I had just been brutally dumped- and that was about 5 years ago. The guy was a total douche, I rarely ever think of him.
EricaH329 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 That is something I definitely don't want to do. I don't want to re-live those moments. They happened, and they were hard enough. Reading over them will just bring back those feelings. I think i'll stick with the current threads
Author USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 That is something I definitely don't want to do. I don't want to re-live those moments. They happened, and they were hard enough. Reading over them will just bring back those feelings. I think i'll stick with the current threads Awww...boo...yea, after I thought about it some more, this was probably not one of my better ideas...or threads...but I guess it did help me a little...although I'm not completely over it, I found that I'm doing a heck of a lot better than before...
carhill Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Believe it or not, I've only started one relationship-related thread on LS and took the advice offered and am now seeing a pleasant, long-divorced, stable lady I met on a dating site. Sorry to disappoint
EricaH329 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Awww...boo...yea, after I thought about it some more, this was probably not one of my better ideas...or threads...but I guess it did help me a little...although I'm not completely over it, I found that I'm doing a heck of a lot better than before... Oh definitely, I checked out my past threads a little while ago and realized how far i've come. That was about the only positive that came from it, though. I ended up re-living those moments which is something I don't ever want to do again. Not so soon anyway. Maybe in a few years from now. I actually have a diary that I write in maybe once a year, or once every 6 months. I've had it for about 10 years. Reading back on all of the boyfriends that I thought I was in love with, is humorous now. It wasn't at the time though. Sort of like the same concept.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Oh definitely, I checked out my past threads a little while ago and realized how far i've come. That was about the only positive that came from it, though. I ended up re-living those moments which is something I don't ever want to do again. Not so soon anyway. Maybe in a few years from now. I actually have a diary that I write in maybe once a year, or once every 6 months. I've had it for about 10 years. Reading back on all of the boyfriends that I thought I was in love with, is humorous now. It wasn't at the time though. Sort of like the same concept. Yep, absolutely. And it's somewhat encouraging to know that it does get better...it got better over the past few months, so it's sure to get even better over the next few months...of course at the time, we refused to believe it... I remember when people would post that things would eventually get better as time went on...and I would respond that I would be a cold, heartless, and untrusting for the rest of my life and never get over her...I refused to believe that it got better...and eventually they did get better, just as everyone said it would... I guess you just have to live through it before you can truly believe it...
EricaH329 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Yep, absolutely. And it's somewhat encouraging to know that it does get better...it got better over the past few months, so it's sure to get even better over the next few months...of course at the time, we refused to believe it... I remember when people would post that things would eventually get better as time went on...and I would respond that I would be a cold, heartless, and untrusting for the rest of my life and never get over her...I refused to believe that it got better...and eventually they did get better, just as everyone said it would... I guess you just have to live through it before you can truly believe it... It's definitely hard to believe that it can get better when you are the worst of it. Feels like you'll always be stuck in the hopeless rut you've found yourself in. But, just like you said, it does get better with time. And it will continue to get better with time until you feel absolute indifference towards the whole situation. Hard to believe, I know. But it does happen. And I believe that when that happens, it's a good idea to go back and read through those situations. It'll help you realize what exactly you've learned from it. I go back and read my diary every few months or so, and maybe add something else in if I feel necessary. But looking through all of the entries i've written so far, makes me realize how i've gotten to the point that I am at today. It's refreshing in a sense.
Odyssey Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 looking back at myself... sad and pathetic - i would totally kick his ass. Seemed like a different odyssey.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 im afraid to even look Yea...it'd probably be a good idea for you not to look...
Odyssey Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 im afraid to even lookToo soon G. you really don't wanna fall back into that hole again.
Author USMCHokie Posted February 11, 2010 Author Posted February 11, 2010 Too soon G. you really don't wanna fall back into that hole again. Nope...and it was a pretty dark, deep, and ugly hole...
paleblue Posted February 12, 2010 Posted February 12, 2010 Yes, it is weird how you change in just a matter of months, or even after a year or two. When you believe you will never feel any different at first. I used to be completely Crushed over my ex gf that I work with. Now, I have got past thinking I live and breathe just for her. In fact, I still hear from her. every month or two she contacts me, or comes around making noise trying to get my attention. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. She wants to be “friends”. Now, instead of that crushing devastation I used to feel, wondering everything about her, now its just a dull ache. Def out of the hopeless phase. Time really does heal. Its still strange tho, one second I still want her bad, the next I feel slightly repulsed.
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