Thebob Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 So I'm 21, longest thing I ever had with a girl is 2 months last summer (lost the V-card then), but we never really became official. Pretty much a summer fling, next girl likes me 2.5 months later, then we talk for like 2 months and She tell me she likes me when I asked her and that she would give me a try in the dating world, but soon flakes out. Only been with 6 girls hooking up wise in my whole life ( coulda been more but I have standards ). I just feel that something might be wrong since i've never had an official girlfriend. Im not a bad looking guy, i would show a pic but i don't like postin my pic on the internet. Girls think i'm cute obviously, but they never want to have an emotional and exclusive relationship. I see all these people holding hands, having a great time and I can't seem to have that until last summer for 2 months. idk what's up, maybe im just a little bit frusterated. Thebob
counterman Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 We all feel a bit jaded sometimes, but don't give up hope. The girls you describe do not seem to be the right girls for you. I don't think it is how you look. Where do you meet women?
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Gasp! It's thebob! Been a little while...
D-Lish Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 At 21, you're hardly in a position to deem yourself destined to be alone forever. The right girl will come along and it will happen for you.
Author Thebob Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Well I'm in college so at the clubs with my buddies, bars, and class and around my apartment complex. I can get a hookup decently easy, but it never goes further and I really want to try the permanent thing for once. I never really tried for a girlfriend till last summer, and it made me realize how nice it is to have someone there who cares about you even though it was only 2 months and ended up dieing out once it was LDR. It's like i like girls that dont like me and girls that i dont like think I'm attractive and it's always been that way my whole life. Sup Hokie! long time no talk, hows life treating you? Thebob
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Thebob, you sound a lot like me. I am a bit younger, but the longest "relationship" or "fling" I have ever had was a little over 2 months. Seriously, don't get down on yourself. I was starting to, but then hooked up with a girl about 5 years older than me and she was pretty good looking too. Actually, just recently I have been getting more confidence, and what do ya know. A lot more girls have started showing interest. I really think that with people like me and you, it's the confidence thing. When I am down about myself about the dating world, women seem to never come. But since my last "fling" with one of the best looking girls I've been with, I have had more than a few opportunities to get with a girl. Seriously, if you think the girls you have been with were pretty hot, then that obviously means you have the potential to get good looking women. I for one do not "attempt" to go meet girls, but if it happens, so be it. Another thing, really, you should not be upset. You are 21, and have a whole lifetime ahead of you to find a girl you have REAL feelings for. I just recently had real feelings for a girl, for the first time in my life. And it was absolutely incredible. She kind of flaked out but so what? It gave me the incentive to go out and look for someone else that have feelings for, that makes me happy when they smile etc. Thebob, get some confidence, and I know you most likely can get it easily, and things will turn around for you.
Author Thebob Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 well yea, both of the recent girls that I have hooked up with were my best looking girls that I have ever hooked up with. They were all rich, go to expensive colleges, and one was prolly a 7.5 outta 10 and the other was a 8 outta 10 with a face that was a 10 outta 10. I know that I'm a good looking guy and the confidence isn't a huge issue, it's just I cant seem to find a stable thing and its getting really annoying since im a pickier fellow when it comes to girls. Thebob
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Well I'm in college so at the clubs with my buddies, bars, and class and around my apartment complex. I can get a hookup decently easy, but it never goes further and I really want to try the permanent thing for once. I never really tried for a girlfriend till last summer, and it made me realize how nice it is to have someone there who cares about you even though it was only 2 months and ended up dieing out once it was LDR. It's like i like girls that dont like me and girls that i dont like think I'm attractive and it's always been that way my whole life. Sup Hokie! long time no talk, hows life treating you? Thebob Hey man, life's been alright...just taking it a day at a time...it's certainly been a lot better than it was a few months back...how have you been? I remember that you took a break from LS to do real life things... As has been said several times already, you're still young...don't focus too much attention on relationships and just enjoy living your life...you're in college!!! The permanent long-term thing will come...don't force something with someone just because you want to be in a long-term relationship...it will just end in disappointment...you want to be in a relationship with someone that you want to spend your life with...take your time...it'll happen...
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 well yea, both of the recent girls that I have hooked up with were my best looking girls that I have ever hooked up with. They were all rich, go to expensive colleges, and one was prolly a 7.5 outta 10 and the other was a 8 outta 10 with a face that was a 10 outta 10. I know that I'm a good looking guy and the confidence isn't a huge issue, it's just I cant seem to find a stable thing and its getting really annoying since im a pickier fellow when it comes to girls. Thebob This is good...like I said in my last post, don't rush into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship...you want to be with someone that you want to spend your time with...if it takes a little time to find that person, so be it...at least have fun in the process!
counterman Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 This is good...like I said in my last post, don't rush into a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship...you want to be with someone that you want to spend your time with...if it takes a little time to find that person, so be it...at least have fun in the process! YES! Can't emphasise that enough. Sometimes when we feel lonely, we could easily fall for the trap of rushing into a relationship with someone we don't really want to be with. Take the time to meet new girls and date around.
Author Thebob Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Hey man, life's been alright...just taking it a day at a time...it's certainly been a lot better than it was a few months back...how have you been? I remember that you took a break from LS to do real life things... As has been said several times already, you're still young...don't focus too much attention on relationships and just enjoy living your life...you're in college!!! The permanent long-term thing will come...don't force something with someone just because you want to be in a long-term relationship...it will just end in disappointment...you want to be in a relationship with someone that you want to spend your life with...take your time...it'll happen... Been doing real good, except on the girl department. Work is great, school is blah blah blah, and I'm finally gettin back on LS to catch up with people who helped me a lot in the past such as yourself. Hope all is well, and i'm prolly just being dumb about this whole thing but it can get absolutely frustrating in my opinion. And yea i realized that being on LS back in the day as much as I was wasn't allowing me to recover so I moved on and went out with my buddies and now I feel that I am willing to give very good helpful feedback because i am over that 2 month girl officially now. Thebob
hearttobreak Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 At 21, you're hardly in a position to deem yourself destined to be alone forever. The right girl will come along and it will happen for you. No guarantees on that... Only death and taxes my dear....
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 well yea, both of the recent girls that I have hooked up with were my best looking girls that I have ever hooked up with. They were all rich, go to expensive colleges, and one was prolly a 7.5 outta 10 and the other was a 8 outta 10 with a face that was a 10 outta 10. I know that I'm a good looking guy and the confidence isn't a huge issue, it's just I cant seem to find a stable thing and its getting really annoying since im a pickier fellow when it comes to girls. Thebob Well, it seems like you just need to not try and rush the relationship thing. Because sooner or later a girl will come that wants to be with you and you want to be with her. It hasn't happened to me yet. And I know what you mean by it's nice having that someone around to talk to. I was in a rough time last semester, and this girl came along and made everything seem better. Now she and I are no longer talking, dating, whatever. And I do miss being able to talk to her. Thinking about it makes me upset, because I was so happy when she was around. But I just have to move along. And everytime I seem to like a girl and eventually would think about getting more serious, they fall out. So whatever, someone will come eventually. Who knows when, could even be tomorrow, or next week. But overall, I know where you're coming from, and it sucks. But you can't look at it as bad. I know I sure did a little while ago, but in the end, it just made me more upset. Best of luck
Jang.hye Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Hey, you're still young..you could still find the right one for you..just dont be that picky hehe try online dating haha
Author Thebob Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 online dating, nah I don't like the sound of that at all. And yea one will come eventually is kinda annoying as well due to the fact that could be 30 years down the road? and she'll ask me, how many girlfriends have you had? ill say 0 and she'll laugh. Most of the girlfriends that I have are surprised that I have never had a girlfriend, and when I asked them how many women they thought I been with they were like "a lot". Even the little kids I teach ask me if I am dating someone and I'm like nope.. And they are even shocked. It's like wtf pretty much haha Thebob
Jang.hye Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Well..sometimes it's fun but I'm not actually into it. I was just suggesting.
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