mem11363 Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 If the guy is physically into you there is a certain amount of sexual activity he will initiate. It really isn't complicated. He can tell you how hot you are all day long, but the two simplest measures of how sexually crazed he is by you are: - raw frequency - frequency with which he GIVES you oral sex without being asked/pressured this is for a typical guy - i would say this gives an accurate picture of about 80 percent of the male population in the US - I tend to doubt that the males in Saudi Arabia are as inclined to give oral sex so over there you need a different metric. I'm curious what he tells you about your looks? Personally if I'd seen SO in a public place rather than meeting him online, I'd never have had the nerve to talk to him. He is gorgeous and so out of my league it's not even funny. I see how other people look at him, and I worry that he will find someone hotter. The funny part? He says exactly the same thing about me. He probably thinks you are far hotter than *you* think you are. The ones who love us usually do
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 odd how the men seem to go back to sex in this thread... The OP's issues have little to nothing to do with sex!
Toodamnpragmatic Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 odd how the men seem to go back to sex in this thread... The OP's issues have little to nothing to do with sex! Because men often place sex high on the priority list. If the two have a great sexual chemistry, then looks certainly play a much smaller part. I have been honest and said if I was as good looking as the OP claims her husband is, with women commenting and throwing themselves at me, and my sex life and lust quotient with my wife was low, then yes she should worry...... What is more curious is the OP, who asked the question, hasn't answered any of our questions about sex......
mem11363 Posted February 17, 2010 Posted February 17, 2010 The OPs issue is ALL about his desire for her and there is only one way to measure that - his ACTIVITY LEVEL odd how the men seem to go back to sex in this thread... The OP's issues have little to nothing to do with sex!
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 The OPs issue is ALL about his desire for her and there is only one way to measure that - his ACTIVITY LEVEL I respectfully disagree... One cannot measure his desire for her as a lifetime partner based solely (or even primarily) on how often he intiates or actively pursues sex with her...
mem11363 Posted February 18, 2010 Posted February 18, 2010 I 100 percent agree that his sexual attraction is not the sole/primary desire for her as a lifetime partner. But her initial post was SOLELY about how - loosely speaking he is a 9 and she is a 6. Some women marry men they are not really attracted to the man - this is typically a strong provider play. Some men marry a woman they think will be a good - "mother/friend/etc." even though they are not that attracted to her. In both those cases - sometimes the other partner ends up with a major league case of sexual frustration. Also - many of the women who marry the provider often end up giving the love you/not in love with you speech to the guy. I figured that the OP was about the risk of losing this guy over time to a hotter woman. Generally speaking - the more a guy is into you that way the less vulnerable he is to an affair even "starting" much less him leaving the marriage over it. I respectfully disagree... One cannot measure his desire for her as a lifetime partner based solely (or even primarily) on how often he intiates or actively pursues sex with her...
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