ryanrabl Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 So its been a year since my ex-fiance left me and I am now COMPLETELY over it and feel like the happiest man in the world.Last halloween I met a girl that I kept seeing on my bus route.I saw her for an entire week and for some reason she caught my eye.At this party,I had a a little bit of liquid courage,thus i approached her.We hit it off and had a really interesting conversation..at the end of the night ,we exchanged numbers.We began texting each other on and off but I soon found out that she got out of a four year relationship with her long distance ex.We quickly then decided to just be friends considering she was still in love with her ex but never planned on getting back together with him. Fast forward to now------------> Since new years,we have been contacting each other.Mostly its been her texting me asking how im doing blah blah blah.One night we were supposed to go to a party that our mutual friend was throwing,she ended up not showing up.I later got a text with her apologizing and she proposed to take me out for ice cream.I obliged and we went out but she "Wanted to go as friends".We went out and spoke for about 4 hours about everything..her body language spoke for itself (aka eye contact,flicking hair,laughing at everything i said).I get a feeling she likes me..but is shy.What do you guys think?Is she giving me the signs?Should I ask her out on a "date"?
St. Nick Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Don't just ask her out on a date. Give her flowers, chocolate, and have a carriage ride arranged. Tell her you love her and wanna be with her forever. If that doesn't make her like you then she's a total bitch.
Leia Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Don't just ask her out on a date. Give her flowers, chocolate, and have a carriage ride arranged. Tell her you love her and wanna be with her forever. If that doesn't make her like you then she's a total bitch. Ryan, sometimes we tend to read too much into someone's body language. 4 years is a long time and I doubt she's over her ex. I don't think you would want to be her rebound?
Author ryanrabl Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Don't just ask her out on a date. Give her flowers, chocolate, and have a carriage ride arranged. Tell her you love her and wanna be with her forever. If that doesn't make her like you then she's a total bitch. Little harsh,huh?Ive been out this dating thing in a while.But i get it,i guess im just pulling teeth to make myself believe things that may not be true..
Author ryanrabl Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Ryan, sometimes we tend to read too much into someone's body language. 4 years is a long time and I doubt she's over her ex. I don't think you would want to be her rebound? Its been 6 months since she has been broken up..but it was 4 YEARS.The last thing i want is to be a rebound..
sullysteve Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 "Wanted to go as friends" I'm sorry man, but this means you have no chance.
Author ryanrabl Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 "Wanted to go as friends" I'm sorry man, but this means you have no chance. Perhaps you're right,but its funny because my past 2 girlfriends have said the same thing when i met them and it ended up serious relationships. In the end,Ill let her come to me if she wants something..im not that desperate but everyone keeps telling me to watch out for body language and all that ****.
sullysteve Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Perhaps you're right,but its funny because my past 2 girlfriends have said the same thing when i met them and it ended up serious relationships. That's really interesting. Were they good relationships? In my experience, hearing the dreaded "f" word means it's over. I'm curious to hear more...
Author ryanrabl Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 For the most part they were great relationships.I asked this question because I am seeing this as a recurring trend.My first gf with this situation lasted a mere 6 months because she moved away and I decided I did not want a LDR.My second relationship lasted 2 years and I was engaged to her..until she left me for another guy (for the most part,im happy it happened..god saved me).I guess the whole "friend" thing has worked because I dont put myself in a position to be an emotional tampon..rather I try to keep a little bit of a distance.Ive been in the friend zone already.I dont know why being friends at first always works..I dont have a connection with many girls and the fact that me and this girl had the most animated and candid conversation I have had has given me this inclination.According to St.Nick above,Im the most desperate man..when all I want is some perspective on my situation.Another detail is that this girl is one of those really shy girls..so i cant really expect her to be some aggressive extrovert and outright tell me she is interested.right?
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