Secondish date reschedule but not responding.

[andree002]

So I met this girl in one of my classes(college), she kept asking me to do things with her on campus during class breaks, etc.

 

So I finally manned up and got her number and called the next day and asked her to study for a while(her idea) then go get some lunch.

 

Everything went cool, wasn't a very formal date, so I didn't think too much of it, this was a Friday by the way. At the end I asked her to go to dinner and a movie next week, she said yes.

 

So a 3 days later I see her on Monday, everything is cool, says were still on.

 

Then I text her today after her class gets out and she says she might not be able to go because her boss called and asked her to come in that night. So I text her back that that is unfortunate but a reschedule is fine and when she would like to reschedule too. So far it's been about the whole day( I talked with her about 12:30) and she hasn't responded.

 

It's not that it bugs me that much, but if she doesn't want to go out with me that is fine, but I can't see why she isn't responding now when I know she had all day to respond before work.

 

And now I have to sit next to her in a 3 hour long class tomorrow and I don't know what to say really or if I should say anything at all, lest it make things uncomfortable.

 

So any advice on what I should say/do? I was thinking just bringing it up with her before class and if she seems squirmy I will just drop it and move on, but if she just says sorry, didnt respond etc we can reschedule for whenever, should I even bother?

Edited February 10, 2010 by andree002
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[aroll32]

You should probably not say anything. I've been in a similar situation, but if she's interested, she will most likely bring it up and say sorry or something of the sort. If she's not interested, she probably won't. Just wait and see. Good luck

[D-Lish]

It's possible she hasn't responded because she already agreed to reschedule and knows she is going to see you tomorrow.

[andree002]

You should probably not say anything. I've been in a similar situation, but if she's interested, she will most likely bring it up and say sorry or something of the sort. If she's not interested, she probably won't. Just wait and see. Good luck

 

 

Yea I guess either way I shouldn't bring it up with her unless she does first and guess I should go from there. Just seemed odd to me because she has responded to my other texts usually fairly quickly. Time to wait it out until tomorrow Thanks for the advice.

[andree002]

It's possible she hasn't responded because she already agreed to reschedule and knows she is going to see you tomorrow.

 

 

That's true, just seems odd when you have a date planned and they cancel midday(albeit a decent excuse) and do not reply after that, even to a question. I guess I simply have to wait until tomorrow.

[D-Lish]

That's true, just seems odd when you have a date planned and they cancel midday(albeit a decent excuse) and do not reply after that, even to a question. I guess I simply have to wait until tomorrow.

 

Well whatever you do, don't send her another text.

Since she cancelled, she should be the one to bring up when to reschedule. I'd just act unphased when you see her. If she doesn't mention a different time to go out- then you can safely say she isn't interested and move on.

[aroll32]

Yeah, be careful with this one too. If she does bring it up, and says she wants to reschedule, that's good. But remember that she didn't respond. And you said you even asked a question in the text. Literally just got out of a situation where the girl would do exactly that. She stopped talking to me randomly one day, even after she asked me to help her move into her dorm room. So yeah, be careful, and take it slow. Wait for her to take the initiative tomorrow. And chances are she probably will, but again, don't invest in anything too quickly

[andree002]

Well whatever you do, don't send her another text.

Since she cancelled, she should be the one to bring up when to reschedule. I'd just act unphased when you see her. If she doesn't mention a different time to go out- then you can safely say she isn't interested and move on.

 

 

Yea that sounds good. That is what I was pretty much thinking myself. Thanks for that.

[andree002]

Yeah, be careful with this one too. If she does bring it up, and says she wants to reschedule, that's good. But remember that she didn't respond. And you said you even asked a question in the text. Literally just got out of a situation where the girl would do exactly that. She stopped talking to me randomly one day, even after she asked me to help her move into her dorm room. So yeah, be careful, and take it slow. Wait for her to take the initiative tomorrow. And chances are she probably will, but again, don't invest in anything too quickly

 

That does sound pretty similar actually, and yea I won't invest to much thought into it. I just can't stand when people stop responding to direct questions, so it just kinda of irks me.

[aroll32]

Yeah, I know. It killed me when this girl wouldn't respond or anything. Because I had strong feelings for her. I thought she did as well. But I guess she didn't. Don't over analyze anything either. She may have just been busy and forgot. It's not like she should be thinking about you ALL the time already. Just relax about this. I really think she's going to bring it up tomorrow and say sorry and whatnot, maybe reschedule. The girl I was talking to even asked me to go out to see a movie one time. A little weird, no? And after that she still wouldn't respond sometimes. Especially after the first date. And with that being said, don't analyze things, because it only makes it worse and makes you think about it more. I know because that's exactly what I did and look what happened. Definitely keep me posted though.

[andree002]

Yeah, I know. It killed me when this girl wouldn't respond or anything. Because I had strong feelings for her. I thought she did as well. But I guess she didn't. Don't over analyze anything either. She may have just been busy and forgot. It's not like she should be thinking about you ALL the time already. Just relax about this. I really think she's going to bring it up tomorrow and say sorry and whatnot, maybe reschedule. The girl I was talking to even asked me to go out to see a movie one time. A little weird, no? And after that she still wouldn't respond sometimes. Especially after the first date. And with that being said, don't analyze things, because it only makes it worse and makes you think about it more. I know because that's exactly what I did and look what happened. Definitely keep me posted though.

 

 

That's what I am hoping for, an apology and reschedule would do fine, I would just have to be a little more wary in the short term. And yea that is a little wierd asking you then not responding, it's like...huh? Yea I am just gonna get some school work done and just coast through tommorrow. I will let you know how it goes.

[aroll32]

For sure, actually, I wouldn't expect anything if I were you. That way it makes it better for you if she actually does say something about it. And then, it lets you take your mind off of it as well. Good luck tomorrow

[andree002]

True, I will do that. And thanks

[andree002]

For sure, actually, I wouldn't expect anything if I were you. That way it makes it better for you if she actually does say something about it. And then, it lets you take your mind off of it as well. Good luck tomorrow

 

So just thought I would update here. Talked outside class about nothing for a min, then during our class when we took our break we kinda just walked around, talking about random stuff. She brought up work and how she got called in blah blah couldn't say no to her boss, the usual. And I kinda caved and said something like, so did you want to reschedule, and she said oh ya definitly, sorry about that. And I was like are you sure? It's no big if you don't want to, and she said something like no no I want to, I just don't want to cancel on you again, so give me a couple days to get my work schedule set up and I will text you when I am free. Also she apologized about the texts, she forgot I think is what she said.

 

So basically in the end I had to ask, and we didn't really set anything up definitively. So I guess I will wait for the text and just be wary of another cancel, and if she doesn't text then that's pretty obvious. Either way my expectations aren't exactly high. What do you think?

[D-Lish]

I kinda caved and said something like, so did you want to reschedule, and she said oh ya definitly, sorry about that. And I was like are you sure? It's no big if you don't want to

 

I'd stay away from questions like this with women whenever possible as it can come across as a bit needy or desperate. You want to give the impression that you are confident and carefree.

 

From here on out, don't ask her about rescheduling the date, the ball is in her court.

 

Just be patient- and if she doesn't mention anything, it's time to move on. If she's genuine about getting together, and she likes you- she'll reschedule.

[aroll32]

Again Andree, this sounds a lot like what happened to me. All I can say is be confident, don't rush into it, and don't look into anything that happens. Maybe you will have better luck than I did. This girl seems to be a lot like the one I was talking to. She's interested, but has a lot of other things going on, and you aren't gonna be number one on her priority list. And you shouldn't be right now. She shouldn't be either. Just see what happens, take it slow. I'm sure you guys will get together a decent amount because it does sound like she's interested, but not too interested. Just like my situation. Keep updating with what's going on, I want to see if it parallels with what happened to me

[andree002]

I'd stay away from questions like this with women whenever possible as it can come across as a bit needy or desperate. You want to give the impression that you are confident and carefree.

 

From here on out, don't ask her about rescheduling the date, the ball is in her court.

 

Just be patient- and if she doesn't mention anything, it's time to move on. If she's genuine about getting together, and she likes you- she'll reschedule.

 

 

True on the question thing, was probably not the best choice of words there. And yea I wasn't planning on contacting her again unless she does first. So just a waiting game now, but like I said before, my expectations aren't exactly placed high ;P

[andree002]

Again Andree, this sounds a lot like what happened to me. All I can say is be confident, don't rush into it, and don't look into anything that happens. Maybe you will have better luck than I did. This girl seems to be a lot like the one I was talking to. She's interested, but has a lot of other things going on, and you aren't gonna be number one on her priority list. And you shouldn't be right now. She shouldn't be either. Just see what happens, take it slow. I'm sure you guys will get together a decent amount because it does sound like she's interested, but not too interested. Just like my situation. Keep updating with what's going on, I want to see if it parallels with what happened to me

 

 

Yup about the priority, I don't expect to be, but being forgotten is kinda bleh. But yup just gonna chillax and work for a while and not think about it and if it happens it does, if not no big. I will keep you updated.

[andree002]

Thought I would do a quick update. She never called/texted, not much surprise there. So that's pretty much it, now I just have to sit next to her in my classes. Time to be friendly

[aroll32]

Yup, sorry about that man, good luck though