confused1989 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Spending my Valentines day/night at a cabin party with girlfriend and her friends. Is it wrong for me to expect to sleep with her and her only in the bed that night? She has one of her friends third wheeling in the bed with us, and this is the friend who was a cockblock from the beginning of our 6 month relationship, and has only ever said negative things about me. Do I have any right here to be angry? I mean c'mon.. it's Valentines Day. I have to sleep where this "friend" tells me to sleep too. She's calling all the shots. Why is this bothering me?
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Haha although I feel for you, USMCHokie has a point. But then again, I thought girls were really into the whole valentine thing. I would be pissed personally, but I am sure you will have a chance to make it up the next day. If not, then the day after. On New Years Eve the girl I was talking to wasn't at my friends party. Everyone's all big on the New Years kiss thing but it didn't really matter to me. She even sent me a text that said kiss if I was there. But in the end it didn't really matter because she was a bitch
Author confused1989 Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 aroll lol that post made me laugh. Sure it's just another day.. but even if it was just another day I wouldn't want one of my buddies sleeping in bed with me and my girlfriend if I could help it.
soulm8 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 It's bothering you because you're not happy in this relationship. I can't see how you would be based on your other threads. Stop allowing her to string you along!! It's Vday... she obviously doesn't WANT to be alone with you any more than she wants to be your girlfriend. Dump her and find someone more compatible. Demanding sex the way she did was disgusting and degrading. She's gonna get worse and worse.
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Haha yup. That's what I mean, I would be extremely upset if that happened to me. But if your gf's friend was a bitch to begin with, I wouldn't expect anything less
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 aroll lol that post made me laugh. Sure it's just another day.. but even if it was just another day I wouldn't want one of my buddies sleeping in bed with me and my girlfriend if I could help it. Wait...this is one of her male friends...? Hmmm, in that case...tell him to be a f*cking man and sleep on the f*cking floor...
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Wait...this is one of her male friends...? Hmmm, in that case...tell him to be a f*cking man and sleep on the f*cking floor... Yeah wait I just assumed this friend is a girl. If it's a guy, USMCHokie couldn't have put it better
Author confused1989 Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 No, sorry. It's one of her b*tchy female friends who have nothing but a negative influence on her and our relationship. I was just saying if it was the other way around, I'd never want one of my friends sleeping with us when we could be sleeping alone, so why should she. and thanks soulm8 for following my threads. The part you said about it being degrading was definitely a boost to my self-esteem so thanks for that. People always make it seem like it's your fault when maybe sometimes you need an unbiased opinion to see that it's not.
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Again, if her friend is a complete bitch, I would have expected something like this. Not entirely. But something close to. Haha, I can't help but think how pissed I would be if that happened to me. Have you talked to you girl about it?
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 No, sorry. It's one of her b*tchy female friends who have nothing but a negative influence on her and our relationship. I was just saying if it was the other way around, I'd never want one of my friends sleeping with us when we could be sleeping alone, so why should she. Yea, I assumed that you were talking about a girl too...well, I don't know the past or the history between you and this girl...but this wouldn't be a big deal for me if one of my ex's female friends needed bedspace for the night... I would be the one sleeping on the floor...
soulm8 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 You bet, but there's no question she's a b!tch and has no business being in a relationship. She's a barfly and is probably used to guys pawing at her. The way she expected you to just F*ck her is a clear indication that she thinks she's IT.
skydiveaddict Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Spending my Valentines day/night at a cabin party with girlfriend and her friends. Is it wrong for me to expect to sleep with her and her only in the bed that night? She has one of her friends third wheeling in the bed with us, and this is the friend who was a cockblock from the beginning of our 6 month relationship, and has only ever said negative things about me. Do I have any right here to be angry? I mean c'mon.. it's Valentines Day. I have to sleep where this "friend" tells me to sleep too. She's calling all the shots. What a dilemma. I don't know what to tell ya! I have to go back to Afghanistan in three months, do I really have to go where where the U.S. sends me? They seem to be calling all the shots! Why is this bothering me?
Author confused1989 Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Yeah, I said I don't appreciate it or whatever and that I wouldn't do it to her. She ignored it. Obviously I'm super pissed. I told her I'd find a mattress and sleep somewhere else. I don't like how her friend is the one calling the shots, where I sleep etc. She also told me they need me to stay with them to "keep the bed warm". This is happening on Saturday, the 13th. I'm supposed to be spending $200 the next day to take this chick bungee jumping, and frankly, I just feel like going and getting drunk with my buddies instead.
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 What a dilemma. I don't know what to tell ya! I have to go back to Afghanistan in three months, do I really have to go where where the U.S. sends me? They seem to be calling all the shots! Why is this bothering me? Haha, lmao. Sorry for that. But thanks for serving our country! I wish I had the guts to do something like that
Author confused1989 Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 skydiveaddict, yes there are definitely more bigger things I could be worried about. Even though I'm not even from the U.S. I respect what you do for your country and best of luck to you in Afghanistan
soulm8 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I was going to say something the other day, but now it's painfully obvious... she and her friend are playing with you. They're carpet munchers.
aroll32 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Yeah, I said I don't appreciate it or whatever and that I wouldn't do it to her. She ignored it. Obviously I'm super pissed. I told her I'd find a mattress and sleep somewhere else. I don't like how her friend is the one calling the shots, where I sleep etc. She also told me they need me to stay with them to "keep the bed warm". This is happening on Saturday, the 13th. I'm supposed to be spending $200 the next day to take this chick bungee jumping, and frankly, I just feel like going and getting drunk with my buddies instead. Hell yes man. I really think you should do that. It shows her that she's kind of being a bitch as well in this situation. But, it may complicate things for you after. But tell her straight up what the deal is. If she has respect for you, she should understand what you are doing. Then again, you are dating. and it's Valentines Day. Confront her about it, see how she feels
skydiveaddict Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 skydiveaddict, yes there are definitely more bigger things I could be worried about. Even though I'm not even from the U.S. I respect what you do for your country and best of luck to you in Afghanistan Thx man. And don't take offense. I was just goofing around
skydiveaddict Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 i was going to say something the other day, but now it's painfully obvious... She and her friend are playing with you. They're carpet munchers. ouch lmfao!
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 What a dilemma. I don't know what to tell ya! I have to go back to Afghanistan in three months, do I really have to go where where the U.S. sends me? They seem to be calling all the shots! Why is this bothering me? Ooorah. Stay safe, my friend. I take it you jump out of airplanes for a living...?
skydiveaddict Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Ooorah. Stay safe, my friend. I take it you jump out of airplanes for a living...? naw Im' just Army Nat'l Guard. (21B).. I'm a wind turbine tech by trade. The skydiving is just for fun
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 naw Im' just Army Nat'l Guard. (21B).. I'm a wind turbine tech by trade. The skydiving is just for fun Very cool.
skydiveaddict Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Very cool. Thanks man. I figure if you're in the army, you may as well have fun blowing up buildings and stuff. Still we got quite a bit of direct contact with the ACF over there. Just regular combat, at least we did last time .
D-Lish Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Yeah, I said I don't appreciate it or whatever and that I wouldn't do it to her. She ignored it. Obviously I'm super pissed. I told her I'd find a mattress and sleep somewhere else. I don't like how her friend is the one calling the shots, where I sleep etc. She also told me they need me to stay with them to "keep the bed warm". This is happening on Saturday, the 13th. I'm supposed to be spending $200 the next day to take this chick bungee jumping, and frankly, I just feel like going and getting drunk with my buddies instead. If I were you I would back out and not go- then I would go out and get drunk with your buddies on the Sunday.
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