Sith Apprentice Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 My own experience dictates never get emotionally involved with a girl you met via the internet. Use them all as f*ck baubles then get the hell out of dodge. That's if you eventually meet them - which is in itself sometimes very difficult to arrange. Based on what I've seen, online personals seem to be a good method of getting some exhibition-game, ungraded practice and a little much-needed sumpin' sumpin' for those in a slump. The male to female ratio is about 99999999 to 1 so the competition sucks, so you need a good profile that gets attention. (Lie if you have to.) My profile below which is guaranteed to produce responses from women. All you AFC's can use it to take notes. Don't babble on about this and that and about how "nice" of a guy you are. If you really are nice you're not gonna have a chance anyway. If being nice isn't working then it's time to get outrageous! "Here is a well thought out idea of what kind of gal I am interested in...5' 5" or taller, but not over 5'8" feet (because while I don't mind being eye to eye with you, I won't ever be looking up to you), lives close enough to be at my house within 10 minutes after I make the call, genuinely passionate, intelligent enough to be good company, sexually available (preferably insatiable) and VERY attractive - we're talking Jessica Alba, Keyra Augustina attractive - women with a bodyfat percentage higher than 8% need not apply. Must be employed but not so as you'll interfere with our sexual activities, FAMILY oriented, but only after you've hit 30-33, open to spontaneous sex (you know, like outdoor stuff or a surprise 3 way with one of your hot girlfriends after our 2nd martini), likes to camp (in the nude), knows not to complain when I go play golf with the guys from work. She must want children after 33 years of age if at all, and only after she's proven to be a good mother and faithful wife, must be a lady with class and know when the right time is to speak and not to speak, not a prude or b!tch, can take the first hint, sociable, unexpectedly calls to tell me she's wearing something new from Fredericks of Hollywood, understands that the best gift she can give me is expressing her desire to ***k me like a wild animal, and also understands that gifts for her are treats or rewards for desired behavior. Must be respectful of my decisions being final, can't take herself too seriously and thinks the world of me. I'm not interested in anyone over 30 (since this is most women's expiration date anyway), she cannot have exhorbitant spending habits or a credit debtload in excess of $1,000 since I do not plan on changing the lifestyle I have grown accustom to and hope to one day be able to send my own children to college, and furthermore... my children will be taught to reasonably earn their achievements on their own and respect the decisions of their father and mother (and absolutely will not be spoiled brats either). She should also know that not only are most pets abject money pits, but more often than not are adopted by women in order to give themselves something to occupy them rather than connecting with their husbands. I'm very attracted to redheads, blondes, brunettes, Latinos, Asians, African-Americans, Pacific Islanders, etc., pretty much any woman that meets my physical requirements. I am not attracted at all to even slightly fat women no matter how much "inner beauty" you think you may possess, sorry tee hee!"
USMCHokie Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Generally speaking when I was in my 20's, I avoided average guys. I only wanted hot guys. I was hot and wanted another hottie. Then again at that time I wasn't searching online for men (I wasn't even online then). And there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting the most attractive partner. However, it's a little different if after failing with the most attractive guys, a women then assumes that the rest of the male population is obese, ugly, unsuccessful, or creepy just because the bottom 5% of guys are. Then she complains that there's no guys out there worthy of dating. If that's her attitude, good on her, guys don't need a girl like that.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I used to think this too, but now I believe that you have to be somewhat proactive and do things to put yourself in dating situations. There is a certain amount of "try" that is required...if you just live life, you may end up waiting a lot more than you want... Its good to let the other person know you are interested, but if you do too much, then you loose focus and balance of your own hobby, interest and life.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 My own experience dictates never get emotionally involved with a girl you met via the internet. Use them all as f*ck baubles then get the hell out of dodge. That's if you eventually meet them - which is in itself sometimes very difficult to arrange. Based on what I've seen, online personals seem to be a good method of getting some exhibition-game, ungraded practice and a little much-needed sumpin' sumpin' for those in a slump. The male to female ratio is about 99999999 to 1 so the competition sucks, so you need a good profile that gets attention. (Lie if you have to.) My profile below which is guaranteed to produce responses from women. All you AFC's can use it to take notes. Don't babble on about this and that and about how "nice" of a guy you are. If you really are nice you're not gonna have a chance anyway. If being nice isn't working then it's time to get outrageous! "Here is a well thought out idea of what kind of gal I am interested in...5' 5" or taller, but not over 5'8" feet (because while I don't mind being eye to eye with you, I won't ever be looking up to you), lives close enough to be at my house within 10 minutes after I make the call, genuinely passionate, intelligent enough to be good company, sexually available (preferably insatiable) and VERY attractive - we're talking Jessica Alba, Keyra Augustina attractive - women with a bodyfat percentage higher than 8% need not apply. Must be employed but not so as you'll interfere with our sexual activities, FAMILY oriented, but only after you've hit 30-33, open to spontaneous sex (you know, like outdoor stuff or a surprise 3 way with one of your hot girlfriends after our 2nd martini), likes to camp (in the nude), knows not to complain when I go play golf with the guys from work. She must want children after 33 years of age if at all, and only after she's proven to be a good mother and faithful wife, must be a lady with class and know when the right time is to speak and not to speak, not a prude or b!tch, can take the first hint, sociable, unexpectedly calls to tell me she's wearing something new from Fredericks of Hollywood, understands that the best gift she can give me is expressing her desire to ***k me like a wild animal, and also understands that gifts for her are treats or rewards for desired behavior. Must be respectful of my decisions being final, can't take herself too seriously and thinks the world of me. I'm not interested in anyone over 30 (since this is most women's expiration date anyway), she cannot have exhorbitant spending habits or a credit debtload in excess of $1,000 since I do not plan on changing the lifestyle I have grown accustom to and hope to one day be able to send my own children to college, and furthermore... my children will be taught to reasonably earn their achievements on their own and respect the decisions of their father and mother (and absolutely will not be spoiled brats either). She should also know that not only are most pets abject money pits, but more often than not are adopted by women in order to give themselves something to occupy them rather than connecting with their husbands. I'm very attracted to redheads, blondes, brunettes, Latinos, Asians, African-Americans, Pacific Islanders, etc., pretty much any woman that meets my physical requirements. I am not attracted at all to even slightly fat women no matter how much "inner beauty" you think you may possess, sorry tee hee!" If that's you in the profile, then you have a lot of balls asking for a woman way above what you deserve.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 If that's you in the profile, then you have a lot of balls asking for a woman way above what you deserve. Yeah, that's a tall order!
greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 And there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting the most attractive partner. However, it's a little different if after failing with the most attractive guys, a women then assumes that the rest of the male population is obese, ugly, unsuccessful, or creepy just because the bottom 5% of guys are. Then she complains that there's no guys out there worthy of dating. If that's her attitude, good on her, guys don't need a girl like that. I don't think that way, I'm sure most online are average guys. However, personally the guys I've connected with online were below average. To be honest, most of the times I was looking online, I wasn't serious. I didn't search for guys, just chatted with the ones who contacted me. That's another reason my memberships expired. If I do it again (if the guy I like doesn't work out) I will actively search out guys. That way I can screen out the dads, the obese, the desperate, and the stupid.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Yeah' date=' that's a tall order![/quote'] I wouldn't be surprised. I remember one guy whose profile I saw online. He was jobless, lived with his mom, going for his GED (he was about 34), obese, and homely. In his profile he was asking for thin good looking women with good jobs. I'm sure he's probably still jobless and living with his mom.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I wouldn't be surprised. I remember one guy whose profile I saw online. He was jobless, lived with his mom, going for his GED (he was about 34), obese, and homely. In his profile he was asking for thin good looking women with good jobs. I'm sure he's probably still jobless and living with his mom. Don't make fun of me like that!!! PS - are you a thin, good looking woman with a good job?
greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Don't make fun of me like that!!! PS - are you a thin, good looking woman with a good job? Well, that used to be the case until I got laid off. When I find another job, then the answer is yes. I workout often and was a model (and have fantastic genes).
meerkat stew Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I wouldn't be surprised. I remember one guy whose profile I saw online. He was jobless, lived with his mom, going for his GED (he was about 34), obese, and homely. In his profile he was asking for thin good looking women with good jobs. I'm sure he's probably still jobless and living with his mom. Why didn't you reply to my 17 Emails? Why o why? I had taken all your pictures from your profile and made a candle shrine of them. I renamed one of my stuffed animals after your user name and hugged it all night hoping you would respond. Even read the book "The Secret", wished on a star and threw pennies in every fountain in town...
greatgirlfriend Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Why didn't you reply to my 17 Emails? Why o why? I had taken all your pictures from your profile and made a candle shrine of them. I renamed one of my stuffed animals after your user name and hugged it all night hoping you would respond. Even read the book "The Secret", wished on a star and threw pennies in every fountain in town... Because you never sent me the dozen red roses you promised me.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Why didn't you reply to my 17 Emails? Why o why? I had taken all your pictures from your profile and made a candle shrine of them. I renamed one of my stuffed animals after your user name and hugged it all night hoping you would respond. Even read the book "The Secret", wished on a star and threw pennies in every fountain in town... Hey, "The Secret" is a great read. Just at my reading level too!
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Perhaps it's a plus being average. Thanks to the nice LS ladies helping me a bit with my dating profile, I've been happily seeing a 'normal' (thank god) lady for about a month now. I'm in no hurry since I'm not divorced yet and she's quite happily single (divorced 8 years). Like I've said in other threads, online dating is just a method of interaction, kinda like an online Starbucks. People of all sorts inhabit both places. At my stage in life, I'm not interested in all the drama stuff. It's nice to have some peace and quiet and someone to share it with. Hope things work out for you OP.
USMCHokie Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Perhaps it's a plus being average. Thanks to the nice LS ladies helping me a bit with my dating profile, I've been happily seeing a 'normal' (thank god) lady for about a month now. I'm in no hurry since I'm not divorced yet and she's quite happily single (divorced 8 years). Like I've said in other threads, online dating is just a method of interaction, kinda like an online Starbucks. People of all sorts inhabit both places. At my stage in life, I'm not interested in all the drama stuff. It's nice to have some peace and quiet and someone to share it with. Hope things work out for you OP. The nice LS ladies offer this service...?! Maybe it's time to dust off the ol' profile and give online dating another try...?
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Nothing spectacular, since I'm a practiced writer. They helped me with the dynamic of presenting myself as a separated (meaning not yet divorced) man and gave me honest opinion of what to expect (rejection because of my marital status). Evidently the lady I'm seeing sees something, since she makes far more money than I (especially devastated by divorce financials) and is quite stable in career and home life. But, again, we're both 'average'; we're also both only children with elderly mothers, so perhaps there are some commonalities there as well. At this stage, I'm not looking for anything more than a companion I can build memories with. If it's her, cool. If not, not. I think that's a healthy perspective. YMMV
USMCHokie Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Nothing spectacular, since I'm a practiced writer. They helped me with the dynamic of presenting myself as a separated (meaning not yet divorced) man and gave me honest opinion of what to expect (rejection because of my marital status). Evidently the lady I'm seeing sees something, since she makes far more money than I (especially devastated by divorce financials) and is quite stable in career and home life. But, again, we're both 'average'; we're also both only children with elderly mothers, so perhaps there are some commonalities there as well. At this stage, I'm not looking for anything more than a companion I can build memories with. If it's her, cool. If not, not. I think that's a healthy perspective. YMMV Of course. I understand. I am rather average myself.
You'reasian Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Of course. I understand. I am rather average myself. I like being average.
Disillusioned Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I won't do the online dating thing. I still get e-mail from sites I stopped dealing with 4+ years ago, usually with a line that says something like "Hotchick1234 is interested in you", and I just hit the delete button. Who knows? Hotchick1234 is probably some smartass young male ghostwriter who looks like Lenin and gets paid to make up fake profiles. Or, maybe Hotchick1234 really is a woman who is who she says she is, but I'll never know or care if she's too terrified to do the Meetup thing. But, as I draw closer to 60, I remind myself of one inescapable fact: Old age is the Great Equalizer. >:-)
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Old age is the Great Equalizer. >:-) Yes, having dated online 10-15 years ago, prior to getting married (met my stbx online), I'd say things are much different now for my age group. So far, much less drama, even in the process, of course combined with simply being older, more experienced and more relaxed. I'm not as old as you (50 here) but I generally like dating women my age or older, into mid-fifties. The one I'm seeing now is younger by a few years, so different than my pattern. IME, though not on Match, it's the women in the 40-45 age group which still give me the drama stomach ache, just by reading their profiles. Of course, there are far more of them in my area, perhaps due to older people, like yourself, thinking that online dating isn't for them. For example, this week, using the same parameters, there are 161 women from 40-55 returned, but only 47 if I use 45-55. Big difference. Also, I can't believe how many women use a webcam on their computer to take their pictures. Heck, I set up lighting and my digital camera on a tripod Anyway, I think a big potential pitfall is browsing too much, looking for perfection. Perhaps that's just a younger person's pursuit and, alas, I'm no longer young
Disillusioned Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Maybe it's just that going my whole life without a loving relationship has destroyed my trust... even if the perfect woman were to come into my life right now, I don't think I'd ever be able to believe she's 100% capable of love.
carhill Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Doesn't matter. What matters is that *you* are capable of love. If you truly believe in yourself, no person can ever take that away from you. Trust me, women have tried and tried, but I refuse to give it up
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