mortensorchid Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I was browsing the profiles on Match this evening (still playing the waiting game, which I hate, but that's another story) and came across two profiles that HORRIFIED ME and I'm not just being dramatic. I came across The Cake Man, he's looking as well. You might remember this story. Summer of 08 I was with him briefly, for a few weeks. He was the guy who I baked a cake for his birthday to have him blow me off then to have him text / email his break up to me. He said he was so damaged from some past relationships he was unable to be with me or anyone else, condescended to me, etc. Afterwards he started going out with one of my friends. I never said anything to her, but over time she started to sense something was wrong between me and him whenever we were in the same room. Then, depending on whose version of the story you choose to believe what happened on Thanksgiving Day, there was some kind of fight between them and she ended up being launched off the front porch of his house with her face swelled shut. Complete psycho, he stalked her for months afterwards (calling, texting, driving by the house, etc.), harassing ME through MySpace, Facebook, email, etc. until I blocked him. Then there was this Horny Bastard (a nickname I gave him). I had met him online about two years ago, he did nothing but text dirty messages to me and when we did talk on the phone he asked to do phone sex after ONE GET TOGETHER. I blew him off, but I must have gotten 20+ calls / texts from him asking if I liked him and if I wanted to do (fill in the blank) to him, etc. I wish there was a way I could warn other women out there not to even think about these guys. But maybe they will find out the hard way. Just an observation.
meerkat stew Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 This is a great new idea for a dating site. Before any date from the site, the daters exchange a code "key" that can be verified and cannot be cancelled. This key will allow each dater to add a brief commentary to the other dater's profile which may be edited and updated up to one week after the first dater posts their comments (keeping things even). Will split the profits with you. www.rateyourmatch.com Sorry you have had the dregs, best wishes finding better.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I don't use online dating services and haven't in a long time.
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I don't use online dating services and haven't in a long time. Same here...after realizing I wasn't appealing enough to all them women online...
lookin2wardthefuture Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 As soon as I saw my ex on one of these sites( while we were living under the same roof and he was begging me to give our marriage another try no less) I knew they were'nt for me. He has himself advertised as an honest (lie), caring (only about himself), man looking for a "real" realationship( sex, sex, sex) who wanted someone to put, and I quote, someone to put butterflies in his tummy". This is a man who has at least one personality disorder, and likes to sleep with prostitutes. Ladies that's whats out there, and especially on most of those dating sites. If I meet someone down the road, I want it to be in a normal way where I have no preconcieved notions. Just getting to know them in person little by little, and hopefully recognize warning signs if they're there. Good Luck girls. There have to be a few good ones left.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 (edited) Same here...after realizing I wasn't appealing enough to all them women online... Me too!!! ...you know, being 5' and 500 lbs and such Edited February 10, 2010 by You'reasian
hearttobreak Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Stopped using dating sites a few months ago. Finally realized either A, I was too ugly for an average looking woman. Or B, the ones that did go out with me only went out with me for a free meal or drink. In Manhattan, food and drinks are expensive, so it is was it is.. Maybe its different in rural America, but the city women are just impossible to deal with.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I was browsing the profiles on Match this evening (still playing the waiting game, which I hate, but that's another story) and came across two profiles that HORRIFIED ME and I'm not just being dramatic. I came across The Cake Man, he's looking as well. You might remember this story. Summer of 08 I was with him briefly, for a few weeks. He was the guy who I baked a cake for his birthday to have him blow me off then to have him text / email his break up to me. He said he was so damaged from some past relationships he was unable to be with me or anyone else, condescended to me, etc. Afterwards he started going out with one of my friends. I never said anything to her, but over time she started to sense something was wrong between me and him whenever we were in the same room. Then, depending on whose version of the story you choose to believe what happened on Thanksgiving Day, there was some kind of fight between them and she ended up being launched off the front porch of his house with her face swelled shut. Complete psycho, he stalked her for months afterwards (calling, texting, driving by the house, etc.), harassing ME through MySpace, Facebook, email, etc. until I blocked him. Then there was this Horny Bastard (a nickname I gave him). I had met him online about two years ago, he did nothing but text dirty messages to me and when we did talk on the phone he asked to do phone sex after ONE GET TOGETHER. I blew him off, but I must have gotten 20+ calls / texts from him asking if I liked him and if I wanted to do (fill in the blank) to him, etc. I wish there was a way I could warn other women out there not to even think about these guys. But maybe they will find out the hard way. Just an observation. Mortensorchid, what kind of vibes/behaviors are you presenting that attracts these kinds of guys?
CarrieT Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Mortensorchid' date=' what kind of vibes/behaviors are you presenting that attracts these kinds of guys?[/quote'] I think they are the same vibes/behaviours which seem to send men in MY direction. I had a guy who, after I gave him my private email so we didn't have to communicate via the site, sent me a little movie of him ejaculating. And then there was the guy from Match who was ready to move to San Francisco to be with me from Detroit, to be my slave...
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I think they are the same vibes/behaviours which seem to send men in MY direction. I had a guy who, after I gave him my private email so we didn't have to communicate via the site, sent me a little movie of him ejaculating. And then there was the guy from Match who was ready to move to San Francisco to be with me from Detroit, to be my slave... Yet you still continue to use online dating services?
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I think they are the same vibes/behaviours which seem to send men in MY direction. I had a guy who, after I gave him my private email so we didn't have to communicate via the site, sent me a little movie of him ejaculating. And then there was the guy from Match who was ready to move to San Francisco to be with me from Detroit, to be my slave... Wow...it's stories like these that make us average-looking but otherwise decent guys frustrated with online dating...
thegreatmoose Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 These stories have nothing to do with online dating. They have everything to do with the people involved. It's funny how often that someone has a bad expereince with one type of dating and they blame the whole methood of dating as much or more than the particular person involved. There's good and bad people out there with any method of dating.
Twenty-ten Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Tried Match a few years ago, it was a cesspool of garbage, literally the lowest of the low. I got sucked in by a few good profiles that I later found out were not existent, they were decoys to get women in. These profiles had clearly not been active for years and the guys that were on there were either desperate and angry, or just plain old angry. Total mental cases who fought with you if you were polite enough to tell the you weren't interested. Was there all of one month off and on and that was that. Womansavers.com is a good site to warn other women of garbage men. If you dare to venture.... As soon as I saw my ex on one of these sites( while we were living under the same roof and he was begging me to give our marriage another try no less) I knew they were'nt for me. He has himself advertised as an honest (lie), caring (only about himself), man looking for a "real" realationship( sex, sex, sex) who wanted someone to put, and I quote, someone to put butterflies in his tummy". This is a man who has at least one personality disorder, and likes to sleep with prostitutes. Ladies that's whats out there, and especially on most of those dating sites. If I meet someone down the road, I want it to be in a normal way where I have no preconcieved notions. Just getting to know them in person little by little, and hopefully recognize warning signs if they're there. Good Luck girls. There have to be a few good ones left. Wow that's incredible looking2ward, good riddance to that! I feel for you. About putting butterflies in his tummy someone should feed him a maggot infested ham sandwich, the maggots turn into butterflies... well, not exactly butterflies more like flies, but whatever who's going to tell the difference.
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 These stories have nothing to do with online dating. They have everything to do with the people involved. It's funny how often that someone has a bad expereince with one type of dating and they blame the whole methood of dating as much or more than the particular person involved. There's good and bad people out there with any method of dating. But the thing is, online dating has EVERYTHING to do with the people involved. All the patterns, trends, and characteristics of online dating all depend on the people involved. Let's take a look at some of these general characteristics: (1) Online dating tends to favor women due to the unproportionally high male:female ratio. (umm, should I even say it...people involved...?) (2) Average men tend to believe and assume that women only look for the hottest and richest guys. (people involved...) (3) Women complain that guys only want sex or are perverted sickos. (people involved...) (4) The big one: online dating's purpose is to match people together, so if online dating has nothing to do with the individuals involved (both in the micro and macro viewpoints), then I don't know what kool-aid you've got...but I want some... Now, the reason why these stories are frustrating to the average man is that the average man will never come close to getting a private email, or a phone number, or even a response. Yet these "special" individuals find their way through...and women associate these types of people with the general population of online daters...and then they complain that they can't find a decent man...it's all just a vicious cycle...
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 These stories have nothing to do with online dating. They have everything to do with the people involved. It's funny how often that someone has a bad expereince with one type of dating and they blame the whole methood of dating as much or more than the particular person involved. There's good and bad people out there with any method of dating. It boils down to preferences; but I agree! Why do these women go for guys who supposedly throw them on the concrete, spit on them, dirty text them from the start.... the fact that you chose these kinds of guys makes the more impressionable ones believe this is how you should treat them.
phineas Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Same here...after realizing I wasn't appealing enough to all them women online... What? your not James Bond?
CarrieT Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Yet you still continue to use online dating services? No - I've pulled my profile off all the sites and am going back to being celibate... Hoping against hope to actually MEET someone through the normal course of life, but that is extremely unlikely considering my self-employment doesn't get me out much.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Tried Match a few years ago, it was a cesspool of garbage, literally the lowest of the low. I got sucked in by a few good profiles that I later found out were not existent, they were decoys to get women in. These profiles had clearly not been active for years and the guys that were on there were either desperate and angry, or just plain old angry. Total mental cases who fought with you if you were polite enough to tell the you weren't interested. Was there all of one month off and on and that was that. Womansavers.com is a good site to warn other women of garbage men. If you dare to venture.... I used to have a membership to Match and years ago it seemed like decent guys. Met a few then I wasn't interested in, but I was much younger then and much pickier (late 20's). Anyway, right before my membership was ending (after many disappointments including date no shows, guys not who they said they were, etc) I chatted with this guy online. Seemed a great match, he liked what I liked, including music and even food. He had the same views on everything and lived by me. Perfect and he was cute too. Too good to be true. And the sad thing was he was too good to be true. He was married and had a daughter. He was only looking for a mistress not a girlfriend or wife. I complained to Match about him but as far as I know he was never removed. I cancelled my membership and never renewed. I think now it's mostly a cesspool of married guys. I cancelled 2 years ago and still get email from guys who saw my profile.
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 What? your not James Bond? No...that ass hat Daniel Craig beat me to it...
USMCHokie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I used to have a membership to Match and years ago it seemed like decent guys. Met a few then I wasn't interested in, but I was much younger then and much pickier (late 20's). Anyway, right before my membership was ending (after many disappointments including date no shows, guys not who they said they were, etc) I chatted with this guy online. Seemed a great match, he liked what I liked, including music and even food. He had the same views on everything and lived by me. Perfect and he was cute too. Too good to be true. And the sad thing was he was too good to be true. He was married and had a daughter. He was only looking for a mistress not a girlfriend or wife. I complained to Match about him but as far as I know he was never removed. I cancelled my membership and never renewed. I think now it's mostly a cesspool of married guys. I cancelled 2 years ago and still get email from guys who saw my profile. This further confirms my point...women (and I guess men too) focus their attention on the top 5% and bottom 5% of the online dating pool...when they fail with the top 5% and get disgusted by the bottom 5%, these women will naturally associate the vast majority of average men with the bottom 5% and assume that all those "just average" guys are merely a "cesspool" and give up on dating...consequently dwindling the already low numbers of female online daters...
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Hoping against hope to actually MEET someone through the normal course of life, but that is extremely unlikely considering my self-employment doesn't get me out much. You've got to get out to meet people. There's no way around it.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 This further confirms my point...women (and I guess men too) focus their attention on the top 5% and bottom 5% of the online dating pool...when they fail with the top 5% and get disgusted by the bottom 5%, these women will naturally associate the vast majority of average men with the bottom 5% and assume that all those "just average" guys are merely a "cesspool" and give up on dating...consequently dwindling the already low numbers of female online daters... The thing is, many of the guys I met were married. After a few times of this, I got stung so I gave up. Yes, there are decent guys, but meeting married men changes minds.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 This further confirms my point...women (and I guess men too) focus their attention on the top 5% and bottom 5% of the online dating pool...when they fail with the top 5% and get disgusted by the bottom 5%, these women will naturally associate the vast majority of average men with the bottom 5% and assume that all those "just average" guys are merely a "cesspool" and give up on dating...consequently dwindling the already low numbers of female online daters... I got out of the online dating pool all together and now meet friends and ladies through activities - what a better way to interact with someone, see what they look like in 3-D and connect on something that you both enjoy.
greatgirlfriend Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I got out of the online dating pool all together and now meet friends and ladies through activities - what a better way to interact with someone' date=' see what they look like in 3-D and connect on something that you both enjoy.[/quote'] Plus you know what they look like right away.
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Plus you know what they look like right away. I haven't used an online dating site in years. Everyone I've met thus far is someone whom happens to share a similar interest.
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