JoJola Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Alright I will start with a little history. I have been dating (or was) about 6/7 months. Right before Thanksgiving I asked where our relationship was at or going..he kind of got irritated and refused to answer me, said he needed to think about it. So, I let him think and decided to move on. We texted a bit but did not see each other. So bam, on Christmas night he called me, so we went out and when I asked him about our conversation he said he thought I was jst calling him a booty call..based on how the convo started and ended I could see his point on that so we started seeing each other again. Now, two weeks ago I sent him an IM about some things that bothered me and apparently his daughter was online using his screen name and read what I wrote. He was stated it was Not Kool and then completely ignored me..I asked him if he did not want to see me to say so, and I would go away..no response and I asked twice, after that I asked if I could get my stuff back from his house..no response I asked twice. Now i even offered to send someone to get it if he did not want to see me or leave it outside when he was not there and I would pick it up...no repsonse...so again I decide to move on (heartbroken)..im head over heels for this dude. Now, my friends and I are planning a trip to go snowmobiling etc..so I sent out a group email to all of them about the cabins we are renting..opppps...I forgot he is on my "close friends list". I only use this for group acitivities and he was always with me. So anyhow he texted me back asap....confused and asking a ton of questions..I explained and aplologized and now he is back. He has asked me for four days in a row to go out or come over. He is even getting personal again. Example he IM'ed me yesterday asking if I was at work..I responded "Nope"..then he started asking me why..I responsed "cause". he responded cause why..I finally said "family issues".. and carrried on. The same thing happended today..why, how, when, where, etc....we have not even ween each other yet? What is this dude trying to do to me? What causes this type of behavior. Its like he thinks we never had an issue at all; does anyone have any opinion..?? I am confused.
rod_in_gtown Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 If a guy is genuinely interested in you he wouldn't be doing this hot and cold deal. Specially ignoring you if he really cared about you. He's taking a gamble that he won't lose you and if he does, then oh well. Relationships should have a genuine effort on both parts for them to work. This is years of dating talking. He's just not that into you. You may want to ask yourself why you like him so much if he's not treating you with common courtesy. Maybe that's why you like him?
TaraMaiden Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 he's got you on a rubber band..... The problem is, you're playing into this. You're constantly crawling back to him, contrite and aspologetic, with your tail between your legs. WHY - ?? He should be apologising to you! he's being a total Dickhead, yanking your chain and manipulating you by his hot-cold crappola. Jeesh, woman...you need a bit of a wake-up call.... How the hell were you supposed to know he'd let his girl sign on under his name? That was his stupid fault, not yours! Oh lordy..... Go on. Just go back to him. Again. Until the next time he screws up, and you apologise to him.. Lather, rinse, repeat.......
tami-chan Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Don't respond to his texts, anymore...block him. Move on, really. This guy does not know what he wants and playing ping-pong with you. Unless you like how you felt when he ignored you, I would drop him. I heard there are cute, fun guys on the ski slopes....! Have fun!
Crazy Magnet Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Unless this guy farts a magical pink unicorn out of his butt, you need to move on a find a real man, who will treat you better than a cock roach. He KNOWS that he can do whatever he wants to you and you will lay down and take it like a doormat. Stop being a doormat. Cut this guy loose. Stop crawling back to him. Tell him to get lost!
Left in a Lurch Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 "I asked him if he did not want to see me to say so, and I would go away..no response and I asked twice, after that I asked if I could get my stuff back from his house..no response I asked twice." You're only text should be, "You blew me off twice and stopped responding. You got your wish, now deal with it. Don't ever contact me again, ever." and move on unless you want to be miserable and treated like that over and over again. You might be head over heals but you are head over heals for an image of what you fantasize this guy as, not really what he is.
paleblue Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 ditto. cut it loose. if someone was that into things -they would NOT be ignoring you. period. you know it. i know its hard. i just had to hit the DUMP button yesterday myself, for basically the same exact reason. after 6 months of BS, i finalllly said enough is enough - See yaaaa. when someone is into you and wants you in their life there is nothing that is going to stop them from seeing you. and they certainly wouldnt be ignoring you...
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