Catseye8 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Confusing breakup situation. CP maniac. Broke up with me, downgraded it to a break, acted incredibly weirdly and clingy throughout said break, to the point where I had to bring down the Fearsome Boot of NC to get him to back off. At which point he told me he was sorry, he just missed me so terribly, he really really wanted to be able to apologise and talk properly, he was going to get there soon... then he disappears, then I yell at him for not even being willing to talk about stuff properly, blah blah etc... anyway, that did not go well. So. After that conversation, and a few days' cooling-off, I email him briefly to confirm the state of things: basically, I'd be happy to talk properly in the future, but in the meantime, NC. And I added in, just in case, just because something went tink tink tink in the corner of my head... "of course, if you were to end up moving on to someone else or anything else so significant, I'd hope you'd let me know." Three days of silence. A reply by email (he lives 20 minutes away) to say, uh, he already is seeing somebody else. And presumably, was doing during the time of the excessive clingy contact and the "I miss you so terribly!" conversation that got me going hard NC in the first place. Yeah, that's it. I'm out. That's a line crossed too far for me. And I'm out in a particularly pissed-off way, too. And man, is he going to know that. *stompyrage* I think I'm in shock, really. To cling on and string me along for all this time, and then to not even have the decency to come and tell me face-to-face? Hey, maybe in one of those face-to-face conversations we had planned to have 'in the future', when we'd both done enough thinking? To do this by email instead? And, what's more - to do this by email in a weird, weird way, as if he was just letting me know that he hadn't picked up the milk or something? Seriously. It was like a line and a half, and then "In other news," and an update on various things going on in his life. LIKE I CARE ABOUT YOUR JOB, oh my God. I think I still have a pair of his shoes here. I may set fire to them
You'reasian Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Confusing breakup situation. CP maniac. Broke up with me, downgraded it to a break, acted incredibly weirdly and clingy throughout said break, to the point where I had to bring down the Fearsome Boot of NC to get him to back off. At which point he told me he was sorry, he just missed me so terribly, he really really wanted to be able to apologise and talk properly, he was going to get there soon... then he disappears, then I yell at him for not even being willing to talk about stuff properly, blah blah etc... anyway, that did not go well. So. After that conversation, and a few days' cooling-off, I email him briefly to confirm the state of things: basically, I'd be happy to talk properly in the future, but in the meantime, NC. And I added in, just in case, just because something went tink tink tink in the corner of my head... "of course, if you were to end up moving on to someone else or anything else so significant, I'd hope you'd let me know." Three days of silence. A reply by email (he lives 20 minutes away) to say, uh, he already is seeing somebody else. And presumably, was doing during the time of the excessive clingy contact and the "I miss you so terribly!" conversation that got me going hard NC in the first place. Yeah, that's it. I'm out. That's a line crossed too far for me. And I'm out in a particularly pissed-off way, too. And man, is he going to know that. *stompyrage* I think I'm in shock, really. To cling on and string me along for all this time, and then to not even have the decency to come and tell me face-to-face? Hey, maybe in one of those face-to-face conversations we had planned to have 'in the future', when we'd both done enough thinking? To do this by email instead? And, what's more - to do this by email in a weird, weird way, as if he was just letting me know that he hadn't picked up the milk or something? Seriously. It was like a line and a half, and then "In other news," and an update on various things going on in his life. LIKE I CARE ABOUT YOUR JOB, oh my God. I think I still have a pair of his shoes here. I may set fire to them Sorry to hear this. I can imagine the grief that you're feeling seeing that this guy was seeing someone else while you were going through the NC phase. Really, really tough. On the bright side, it can only get better from here? Are you English by any chance? Couldn't help but pick up on a detail in your writing
Author Catseye8 Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Sorry to hear this. I can imagine the grief that you're feeling seeing that this guy was seeing someone else while you were going through the NC phase. Really, really tough. On the bright side, it can only get better from here? Are you English by any chance? Couldn't help but pick up on a detail in your writing We hadn't even made it to NC proper, except for the last week; it had taken that long to prise him off my life once and for all! Yep, I'm English It's the early hours of the morning here, but I am too stompy furious (and deeply, deeply sad) to sleep.
carhill Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I think I still have a pair of his shoes here. I may set fire to themI recommend this. Incendiary devices inserted inside add to the satisfaction.
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