Kage111 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Wow, it's been a while since I've been here... I saw her today, eating lunch by herself. It's been over a year since we spoke. It's hard to imagine that I actually went out with her for four years, that we actually lived together, slept in the same bed. I see her a lot... yet I have maintained this facade of not even knowing her. She still texts me on holidays. Merry Christmas, Happy Birthday, etc. If I'm feeling generous I'll send back a "thanks". Sad to admit, about a month ago I got piss drunk and may have messaged her how much I've really moved on... which is of course, none at all. I can't stop thinking about her. I see her every single night in my dreams. And every single day... I don't want to seem desperate. I've gone out with other girls since her. Who were they? I don't care, because they don't matter to me. Only she does. What if I had just said "hi"? I'm not mad at her for leaving... She did what was best, I was immature, childish. I wasn't the same guy she fell in love with. I know I've changed now. I know I'm better. Now if the people here are the same as they were a year ago, I'm sure you'll all just say "Keep with NC, you need to move on and forget about her!" but has she truly forgotten about me? It's just so hard to go from my other half to a complete stranger. I just need to vent, I'm not really this depressing. I miss her, that's for sure. I'm not over her. But a whole year of seeing her everywhere I go and acting like she is no one special... I can't keep doing it. So if I see her again, alone, I'm going to approach her, and I'm going to say "hi". But then what? What are the next words out of my mouth? "How have you been?" "You look nice." "I miss you, take me back!" Obviously not the last one, but I hope you get my point. I just spent over a year ignoring the person who was at one point the center of my life... What does anyone say to that?
Ronni_W Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I just spent over a year ignoring the person who was at one point the center of my life... What does anyone say to that? Well...I guess it was a good plan that didn't quite work out as hoped for or expected. Change the plan. Say 'hi' to her next time you see her. Respond to whatever she says/asks. Then ask her if she feels like catching you up on what's been happening with her. Listen attentively. Keep your mouth shut...except to ask follow-up questions to whatever she's talking about. Be interested in whatever it is; just keep listening. And hopefully you'll hear that she's interested in catching up on what's been happening with you. Have some good stuff ready to tell her. Or say, "No, I was really just interested in hearing about you. Catch you later." And then walk away. Until the next time you see her in person. (And hopefully she will have contacted you in the meantime. But. If she hasn't, just say 'hi' when you see her...and keep walking.) Or something totally different. But change the plan that you've been working for a year. It's not working for nuttin', Honey
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