brookie Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Hi everyone i will try and keep this short but any advice would be great I met my husband when i was 17 and am now 28 we married 2 years ago i had never been with another guy before him at all so when we got together i just thought wow and went with it all. Everything was great for about 3 years then we started to clash we would fight all the time we had our son and my husband went to work i struggled really bad with the baby on my own and that caused more fights and he eventually lost his job witch made things evan worse but we pulled our self together for our son and still went on our son was 6 months old when i fell pregnant with our second son he was not pland at all but we kept on going on with things thinking back now i dont evan think i was thinking i was just going with it and i think deep down we both new things wernt good . And eventually we had our daughter she is now 3 and the boys are 5 and 6 i would not change any of them for the world .Our second son has a disability similuar to cotton wool babies not as bad though its wear he will get blisters and his skin is sensitive my husband gets so angry with him he calls him names it hurts me so much my son always crys and when i stick up for him we fight and my husband is the sort of guy that doesnt talk he yells and if the kids are in bed he dont care its just hell living in my house for years i have just been so very unhappy i keep wondering what it would be like to be with another guy and if there are guys out there that play ball with there sons if i could turn back time i wish so bad that i had have been with other guys before i got married i feel like i met my husband way to young and in a way i got stuck and i am the sort of person that doesnt like to hurt anyone my husband say he loves me and he has his days when he is so perfect but i just dont feel the same as i used to but im so scared to leave him i know it sounds bad but i dont feel like i can do it all on my own bills ect im just so scared my husband controlls everything my bestfriend tell me im to nice for my own good maybe she is right i cry all the time and my kids say whats wrong mummy it just kills me my parents think i need depression tablets to help me through i duno everything is a mess i dont know what advice you can give me but any would be so good . im sorry about all the spelling i hope it all make sence
Brokenhearted_girl Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I think if you are really unhappy and would like to have a better life, away from your husband, you need to find a way to be able to provide for your kids. Get a job that could support your kids, their healthcare, basic needs, education... Having an affair with another man is not the solution.
Sadbutrelieved Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I think if you are really unhappy and would like to have a better life, away from your husband, you need to find a way to be able to provide for your kids. Get a job that could support your kids, their healthcare, basic needs, education... Having an affair with another man is not the solution. I think that is very wise advice.
skydiveaddict Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 Can you get him to go to counseling? If not a separation may be necessary for you kid's well being and for own sanity. Good luck to ya
Tayla Posted February 11, 2010 Posted February 11, 2010 I would like you to try the following: 1: Write down all the positives you can think of about your spouse. Realize that behind this riff there is that guy with just those qualities you fell in love with. 2: Ask yourself who creates your happiness. If you think its your spouse you are terribly wrong. 3: Please learn sentence structure and punctuation. It was a challenge to read your post wondering if this was the longest run on sentence in history. I was going to nominate it for the guiness book of records. 4: Its so easy to walk away from a built foundation when the current situation is tense. Step back, take a breathe and make a vow to rejuvenute the relationship. If you truly give it your best and you are proud that you did put forth the effort with little results, then and only then do you need to ponder the route of separating. Remember the decision affects the family as a whole unit. Best to you as you re-access the matter.
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