jaymac Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 My wife and I have been married for less than 3 years. Before this we dated for 4-5 years. Everything was always great. Sex life was great hanging out with each other and our friends was always fun. And we talked alot. Now that we have become married and have our first child and another on the way. I will admit that I am not perfect to start things off. I have screwed up jobs and enjoy smoking both cigarettes and Marijuana, so i do have faults. Anyway with those basics out of the way. We have been fighting and arguing more and more about things that are getting dumber and dumber. During these fights she always has to "one-up" me and usually they end with her saying either "I hate you" or "I hope you die" when it gets this heated I leave and get a break. When I come back she will usually say some snappy or rude comment. There is never an apology unless i say i'm sorry for "whatever" I have done to start the fight. When i come home from work, I always ask about her and the babies day. I usually get one word answers like boring, or lists like woke up, ate, showered, then nothing. Then without wondering how my day was shes is off to the computer cuz she needs a break from being with the baby all day. I really just needed a place to vent and see if others are having the same problems. Any help, info or advice would be wonderful.
ladydesigner Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I would say you two better start communicating better to each other and quickly or one of you will end up resenting the other one rather quickly. Resentment issues can lead to the marriage failing or worse an A. Maybe take the time to sit and talk with your wife about what is really bothering her maybe even try counseling. Get a babysitter for the night and go out on a date. I wish I could have done this early on. My marriage has somewhat fallen apart but we are working to repair it. During these fights she always has to "one-up" me and usually they end with her saying either "I hate you" or "I hope you die" I have said the words "I hate you" to my H but he has had an A and I am just at times beside myself. Both of you need to get to the root of the problem and quickly if you want your marriage to work. Good luck to you and hang in there.
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 You need to figure out what is going on ASAP... only true, sincere requests for more info will get to the heart of what is going on. Did you say that you are currently expecting? I know for a fact that women's hormones can get WAY, WAY out of whack when they are preggo... I remember telling my wife, in a sincere heartfelt conversation that I felt 'stuck with her' when she was preggo (with our 4th child) and turned into a bear to live with. If I could go back to that time and with the maturity and life experiece I have now, I would certainly tolerate and accomodate her much more than I did. None the less, we survived and here we are after 17 years togther... The things you are going through may or may not be normal, but the bottom line is that you have to figure out how to work through them (as a couple) in the most positive way possible.
ann09 Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I can see saying "I hate you" out of anger. But, "I hope you die" bothers me. Eeek.
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