blobfather86 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 OK this is quite a long story.. I met this girl and we hit it off, we became really close freinds, and we just fitted together, she revealed things to be about her past. She told me she was sexually abused by her afther and that she had previously had a boyfreind for 4 years, I ama 23 yr old virgin and very insecure about it, so I lied to her and told her I had a non serious girlfreind in uni. Our relationship got even closer and became more than platonic, she then revealed to me that she had neve had sex with her boyfreind and that she was a virgin. Stupid me still didnt fess up( trust me I wanted to on a number of occasions but just didnt find the courage, i thought she would go off me if i did) and one night after fooling around a bit (no sex) she found out, she was very upset and has not spoken to be since. She was everything to me and when this happened i was very emotional. She said she needed space but stupid me tryed to explain to her through texts and apoligised too much, this lasted for just over a week. I gave her space then. Then she texted me and asked me how the email was coming along (which she had asked me to write for her in the previous week explaining things). I sent it to her, it was very detailed explaining how I was scared to tell her and how I didnt want to cause this much hurt... her response was not good.. she basically said that if i had left her alone when she asked she could have looked at the email with fresh eyes and maybe understood, she also said that it would have shown I respected her...she added that once hurt she finds it very hard to trust people again.. however she did say that we would make the most of freindship and that she would call me sometime and we could start somewhere. I am heartbroken...If had just admited i was a virgin we could still be together.. We were very close, and she was the girl of my dreams, I cared for so much. My emotional state is much calmer now and I can see all my past errors, Im just wondering what to do now?
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