Nicki81 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Went onto the shared pc in my partner and myselfs flat today. His email was open, there were 2 separate mails thanking him for replying to NSA fun on gumtree from 2 diff females and telling him they were busy that weekend with another man. Weekend is next weeknd. Now he never goes away weekends and hadnt mentioned anything. There is a small history there of cyber flirting though. Now Im in paranoia mode. Any chance these were just spam? I cannot ask him, as I was snooping, no excuses, I read when I should have just closed his mail. Please help I need anykind of advice..................
SuburbanOblivion Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Let me get this straight..you personally saw where he'd replied to a couple of classified ads for no strings attached sex with strangers, and you think you may be over-reacting? Seriously? If he hasn't cheated on you already, he is clearly trying to. If it were me his ass would be out the door, no questions asked.
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Went onto the shared pc in my partner and myselfs flat today. His email was open, there were 2 separate mails thanking him for replying to NSA fun on gumtree from 2 diff females and telling him they were busy that weekend with another man. Weekend is next weeknd. Now he never goes away weekends and hadnt mentioned anything. There is a small history there of cyber flirting though. Now Im in paranoia mode. Any chance these were just spam? I cannot ask him, as I was snooping, no excuses, I read when I should have just closed his mail. Please help I need anykind of advice.................. If you share a PC and his e-mail was in fact open, as you say, I think you definitely can confront him. It would be one thing to hack into his e-mail account but he left it open. If I were you I would definitely mention it. Mention it casually and his reaction should tell all. If he gets flustered and turns red or something he's probably been caught in the act.
Phateless Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Went onto the shared pc in my partner and myselfs flat today. His email was open, there were 2 separate mails thanking him for replying to NSA fun on gumtree from 2 diff females and telling him they were busy that weekend with another man. Weekend is next weeknd. Now he never goes away weekends and hadnt mentioned anything. There is a small history there of cyber flirting though. Now Im in paranoia mode. Any chance these were just spam? I cannot ask him, as I was snooping, no excuses, I read when I should have just closed his mail. Please help I need anykind of advice.................. It's spam. Sometimes they'll send a fresh reply to an ANCIENT email. I got a spam reply the other day from someone I emailed 3 or 4 years ago when I was still single. Don't worry about it.
kiss_andmakeup Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 It's spam. Sometimes they'll send a fresh reply to an ANCIENT email. I got a spam reply the other day from someone I emailed 3 or 4 years ago when I was still single. Don't worry about it. This is a possibility, but it's not definite. She won't know for sure unless she talks to him about it. I found something similar in my bf's inbox about a year ago and it was the real deal. It was a serious issue.
Phateless Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 This is a possibility, but it's not definite. She won't know for sure unless she talks to him about it. I found something similar in my bf's inbox about a year ago and it was the real deal. It was a serious issue. I don't think I've ever in my life received a non-spam reply from one of those ads. Like I said, I emailed a few several years ago when I was single, and have had replies come back as recently as a week ago. I think the likelihood is much higher that this is spam than cheating.
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