conehead Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Ok, so I've only been out twice with this guy, but we chat on IM almost every day and we've talked via the phone once or twice. Now, we have never even kissed! He said he wanted to 'take me out on V-day' and I said yes. Now I know Valentine's Day are obviously for couples but we are in this such early stage of dating where we are more like just friends and getting to know each other. Not even a kiss yet! But he is picking me up for the first time on our V day date and he already made our dinner reservations. So question...I don't want to come off as presumptious and buy him a huge gift and card saying mushy things on it, but at the same time I don't want to go empty handed. So what gift should I buy him? We aren't a couple but we are somewhat more than friends even though we have not kissed.
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 The next time you talk to him, get a feel for his expectations about Vday... ask him!
Author conehead Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 The next time you talk to him, get a feel for his expectations about Vday... ask him! What should I ask him? I think we are dating, but its not technically the case given we have done nothing that friends don't do. I mean for my sister she said that she went out with her current fiance for 5 dates before they even kissed...but they were still considered dating. I'm really shy and normally I only kiss a guy after he basically grabs onto me (gently ofcourse lol) and kisses me. This guy is a bit more passive, hence after the first date I got shy and he got shy too and we did not kiss hahahah.
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I guess you could say something along the lines of "Would you like anything for Valentine's Day?" If you're too scared to bring it up, maybe bring a hershey's kiss to dinner just in case he gives you something. That way, you can (in a cute way) tell him you weren't sure what to get... Just my .02
carhill Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I would let the evening unfold. Let the dynamic which ensues be the gift you share. Not everything is about stuff. That from a guy who used to make handmade cards for Vday. Enjoy your date!
Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Rules say girls should not get anything for the guy for Valentine's Day unless you are in a relationship. This seems a bit harsh, so you could probably do something very small/token, like one of those teensy boxes of chocolates.
mansquito Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Get him one of those little boxes of candy hearts with the cheesy messages on them, and one of those little valentine postcards that you used to exchange in grade school. Something with Transformers on it would be excellent. If he's not a total goober, he'll find it charming. Otherwise, just give him teh sekks. It is your third date, after all.
paleblue Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 first, i think that is really awesome of you second, i would just buy something light - like a really small box of chocolates or something. that would be nice. third, im jealous!!! wish i had someone that wants to buy me something for V day!!!!
Author conehead Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Ok, so I got a simple v day card (that basically just says 'happy v day' and i will write im glad I met him, none of that I like you stuff etc). I also got a usb key chain (fancy kind) for $25. I'm 26 and am a working professional...so Im not sure if it's in my nature to go with the teenager choco boxes and cheesey messages. Is card and $25 gift too much???
D-Lish Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 No, don't give him anything but your company. Wear a boobie-top- that's a nice gift:)
carhill Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Wear a boobie-top- that's a nice gift It is the gift that keeps on giving
Author conehead Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Seriously LSers, is the $25 USB key chain too much? Ideally I want to looking for something $5-15, but can't think of what. He doesn't read books. I have no idea. Please help.
Chitowngirl Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Yeah I think buying a guy a gift for Vday when he's not your bf is kinda silly. Guys don't really care for Vday anyways. Maybe offer to take him out for dessert afterwards? I think he'd appreciate you paying for some of the date instead of a gift he may not like.
Rulebreaker Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I just don't think he's expecting anything and he won't be hurt if you don't get him anything, so I would probably err on the side of not giving him anything. Plus, you don't know what he's going to get you, and it's sort of awkward if you get him something nice and he doesn't. After this holiday you can gauge better.
Art_Critic Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Seriously LSers, is the $25 USB key chain too much? You need to fill it with naked pictures of yourself Seriously.. just give him the card and a peck on the cheek... Not that he won't like the USB gift but it really isn't romantic and after only 2 dates if might feel a bit "stretching it". Either way.. Good luck and happy V-day...
prettybaby Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 I wouldn't buy him anything. If you're feeling it, this would be the perfect day for your first kiss. So go for it if the vibe is right. That will be 100 times better than a stupid present. If you feel like it's too early for a kiss, then it's also too early for a present.
Author conehead Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 hm, why dont I get him something very SMALL just in case he gets me something?? Like a card and a small box of chocolates like some people here said???
Author conehead Posted February 10, 2010 Author Posted February 10, 2010 Oooh ok i got a good one!! I have this card that has a pic of a heart chocolate on it and I will give him the card wriiting jokingly that I'm a bad influence cuz he seems to only eat sweets around me (he told me that he's lost 25 pounds over 6 months and didnt have sweets for 6 months until our first date where he ate sweets for the first time, and on our second date he had chocolate for the first time in 6 months). Then I will tell him i think he's a sweet guy (no pun intended!) and tell him that I'm sure one more box of candy won't him. Then I will present him with a $5 Godiva chocolates, prob just 4 in a box I think. What do you all think? Thoughtful but inexpensive? Or just plain cheesy??? lol I'm a romantic at heart, it's who I am. So to me it feels wrong not getting anything at all. Thoughts???
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