Greenpeacer Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 For Yahoo: If you're calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument, and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. "Men have a tendency to really like low-maintenance girls when it comes to relationships," says Kristian, 35, of New York City. "We're pretty lazy in general, and it's exhausting when you need to work so hard to make someone happy and calm them down every day." How to rebuild: Save the details of your office drama for brunch with the girls, and the next time you feel your inner Heidi Montag moving center stage, take a deep breath and rate the situation on a scale from 1 to 10. If it scores below a 5, let it go and save award-worthy performances for anything above a 9 (cheating, insulting your boss at your holiday party, etc.). ========== For me: when the mood changes more than once a day and many times over the week, this is high -maintenance. ie, when I have to try and cheer them up or walk on egg shells not to upset a volcanic reaction. I either walk away or if they are "hot" thankfully they walk away and I tend to drop the "Want to be just friends?"
xpaperxcutx Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Highs and lows doesn't make them high maintenance, it just makes them dramatic. When a person is high maintenance, you'll know. They're demanding of others more than themselves and expect to be treated on a pedestal.
Els Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I think there's many different ways of being high maintenance. Demanding/expecting expensive dates/gifts. Expecting to be #1 priority. Expecting to get the bulk of his free time - it doesn't matter if his brother hasn't seen him in a year. Expecting that he'll come running if you so much as waggle a finger.
meerkat stew Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 High maintenance for me: Thinking every thought that goes through one's head needs verbal expression to complete it. In other words, mindless babbling. Couples should not feel the need to express every mundane detail to each other. People talk too much generally. Having to be constantly in touch, either in person or via phone/text. If 24 hours goes by and we don't talk, it doesn't mean I've run off to Ecuador. If I don't respond to a text within a couple of hours (usually the 20th one of the day) I'm not upset or mad. Creating conflict or drama for its own sake. Life is cram-packed with natural drama and conflict, no need to augment it. If we have a good sex life, 3-5 times a week and both getting off lots, I don't want to hear griping if we skip a night or if I just want sleep. Nothing is "wrong," no need to pout and act like a child, I am still very much attracted, just want to go to sleep. Same goes for not wanting to makeout for more than 30 minutes at a time and having to always hold hands. Too much constant involvement with friends or family, healthy relationship is great, but if texts and calls are coming in every 15 minutes, and you just feel you have to have an hour long phone chat with your parent or BFF during "our" time, whenever we are together, that's too much and disruptive. Can't get through a single day without support of some kind coming in from several angles. Luxury addiction, will only use $12 bars of soap and $100 face cream, extremely expensive tastes in clothes, beauty, nail care, etc. Incapable of going anywhere, even lazy Sunday brunch, without full beauty treatment. OK, yes, that's enough. have had quite a bit of experience with this
carhill Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 My world is small and I fill it completely + attendant drama = high maintenance I love the world around me and am glad you're in it + self sufficiency = low maintenance
phineas Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 (edited) For Yahoo: If you're calling him in tears every time your coworker irritates you, deleting him from Facebook during every argument, and threatening to end the relationship over him leaving the toilet seat up (again!), he might start looking for a new leading lady. "Men have a tendency to really like low-maintenance girls when it comes to relationships," says Kristian, 35, of New York City. "We're pretty lazy in general, and it's exhausting when you need to work so hard to make someone happy and calm them down every day." How to rebuild: Save the details of your office drama for brunch with the girls, and the next time you feel your inner Heidi Montag moving center stage, take a deep breath and rate the situation on a scale from 1 to 10. If it scores below a 5, let it go and save award-worthy performances for anything above a 9 (cheating, insulting your boss at your holiday party, etc.). ========== For me: when the mood changes more than once a day and many times over the week, this is high -maintenance. ie, when I have to try and cheer them up or walk on egg shells not to upset a volcanic reaction. I either walk away or if they are "hot" thankfully they walk away and I tend to drop the "Want to be just friends?" That'as not high maintenance to me, that's just plain crazy. High maintenance to me is your typical princess that wants to be wined & dined & cattered too. She spends 2 hrs in the bathroom before a date & wears too much make-up. Edited February 9, 2010 by phineas
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