lucy9216 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I posted about this guy I have been talking to for a few weeks about a week ago-http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219844/ By friday I hadn't heard form him so I had written him off as never going out with him, I figured he decided he didn't want to get involved with an older lady with kids and that was okay. Well, I saw him on friday and saturday cause he works where I hang out at on the weekends. Friday we talked a little bit and found out he was asking about me, then on saturday he started talking about me with several other people and they all called me over cause he wanted to talk with me so I did. He ended up asking me if I wanted to hang out again, I told him that I would like that as I had told him the last time he mentioned it. We didn't set a date as he had to leave suddenly cause of work, so I guess I will see him again this weekend. I am really confused as to why he just doesent call me and why he waits until he see's me to talk with me? I kind of feel like I am back in high school with the way he is approching this whole thing and just cause I have kids doesent mean I want him to get involved with my kids, I would just like to date and I am getting frustrated with people thinking I expect something else just cause I have kids.... He acts and says he is really shy but I don't know what is going on with him, any thoughts on this would be helpful.
Barky Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 The whole issue with you 'hanging out' where he works seems a little weird to me. I wouldn't want to date some woman who hung out where I earned my livelihood.
sullysteve Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 He's probably nervous calling. I think a lot of guys are. I know I am. There's pressure to keep the conversation short, but memorable and of course, always the possibility of having to leave a VM. No, speaking to a woman in person is always better than talking to a machine.
Author lucy9216 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t219844/ Sorry didn't enter it right so anyone can click on the original post if wanted too.
Author lucy9216 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 He's probably nervous calling. I think a lot of guys are. I know I am. There's pressure to keep the conversation short, but memorable and of course, always the possibility of having to leave a VM. No, speaking to a woman in person is always better than talking to a machine. This is always possible, he said over the weekend that he likes that I talk more than he does otherwise the conversation would go dead cause he is kinda shy and doesent talk much, so he could be nervous calling but he could always text too....... this could turn inot a lot of work for me if this is the case .
Author lucy9216 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 The whole issue with you 'hanging out' where he works seems a little weird to me. I wouldn't want to date some woman who hung out where I earned my livelihood. Well he doesent technically work there.... Don't really need to get into all the details but I do see him there often and he knows I am there every weekend.
soulm8 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Be careful with this one... he sounds like he might just want a casual no strings deal.
Cora Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Yay, I'm glad you didn't scare him off afterall! I guess just take it slow and see what happens. You never know right? If he does bail or turns out to be not what you are looking for...life goes on right? Wish you all the best!
Author lucy9216 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Yay, I'm glad you didn't scare him off afterall! I guess just take it slow and see what happens. You never know right? If he does bail or turns out to be not what you are looking for...life goes on right? Wish you all the best! YAY! I am glad I didn't scare him off too, I am thinking it took him a little time to let the fact that I have kids settle in and he decided that he still wants to go out which is great and yeah I just would like to go out and see what happens, wasn't looking to run off and get married haha.... and if nothing then life does go on and thank you Be careful with this one... he sounds like he might just want a casual no strings deal. This is possible, I think both of us are just looking to date I don't want a relationship right now but I am interested in him and glad to know that he is too and just take it from there...
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