nes9 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 By far, the hardest time of the day for me is dinner time to bed time when I'm "winding down." I just can't keep my mind off the break up during these times and they also tend to be the times when I'm most depressed and feel helpless. Does anyone else here have any activities/things that they do to try and keep their mind off of it (besides drinking haha)? I just feel so ****ing lonely at night.
alphamale Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 yes, spend this time trying to find another partner
Author nes9 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 yes, spend this time trying to find another partner Not such a bad idea.
USMCHokie Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Yep...for the longest time this was my worst time of day...between when I ate dinner and when I went to bed on work days... I just laid in bed and watched TV on DVD (hours and hours of continuous episodes...gah I miss those days...) it kept my mind off the ex and kept my ass off the computer and off Facebook doing god knows what in terms of internet stalking... But spending as much time as possible with friends and family will do you good...it will keep you mind off the ex and put you in the best possible situations to meet new people...
You'reasian Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 By far, the hardest time of the day for me is dinner time to bed time when I'm "winding down." I just can't keep my mind off the break up during these times and they also tend to be the times when I'm most depressed and feel helpless. Does anyone else here have any activities/things that they do to try and keep their mind off of it (besides drinking haha)? I just feel so ****ing lonely at night. Quiet evenings are the best. Perfect time to relax, wind down and forget about anything and everything - if you can make that your ritual, nothing will stop you.
twinklecat Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I found the evenings difficult at first too, used to just watch DvD's, or sit chatting to friends on the internet, and on the phone to people, anything really to get my mind off things. Oh, and would often go in the bath, pamper myself, that always makes me feel good! ^^
Chi NZ Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 For me it's waking up and having to deal with another day without the person you love most.... It gets harder before it gets easier
counterman Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 What I did during the evenings was watch TV. I watched A LOT of comedy. At first, I did not really enjoy them. As time went on, I started to laugh a lot, even out loud and I knew I was getting better. Watching television and, of course, hanging out with friends & family, working out, shopping, relaxing (just lying there and listening to music), watching movies, writing stuff and reading, all of it helps.
CleverName Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I get that empty feeling in the evenings also. I always went to yoga class but now I also joined the local gym and take an aerobics class on nights when I don't go to yoga class. Serves the dual purpose of gettting me out of my own head and burns calories. Plus it's fun.
Author nes9 Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 For me it's waking up and having to deal with another day without the person you love most.... It gets harder before it gets easier Yes definitely. I am having suuuuch a hard time keeping NC. I frequently get craves to just call or text her just to feel some type of connection to her. She would love it (she still wants me to be her "friend") but deep down I know it would only set me back and make me worse in the long run because she would not go back to being my girlfriend and even if she did, it would probably just end like this for me yet again. Perhaps I will move my daily workout to later in the evening to fill some time.
paleblue Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 yes, going to the gym in the evening when you are feeling it the most could help. that is what i used to do. then i got home and would be busy with eating a meal, get myself prepped for the next day, go on love shack, check out some dating sites here and there, and before i knew it i would pass out, i couldnt sleep in my own bed for months. the couch was were i would pass out. being friends is a joke. my ex gf wants the same thing. in fact just because she wants to be friends she actually believes we are. now i found out she was lying to me about being single. she is back with her ex, the one before me. i told her we could talk as friends here and there if she ws single but the second i find out she is dating someone there will be no contact. she got mad. maybe that is why she lied to me about it. not sure. but i say you are doing yourself the biggest favor by not contacting her if you are still hurtn over it. i know for myself, i vowed i will not contact or respond to mine for a long time, until such time as i feel it is appropriate, its not her decision anymore.
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