LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 This is a great forum for advice, I (40yrs) have been through so much in the last several yrs with the same girl (33yrs), so I too come here for advice as well as Give, most times its easier to give someone else advice other then myself.... Im not sure why but maybe I can get clarity/help, I have been in a relationship since 2006 with my Ex and it consisted of Being cheated on 2 times (that I know of) walked out on me 4 or 5 times use to take her engagement ring off when she went to work (our mutual friends told me later after), cuz the guy she cheated with, worked with her also verbally abused me alot of times, especially during the break up. There were to young kids involved here, but not in my Ex's custody, she gets them every 2nd weekend. I work Full Time, I don't drink, own my house, took her and her kids in, never asked for rent, nothing at all, no utilites or anything, I always use to critisize the girls I knew that always went back to those A**Hole guys, but yet I kept going back, everytime she came back (3times) on my 4th time she left now and won't go back, so my question is, Being treated like S**t for so long, why do I want to keep going back or welcome her back with open arms? I don't get it. I am seeing someone now and its only been a month since my ex left me the 4th time, I left this girl I am seeing now, to go back to my Ex, I was lucky she took me back, I will play it smart this time, Just as I use to criticize, I always went back...why? Thanks All, nice to hear opinions of others LiL
USMCHokie Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 It's the comfort of going back to something you are familiar with... I honestly don't get why you do it either...I would have thought it was for lack of other options, but you were seeing someone before getting back together with your ex...so it confuses me as well... But to those who go back, you'll get what you'll have coming to you...and you have no excuse to be sad if it ends again with her cheating... People never change their fundamental nature...
Author LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Thnx USM, even when I went back, I too said I deserve it, my heart really went out to the Kids, which I guess was my sadness, but after thinking so much, I still love them, but there not my kids and they are in a place with there father who cares for them dearly..also always afraid she would be with another partner she would treat better then she treated me, but thats life I suppose and is unfair to feel that way.... I am not back with her and I will stay away from it....Lesson Learned..Believe me especially now that someone new is in my life. Thnx Again LiL
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