dhorton0721 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Hey everyone I have never posted on one of these sites before but here it goes. At the beginning of this year my girlfriend of 3 months and I broke up. Here is a little back story: She is the older sister of one of my good freinds. She just turned 30 (I am 26) and has a 5 year old son. I knew about her son going into the relationship since I am friends with her younger sister. I wasn't bothered by the fact that she has a son. Anyways, we started to date around October. Everything was going great. We always spent time with each other. If we weren't able to get together one night we managed to find time over the weekend to get together. Her son and I got along really well. She even mentioned to me several times that she was surprised that her son and I got along really well (he would ask me to play with him or read to him at night). Things started to get a little rough between us in the month of December. She had a huge court date involving the son's father coming up. She was constantly stressed about it which I understood. I had to find ways to help calm her down. Sometimes I felt like I was doing the right thing but other times I had no idea what to do. We had a couple of arguments but we always managed to work things out. She had the court hearing and everything worked out in her favor. The week after Christmas I was talking to her on the phone one night and then all of a sudden she mentioned she couldn't do this anymore. So I went over to her place so we could talk about it. I am not going to lie I was pretty upset driving over there. Once I got there we talked about what was going on. She kept telling me things like: "it is and it isn't there", "she is confused", "she wanted space", "she cares about me", "sometimes when I tried to calm her down I made her feel uncomfortable", "she didn't know what she wanted". There was one moment when she compared me to her last boyfriend, which she apologized for doing so in advance. She basically told me I have everything except for "one thing". The "one thing" was the way of trying to help calm her down when she was stressed regarding the court stuff. We kept in touch a little after the break up. I wanted to respect her request for space. A week afterwards I gave her a call and asked her to see if she wanted to meet for coffee and talk about a few things. I mentioned to her that I wanted to work on things and let the past be the past. I told her I wanted to take things slow and see what happens. Her reply was "not right now while things are still fresh" and "maybe later on". Of course I didn't want to hear that but it was cool. After that I didn't really talk to her much. We sent a couple of texts here and there. Her and her son went out of town during the MLK weekend. I bought her a flower and placed it on her doorstep so she could see it when she got back. I had a little note just saying hello and hope they had a great time. She texted me saying thanks. A couple of days later I received a call about a job interview in DC on Jan 27th. I texted her about the interview since she was very supportive about my career goals. She was really happy for me and before I ended the conversation I asked her if she wanted to try to get together over the weekend. She replied "possibly" in a very enthusatic tone. When I called her on Friday to set up a time I got her voicemail. I never received a call or text back from her about meeting up. I went to the interview and once I got back I sent her a quick text letting her know that everything went well. I probably shouldn't have done that but I just wanted to let her know. I ended up not getting the job in DC and I believe she knows that from talking to her sister. Now am I to assume that she since I haven't heard any response from her in a while to just move on or should I try to find ways (not in a stalkerish/creepy way) to show her that I am still here and willing to give it another shot. Sorry about the post being a little long. I appreciate the advice. Thanks.
GrayClouds Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Go NC she can not miss you if she knows your always there. And if she is talking space likely she has eyes on some else.
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