bazza Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 im sorry its so long but people that can help or think they can pleaseeeee read through it thanks so muchh So we've been going out for 5 and half months and valentines is coming up and like we've been really good so far until about our 5 months. We went on out 5 months and like she told me that she could stay until 10 30 then her mum called her and she told her she'll be home at 10 and then im like didnt you say 10 30 and shes like oh nah gotta get home tonight and then i was wondering why though and then i remembered her show was on at 10 30 (gossipgirl) so i asked her and she smiled and turned away and didnt even deny it and then im like okay lets go we're going and then we had an argument over that and how i thought she'd actually spend time watching tv rather than spend time with she kept sayin how could i even think of that. Then the second argument about two weeks ago, we went to a party and we both got drunk and stuff and like it was her first time and even though i was kinda out of it i took care of her the whole night wiping away her vomit, took her toilet, kept makin her drink water. Then i was kinda feeling crap the next morning after waking up and she had already got up in the morning and i went downstairs and like she didnt approach me once asking me if i was feeling okay in the morning just spending time with the other people there and then she even asked one of her guy mates if he was okay and didnt even ask me and i felt like **** after taking care of the whole night she couldnt ask me if i was feeling okay so i was liek to everyone hey im going said my goodbyes and then i just stormed out and she came after me askin wot happened and i explained to her what i felt like and she was just like oh so u taking care of me is liek a favour huh? and im like no like it wouldve nice if u couldve asked me what i felt like. and shes like oh so u want something in return and at the time i was like no but more i thought about it, then yea i would want something in return which would be her to fulfil her responsibility as a girlfriend. so then two days ago she called me up and we both had the tv blasting in the background but i hadnt talked to her for the whole day coz she had school work and i moved to a different room to talk to her whereas she stayed in the same spot in front of the tv and like it felt like i was talking to myself at some points. so i was just like hey im gonna go after talking for a bit and then yesterday i brought it up and told her and she just blew it out of proportion shes like oh u have problem with everythign i do how come u cant let me watch tv and i told her that i wanted all of her when i talk to her and not half of her and she kept saying that shes never had a problem with me and im like as if u havent and shes like ye i dont and then the argument kept going and then im like okay dw ill forget about it and shes like do whatever u want and i got upset coz it felt like it was a one way thing and not two way thing so i was like fine i will coz this isnt a two way F***king thing and hung up and then she txtd back saying dont wanna see someone that has a problem with me watching tv and makes a big issue out of it and like dont bother coming and im like fine. and shes like i think we need a break for a bit from eachother and im like ....:( so i called her back and we both got really upset and teary and **** and like bloody hell i explained to her the promises we made to eachother and how breaks done lead to anything good and like the first two arguments we had she was sure of it that i was going to say we need to go on a break and now here SHE goes and says it isnt that bit hypocritical of her. And like she agreed to not go on a break and she was apologising and stuff and like srsly i feel like crap right now because last week i opened myself upto her and rarely do guys do that and tell the girl how the feelings towards them have changed and become even more greater and i asked her over and over again did it freak yu out at all me telling u how i felt and shes like no and she admitted last night she feels intimitated and insecure that ill use this against her and that ill say something like oh i always loved u more than u ever loved me and as if i would and like she keeps saying that whatever shes going to do for me is never going to be enough and i asked her if she wants me to slow it down and bring it down to the same level as her and i think this was one of the contributing factors to why she wanted to go on a break and like im so confused with my feelings im feeling a hundred things at once i love her so much and as if she just told me she wants to go on a break and like i convinced her not to but im seeing her tomorow does anyone have any suggestions as to what i can tell her to never suggest a break again. And people can you please tell me if i was right or wrong in some of the arguments . thanksss
GrayClouds Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I suggest you use paragraphs and be a bit more brief. Begging, pleading, even being logical will not be helpful. The more you try close the space between you two the more you push her away, it will feel liek smothering to her. It sounds counter intuitive and be very difficult, but the best thing you can do is to let her decide what she wants, go NC I suggest you read the following and do everything it says: So you want a second chance? It is your best chance. Good Luck.
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