LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Simple question and this is the place for great advice... I have been NC with my Ex, since she left bout 3 weeks ago or so, packed her S**t up and left it on my porch for her to pick up, I want to continue to stay NC, but the black cloud follows me.. I found another box of her S**t downstairs, it has pictures of her kids and other things that belong to them, do I txt her to tell her to pick her stuff up (breaks NC), it will be on my porch or do I just drop it off, in which I really didn't want to do either.......cuz it looks like im catering to her, as I have the past 3 times she left me... Not sure if she even knows its missing, but seeing as I packed everything for her, not saying she left this behind intentionally, my mistake, I didn't see it... Thanks LiL
Author LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 don't do anything Just let her contact me Alpha?
Author LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 indeed LIL Thanks Alpha, guess if she does I have to break NC then huh? lol LiL
twinklecat Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I agree with GC on this one, have a friend take the stuff over to her.
Author LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Have a friend arrange to take it to her. Guess that works to.....was very determined not to cater to her, but I think if after awhile if she hasn't asked about it, I will take both advice, from You and Alpha... Wait awhile, if nothing, then have a friend take it... Arrrrrrrrrrrg sometimes the simple questions are the hardest... lol LiL
skydiveaddict Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 don't do anything I disagree. having that stuff around will only continue to make you think of her. Take the stuff over to her house ane leave it in front of her door. Don't think of it as 'catering to her", just think of it as garbage that doesnt belong to you. Just make sure you do it when you know she won't be there.
skydiveaddict Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Have a friend arrange to take it to her. Excellent idea also
Author LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 I disagree. having that stuff around will only continue to make you think of her. Take the stuff over to her house ane leave it in front of her door. Don't think of it as 'catering to her", just think of it as garbage that doesnt belong to you. Just make sure you do it when you know she won't be there. Never looked at it as that, guess late at night maybe my best time to have someone do it... Thank You LiL
skydiveaddict Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Never looked at it as that, guess late at night maybe my best time to have someone do it... Thank You LiL well if you're gonna have someone else do it, than it doesn't matter if they see her or not. Anytime would be ok then. I'm just saying if you're gonna take the stuff there yourself, it's best done when you know she won't be there. good luck my friend
Author LostInLimbo Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 well if you're gonna have someone else do it, than it doesn't matter if they see her or not. Anytime would be ok then. I'm just saying if you're gonna take the stuff there yourself, it's best done when you know she won't be there. good luck my friend Thanks Sky, already arranged from a friend who will do it after he works, thats Midnight LiL
skydiveaddict Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Thanks Sky, already arranged from a friend who will do it after he works, thats Midnight LiL Nice! Problem solved! Good luck to ya!
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