conehead Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Ok or not? What about IM? Is it ok for the guy to ask a girl out via IM or is that the same as text messaging?
Lakeside_runner Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 If you have her phone number - why can't you call her???
Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Nowadays e-mail is ok, but not IM or text messaging. This is according to The Rules.
Author conehead Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 To clarify, I'm the girl. I'm asking because a guy just asked me out via text message...for Valentine's Day of all things . I've only gone out with him twice.
Double Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Ok or not? What about IM? Is it ok for the guy to ask a girl out via IM or is that the same as text messaging? Personally, I will not accept "dates" that are offered via IM or text. It's lazy, , sophomoric, craven and rude, IMO. But, to answer your question, if the girl is OK with that, and accepts it, then yes, it's OK. If she doesn't, then no, it's not OK.
DustySaltus Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Texting is ok for situations where you can't answer the phone. As far asasking for a date via text message, it's weak. But I think because he's gone out with you twice, he may be getting more comfortable.
alphamale Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 as long as she coughed up her cell # it is ok
meerkat stew Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 It's not standard, but not some giant misdeed either. If he got real busy and realized it's less than a week til V-day, he may have panicked and just fired off a text. Has he asked you out via text before? If so, decide if that's a deal-killer for you, if not, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt that it was rushed. If you don't want to go with him, ignore the text, if you do, text back "call me."
Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Rules say don't respond to the text. If he really wants to go he'll call. If you have gotten into a texting habit with him this might not work, but at least wait a good while before you text him back, and the Rules would probably suggest that you decline
alphamale Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Rules say don't respond to the text. If he really wants to go he'll call. If you have gotten into a texting habit with him this might not work, but at least wait a good while before you text him back, and the Rules would probably suggest that you decline who cares about the "rules"
counterman Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 What you said is contrary to your username, Rulebreaker Actually, you never said to follow them LOL
meerkat stew Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 It's nice that you are on here fairly obviously promoting a blog. Before you get banned and deleted, would just like to offer that my estimation of The Rules is that they are a crutch for women who refuse to put in the effort to make themselves genuinely attractive to men, and only result in landing a weak, low value man anyway. So in essence, The Rules is really the equivalent of a matchmaking service for losers.
Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 It's nice that you are on here fairly obviously promoting a blog. Before you get banned and deleted, would just like to offer that my estimation of The Rules is that they are a crutch for women who refuse to put in the effort to make themselves genuinely attractive to men, and only result in landing a weak, low value man anyway. So in essence, The Rules is really the equivalent of a matchmaking service for losers. Why would I get banned? I'm promoting my blog in case it is useful or interesting to anyone, but I'm also trying to put in constructive input based on my own experiences...
St. Nick Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 It's best if the dude asks her out face to face. I never text. I don't see what's the point of it unless yer a teenage girl.
engravefeelthevoid Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 well to me i prefer doing it face to face....but if that's not possible telephone....atleast the first 4-5 dates should be this way....IM or text totally sucks the romance !
tami-chan Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Texting is just another form of communication(and it is an acceptable form nowadays) so that would not be a dealbreaker. I am a texting fiend, so I am partial.... I would, however, send him a text response and say "sure, I would love to, please call for details".
sally4sara Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 It may be a bit old fashioned of me, and also due to thinking texting beyond small bits of info or yes/no questions is for 14 year old kids, but I wouldn't take an invitations to go out seriously via text. I'd treat it like "but I want to still be friends" or "we should do lunch". Unless the guy contacted me further to nail down a time and location, it would just be idle chatter.
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