Vishnu Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I work with her, which I know is a bad idea but I just don't care. I find her very attractive and interesting. I want to ask her out, but I'm not sure if I should. I'm not sure if she's interested in me. I think she might be, but she's sending me these horrible mixed messages! Whenever I initiate conversation with her, her body language tells me she's interested. She talks to me with a tone in her voice like she would like nothing more then to talk with me forever. She can get really close to me. As close as one can get without actually kissing and hold eye contact for the longest time as if she really wants me to, right there in front of everyone. Her voice and her body tells me to move in... but then again... We never talked to each other at length (10 minutes or more) until recently. I started things off last Friday by mentioning a video project I'm working on and if she would be interested in helping me with it. She said she wasn't a professional, but she could assist me and we could talk about her work-rate. I said that would be great, and I would talk to her about in greater detail on Monday. So this Monday comes around, and when i went up to say "Hi" to her she seemed strange. She looked really blushed and red and gave a quick "hello" as I walked by. Then, for the first time ever she wasn't at her desk for hours. This woman sits at her desk all day long, everyday, minus lunch. A few hours later I caught her out of the corner of my eye across the office, and she saw me, but sure enough when I went over to her desk she was still gone. I swear, it was like she was avoiding me. Finally, hours later I noticed she had returned and went up to her. She did this thing where I said hello, but she took several moments to actually turn her head from her computer screen and respond. As if she didn't notice me there. We talked about the video and she said she wanted $50/hour. Ouch. She isn't even a professional editor. I just don't understand. I'm of the impression now that she's just one of those "flirty" girls. I assume that the $50 an hour to spend time with me is her way of telling me to "back off." I could be wrong. Maybe she'd rather just go out on a date instead of working on a computer with me, but who knows? I'm beating myself up over this beautiful woman. Any thoughts? Please?
1013 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Hmmmm. It is entirely possible that this girl is a chronic flirt. But, on the other hand she may be attracted to you. Bringing money into the issue sounds a little suspicious. She may be in some kind of financial difficulty, and may see that you could possibly be a bit of a soft touch, as if you are attracted to her you must be giving her signals. It is also possible that the money issue is a way of having you back off. But, as always with wrok flirtations, there is WAY more going on behind the scenes than you know about. My advice is to back off entirely. If she is interested in you she will attempt to rekindle the rapport, and if she does, I suggest treating it in an off-hand and friendly fashion, and if the signals are still there, ask her would she like to do something with you outside work, something fun. And if not, so what, you've lost nothing. Best of luck my friend!
Author Vishnu Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Thanks for the insight! I agree with you. I'm thinking about asking her to lunch today, just to see what her reaction might be. What did you mean by "WAY more going on behind the scenes?" I totally agree with the money thing being her passive way of trying to get me to back off. Ouch... rejection hurts.
1013 Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Vishnu, What I mean about stuff goin on behind the scenes... People in a work environment are very rarely the people that they are in real life. People generally don't discuss their relationship/family/financial statuses. You really don't know WHAT is going on with this girl. Ask her to lunch by all means, but I would leave it a couple of weeks. Don't be too full-on! Girlys hate that...
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