Rulebreaker Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Hi, I'm 29/F, new to these forums but I'm doing an experiment where I follow the Rules (book by Fein & Schneider) for 6 months and write about it in a blog. Part of the reason I'm doing this is because I don't think it will work - but I'm open minded. Wondering if any women here have tried the Rules, and what was your experience?
Barky Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I'm a dude but I used to read the online rules boards, know the rules by heart. Can't wait to read your blog.
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 I couldn't find any online rules boards when I was looking - do you have the link? My blog link is in the signature below, and your comments are greatly appreciated! It's a bit boring right now because I haven't really been asked out yet... started the blog a few weeks ago.
melodymatters Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Search our archives, this subject has been done to death here. No offense, but you are hardly breaking any new ground with this one.
Barky Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I couldn't find any online rules boards when I was looking - do you have the link? http://wc4.worldcrossing.com/WebX?1@@.ef1d0e5 You need to register to read but it's free. I've been reading rules stuff for 10 years. As a man, I do it mainly to know what to avoid, but I think it may work if the woman is attractive and meets lots of different men every month. Since it's mainly a screening method, if you're not meeting lots of men you'll screen out the few you do meet very quickly. I don't think it will change the behavior of men who otherwise would be screened out by the Rules, but YMMV.
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Hm, wonder why. Anyway, here it is: http://sixmonthsofrules.blogspot.com
Barky Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Search our archives, this subject has been done to death here. No offense, but you are hardly breaking any new ground with this one. Don't listen to her. Do what you want. I can be a personal journey for you. The rules boards are often down, so go here for status updates: http://twitter.com/RulesGirls
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Search our archives, this subject has been done to death here. No offense, but you are hardly breaking any new ground with this one. I figured this subject would be nothing new, but I thought people might be willing to share or revive a discussion. Has anyone here done a blog about it, and if so, can I have the link?
Barky Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 I figured this subject would be nothing new, but I thought people might be willing to share or revive a discussion. Has anyone here done a blog about it, and if so, can I have the link? There are a lot of haters here. Forget them.
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 There are a lot of haters here. Forget them. One question I have is, do the Rules work better for some personality types than others? I find my personality ill-suited to the Rules, so I'm curious if quirky, down-to-earth girls like me have applied them successfully.
Barky Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Excellent question. Quite honestly, in the many years I lurked the rules forum, I had a hard time finding anybody who applied them successfully. But I think that's because the women just didn't meet enough men. Most men are going to be weeded out by the rules, especially these days. So you need to be relentless in constantly, constantly meeting men in new and varied situations. Eventually one will jump through all the hoops that the rules require and there you go, he's "the one." But you need big numbers for that to happen.
melodymatters Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Hey Rulebreaker ! I'm hardly a "hater" lol, we just often get requests to help people write books or do research studies or the like, and that can feel a bit ...cold, or intrusive on a forum where we are supposed to be helping each other. Having said that, I spent the last 15 minutes reading your blog ( which I bet Barky, a newbie with mysoginist tendencies from what I've seen, hasn't bothered to do:p) And I really enjoyed it ! Got a big laugh out of the circling the room but not like Rainman line !!! As a quirkey chick myself, I would say this is a case of keeping what works and tossing out the rest. It DOES seem to work best of the man does the pursuing, but I think we can strike up whatever conversations we wish ( and then let them ask for the date) E-mail back whenever we wish, using as many damn exclamation points as we wish, with out coming off as saloon whores ! I think the key is listening between the lines,( I know that doesn't make sense per se) and picking up the cues from our fellow human beings as to where they are in their life and specifically in their attraction to US. BTW, I am widowed from a happy marriage that started when I gave him my business card. I never knew that was " against the rules!" I will bookmark your blog, but may I make a suggestion ? As was already stated, the "trying the rules and writing about it" has been overdone, so make it more specific to your situation : ie, as a jewish girl, or as somone trying to navigate the book 15 yrs ( or however old it is) later ! Good luck !
Barky Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 As was already stated, the "trying the rules and writing about it" has been overdone, so make it more specific to your situation : ie, as a jewish girl, or as somone trying to navigate the book 15 yrs ( or however old it is) later ! Well that would be great advice if she were writing a book or something. But I got the sense that she was doing this more for herself. If so, she doesn't need to "angle" her blog to a "market niche." She should just write about what interests her.
melodymatters Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 Well that would be great advice if she were writing a book or something. But I got the sense that she was doing this more for herself. If so, she doesn't need to "angle" her blog to a "market niche." She should just write about what interests her. Actually, you are quite right ! I guess I don't see the point of blogs if they aren't meant to attract a larger number of people. Wouldn't that then be called a diary or journal ? I really enjoyed her sense of humour BTW !
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 Actually, you are quite right ! I guess I don't see the point of blogs if they aren't meant to attract a larger number of people. Wouldn't that then be called a diary or journal ? I really enjoyed her sense of humour BTW ! Thanks for the compliments And I totally understand that random newbies coming in here and asking for something isn't that appealing, but I'm hoping to contribute as well in other threads and help others out if I can! I am trying to attract more readers, but I'm not really sure how to publicize it. I have never seen a Rules blog so I thought that might be enough to attract attention, but it hasn't attracted that much so far. I'll check out the Rules forums as soon as their server gets back up, any other suggestions for publicizing?
Barky Posted February 9, 2010 Posted February 9, 2010 I am trying to attract more readers, but I'm not really sure how to publicize it. Well melodymatters you were right!
Author Rulebreaker Posted February 9, 2010 Author Posted February 9, 2010 You were right too I am doing this for myself, but it helps keep me motivated when I have people reading and commenting, making it more of a discussion than just me pontificating.
Barky Posted February 10, 2010 Posted February 10, 2010 Main problem I have with The Rules is that it makes blanket statements about "all men like [whatever]," "men hate it when women [do such and such]." And any time a theory requires a high percentage of people to be the same, it's a flawed theory. For example, I LOOOVE women with short hair. I think it's sporty and sexy and only a woman with a cute face can pull it off. But TR says that "all" men like long hair. Totally not true. "All" men are "designed" to pursue women. Not true. So these axiomatic concepts that underpin the entire Rules theory are flawed, which makes the whole system as secure as a tower built on sand.
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