sullysteve Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Hey everyone, I'm new here and would like your thoughts on something. Backstory - I went out on a second date with a girl and blew it. I didn't insult her or make a jackass out of myself or anything like that, but I think I failed to create a connection and spark attraction (I was exhausted). It didn't help that I followed up with an awkward voicemail message a few days later asking her out again. Suffice to say, I was having a bad week I think I'm dead in the water with this girl, but my question is this: can you recover from a bad date? I'm interested to hear your thoughts and experiences. Cheers.
Lakeside_runner Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 It depends on the DETAILS... (hint hint)
Author sullysteve Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Okay, what other details do you mean?
Lakeside_runner Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Why do you think you blew it? If you threw up on her... no there is no way to recover from that... If you were just tired after a bad week it may be okay depending on how interested she is. Also, it depends what you left on her VM etc. It's hard to give you an answer based on "I blew the second date. I left and awkward message on her VM. Do I still have a chance?"
alphamale Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 can you recover from a bad date? no, no not really
Author sullysteve Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 The question was more of a general one. I was mostly interested in hearing other people's experiences where they may have had a bad date and then bounced back from it. I'm not asking if I have a chance because I already know: she hasn't called back. But if hey, you're interested, the reason I think I blew it is because I failed to create a connection. I was tired and it was loud so it was very hard to talk. In the end, I probably came across as uninterested, uninteresting or both. As for the VM, let's not dissect my all my failures Basically, I was nervous and it showed.
D-Lish Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 After a bad date in the initial stages, I will rarely try again. My track record has been, I go out with them once, and then don't feel like going out with them again- or I date them for 3 months and beyond.
DustySaltus Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Hey, i'm sure the vm wasn't as bad as this guy We all make mistakes when dating. The key is to refine your approach through trial and error until you find something that works for you.
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