terrifiedlover Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Found this sight probably way to late but I'm impressed by the honesty that gets laid out here. Me, mid 40's, her same, her 3rd marriage, my 2nd. Love at first sight, etc...she had 2 kids by seperate marriages I had one by mine. Things were pretty good, in five years we had built a tremendous life, I built us a beautiful home and bought into a dream she had a built and built an awesome business. In late March she went to see her nurse practitioner and for still unknown reasons she put her on 160mg per day of Prozac(2 times the highest maximum). Yes it was a mistake. Around April 10th her whole demeanor changed, she became apathetic, emotionless and her libido fell to the floor. On April 22nd she came into my office and told me she wanted a divorce for all sorts of reasons, it was bizarre...i barely even recognized her. Understand I knew nothing of the Prozac. I gave in and my son and I moved out...over the last six months it s been a hellish rollercoaster as she has gone thru tremendous changes. I found out about the Prozac in late May and forced her nurse to talk to me, she immediately called her in and changed her scrip which proved disasterous. I feel soooo sorry for her, but I have never been able to convince her that the drug could have started this all. I'm no saint.....3 years ago I had a short affair that hurt EVERYONE in my family terribly and I will always regret it. BUT we had overcome it even as late as Feb we had planned a trip to re-affirm our vows. Our divorce was final on Thursday, but we still have to work together for at least awhile. She says she still loves me and in many ways I still love her, but its tough and obviously NC won't work. Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation and can suggest how to try and at least work side by side? Thank you in advance Found this sight probably way to late but I'm impressed by the honesty that gets laid out here. Me, mid 40's, her same, her 3rd marriage, my 2nd. Love at first sight, etc...she had 2 kids by seperate marriages I had one by mine. Things were pretty good, in five years we had built a tremendous life, I built us a beautiful home and bought into a dream she had a built and built an awesome business. In late March she went to see her nurse practitioner and for still unknown reasons she put her on 160mg per day of Prozac(2 times the highest maximum). Yes it was a mistake. Around April 10th her whole demeanor changed, she became apathetic, emotionless and her libido fell to the floor. On April 22nd she came into my office and told me she wanted a divorce for all sorts of reasons, it was bizarre...i barely even recognized her. Understand I knew nothing of the Prozac. I gave in and my son and I moved out...over the last six months it s been a hellish rollercoaster as she has gone thru tremendous changes. I found out about the Prozac in late May and forced her nurse to talk to me, she immediately called her in and changed her scrip which proved disasterous. I feel soooo sorry for her, but I have never been able to convince her that the drug could have started this all. I'm no saint.....3 years ago I had a short affair that hurt EVERYONE in my family terribly and I will always regret it. BUT we had overcome it even as late as Feb we had planned a trip to re-affirm our vows. Our divorce was final on Thursday, but we still have to work together for at least awhile. She says she still loves me and in many ways I still love her, but its tough and obviously NC won't work. Has anyone ever been in this kind of situation and can suggest how to try and at least work side by side? Thank you in advance My husband and I divorced two months ago. He was persistent the entire time of our seperation (9 months) wanting to get back together. He woulkd do kind things like mow my lawn, bring me soda and chocolates, etc. We own and run a business together so we were forced into each others space. I tried to discourage him, numerous times....even getting hateful with him and totally hurting his feelings. I admit I was brutal, not because i wanted to hurt him, but because he would not get the idea that we were no longer together. I did not ENCOURAGE him at all ! I hated to be hateful because then we had to work together in a sucky atmosphere. But, that often was the case. Now, December rolls around, our divorce is final and he continues to do these nice things. I am appreciative, but just hate to given him hope. Then, it happened, we had a long long talk...he said many of the things I needed to hear to consider staying togther....or getting back together. So...we have agreed to go to marriage counseling and start slow....that brings me to my question... Do you think he is sincere? Do you think one is capable of stopping the continuous lies? Can he be faithful again? Ahhh...but one more clincher. During our seperation he started dating within less than one month...I don;t blame him. But if he really wanted me and was workiing so hard at getting me.....isn;t that contradictory ? And not only that...he started dating within the month...and is still dating her...even after our long long talks and semi-reconsilliation,.and within his dating time with her....he started screwing around with another. Is he still the player i've always thought him to be? I am jealous of his new girl friends...but don;t blame him for them at all. I dated a bit too. But he is still seeing both of them despite our two weeks back on.....\ am I wrong to let this bother me ?
Author terrifiedlover Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 sorry...his orignal posts got put on there twice....and my post is below. And by the way....his comments about my depression med use....was way exaggerated., No problem, he was hurt....peeves me a bit...but not something to dwell on. And no, it was never nor has it ever been a propblem...and I have always had the correct dosage as per my doc. NEver abused it,.,,.,it's not a mood altering one anyway,.
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