unravelingmess Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months and long distance. I love talking to him on the phone. I love how we can always talk about anything and feel comfortable to say anything. Mind you, although this is my first relationship, I know that I do not love him as of the moment. Why break off a good thing you may ask? Because we are different in terms of our future plans. I plan on going to a high ranked college to earn my BA and get a good paying job, then marry etc. He's 23 and hardly anywhere near finishing community college to get his Associate's Degree. It's not really his fault....he just can't pay for it, nor will he be able to in a really long while... What I'm saying is that, how can I break up with him? the only thing keeping me from doing so knowing how painful it will be. Also, whenever we talk, I am reminded why I'm in the relationship in the first place—just how much I love talking to him. He told me he hasn't had anything to look forward to except getting married(to me ). The only reason he even has a new interest in getting a degree is because I made it a mandatory thing. I've never broken up with someone before and I really need some support for this. Please.
USMCHokie Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 What I'm saying is that, how can I break up with him? Say the following words to him: "I don't want to be in this relationship anymore." Or: "I want to break up with you." It's really that simple. Yes, you'll feel sad and guilty for doing it, but trust me, in the long run it's the way to go. Don't drag this relationship out longer than it needs to be, and don't feed him a BS line...be straight with him. The only reason he even has a new interest in getting a degree is because I made it a mandatory thing. This is a huge red flag. If he has no ambitions for himself and relies on others to motivate him, he doesn't sound like a very promising life partner...
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