valentinas Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Tomorrow will be one week that he told me we shouldn't see each other anymore. The relationship lasted just under 3 months, but it was a whirlwind. I wanted to take it slow, and from the things he was saying, that he loved his independence, I thought he did too. But starting right after our first date, he wanted to spend A LOT of time with me. Like, all the time. In fact two days later he told me he wanted to go away on a trip with me the following weekend (I politely declined). We'd see each other every day at the lunch hour, and every Friday night, plus another night of the week as well. That right there was pretty much all the spare time I could comfortably give up, but it wasn't enough for him. I guess it doesn't help that he doesn't have any friends or hobbies. Anyway, that's why he wanted to end it. I thought I'd be relieved, but the heartache has been immense, and for the life of me I can't figure out why. Our relationship had plenty of drama in it, and we had our differences, probably due to our 18 year age gap. And there were also a number of red flags indicating he was bad news, such as being 49 and still living with family, and never having had a long term relationship - the all ended at around, you guessed it, 3 months or so. He was also really evasive about past relationships and he'd get mad if I asked - he said he wasn't interested in being psychoanalyzed . Mind you I wasn't asking for details. Anyone know what he could have been trying to hide, if anything? I should be saying good riddance, but instead it hurts so much! I just don't get it. Well thans for taking the time to read this, it helps to get it all out. I hope one of you nice people gives me some feedback and advice...
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