dreamer122 Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 last year a close family member told me of a situation that happened about 25 yrs ago when she came to my house to visit me and my wife we were married inly a few months and was at my door kocking and calling to my wife to open th door it was freezing outside. my wife did not answer it i came home 15 min later my sister was still knocking when i put the key in the lock i heard my wife run to the door she opened it and looked embarressed nervious and her cloths were a mess i didnt notice becaus i had bee in a stakeout for 36 hrs mind i was dead tired a week late the guy that was in my house and was distantly related to my wife and grew up with her knocks on the door and my wife said to me "dont open the door he is always here and doesent give us privacy" well i have approach my wife she denies it but even before i was toldd something in the back of my mind knew something was worng she wants to take a lie detector test but i am tired we have had a rough marriage constant fighting i ony stayed with he because of our 2 kids but i dont love her as a matter of fact my oldest told me once how do i take it with her nagging arguing we never had a good sex life she thinks its dirty and she never lets me touch her i told her i want out . should i give her the test she says she didn't cheat or there is so much more worng with our relationship that i should walk away
Gabriele Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Boy, you need to use some punctuation!!! that was hard to read.....not sure I really understood it. A lie detector.....why not? Sounds like something was not quite right. I am wondering why this has come up now, after soooo long. Has there been any marriage problems along the way since then?
Author dreamer122 Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 sorry with my writing:). But to answer your question, my marriage has been very bad she has never showed any affection to me. When I want to have sex with her she always fights and curses never lets me touch her. After i approach her she is more willing to have a sexual relationship with me. But it feel like if she is trying to mele me forget about it. I never treated her bad gave her everthing she wanted. never cheated on her believe me i had chances. i not bad looking i am over six feet her own family tells her they cant believe that she married someone like me. I dont womanize,gambel or drink> I am an ex police officer who got hurt in the line of duty when i got hurt she told my captain that she didnt need to go to the hosipital i was going to b ok. the captain kept telling her i think u need to come she wouldnt go. if some one in her famally has a stomach ache she wants to go but not for me or her kids.
Author dreamer122 Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 sorry with my writing:). But to answer your question, my marriage has been very bad she has never showed any affection to me. When I want to have sex with her she always fights and curses never lets me touch her. After i approach her she is more willing to have a sexual relationship with me. But it feel like if she is trying to mele me forget about it. I never treated her bad gave her everthing she wanted. never cheated on her believe me i had chances. i not bad looking i am over six feet her own family tells her they cant believe that she married someone like me. I dont womanize,gambel or drink> I am an ex police officer who got hurt in the line of duty when i got hurt she told my captain that she didnt need to go to the hosipital i was going to b ok. the captain kept telling her i think u need to come she wouldnt go. if some one in her famally has a stomach ache she wants to go but not for me or her kids. i ment since i told her what i she did
Bryanp Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 She is willing to take a polygraph test so why not? Are you looking for a reason to leave her? Clearly this is bothering you and she is willing so why not have it done.
Author dreamer122 Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 i just want to clear the air. I want to know either way, If she is tell the truth i will try and work it out but i have to know the truth if this happend so early in our marriage what else has she done and then i will leave her it doesnt matter if i would have notice it when it happended or now. before we married we both, agreed that if i was unfaitful or he we would leave each other she was the love of my life but i wont continue this relationship on lies
Dexter Morgan Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 She is willing to take a polygraph test so why not? Are you looking for a reason to leave her? Clearly this is bothering you and she is willing so why not have it done. I agree. get the poly done. she more than likely cheated, the poly will indicate she is lying and she will say the poly isn't right and deny the results...blah blah blah..yadda yadda. problem is, it was 25 years ago, you going to leave her now for that? I know, its a tough call. Staying with someone that cheated on you that long ago, and now you are numb to her. but if she cheated that early, she more than likely cheated multiple times during the marriage. so if she takes a poly, not only ask her if she cheated 25 years ago, but also have it asked of her if she cheated at any other time during the marriage, and, for example, if she has cheated in the last 10 years. but don't tell her you are going to ask those questions, let her think the only questions you will ask is of 25 years ago.
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