True2form Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Whenever I meet a man who is intellectually interesting/challenging enough to pin me down (I often refer to relationships in the style of Dylan Moran "and the cage comes down!") they seem to hit a life crisis. Completely unrelated to me, but obviously completely rips them away from any thoughts nearing relationship status. It's a little bit astounding. It makes me feel like I'm cursed and although I know you can't blame things as simple as coincidence it seems cruel to have someone dangled in front of me only to be ripped away by financial or emotional circumstance. I am financially secure I will just add for the record. Things ended with my last long term bf because a financial black-hole hovered over our relationship, which started destroying who he was through the stress and finally ended in him trying to borrow money from me. Recently met a guy with whom the chemistry is great, but surprise surprise has hit a huge financial snag which is throwing his emotional life into chaos. He is verging on homeless and might have to return home back up north, it's made him impossible to invite out as the mood-swings are unpredictable yet he still talks to me at every opportunity which makes it hard for me to let things go until I know he's in a better place.
Green Posted February 8, 2010 Posted February 8, 2010 Not a fun thing to have happen. It doesn't mean you guys have to break up. Even if you do break up, you will meet someone that breaks curse. Obviously things are going to happen in a persons life but if you have cemented the relationship you can go through it togather.
Author True2form Posted February 8, 2010 Author Posted February 8, 2010 Hey thanks Green, your words are comforting but the relationship isn't cemented. That's what's distressing me so much, when things were fine it was so easy to play it very casually and be happy just to let things happen slowly, now he's in such huge emotional turmoil it's hard to gauge what's he thinking and feeling and I've started to distrust him as I can sense he doesn't know who he is at the moment. This saddens me so much as when he's in a good place he's incredible. In a bad place I think I'm forced to leave him alone and it's just such a frustrating fact to come to terms with.
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